Love Your Child More Than You Hate Your Ex

Life does not end at divorce. As you begin to pick up the pieces and work to move on with your life, it can be easy to forget that your children are going through everything you are. They need to be shown that they are not losing their parents, and that they are still loved. How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex will show you how to rise above your own hardships, and keep your focus on all the wonderful things still in your life, starting with the most important—your children. Covering topics from child support to sharing custody, to dealing with teenagers and new romances (for you and your ex) How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex is a valuable resource and a much-needed comfort during what can be the most difficult and trying experience of your life. Written in the voice of a caring friend offering helpful advice and the occasional bit of tough love, How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex contains both the information and the support you need to keep your mind off your divorce and onto your children. A guide to surviving divorce and separation by growing stronger as a family, parents and children both will benefit from the simple wisdom and heartfelt strength contained in this touching little book. How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex also includes: * Inspirational quotes and words of wisdom * Moving poetry on love and loss * Tips on how to speak to your children after a divorce, what boundaries to set for your ex, and much more Fun, informative and freeing, How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex is a guide for parents who are looking for answers after divorce, both for them and for their children. Seeking to help deal with the difficult emotional process of divorce and establish the priority of loving their children, How to Love Your Kids More Than You Hate Your Ex is more than a book—it’s a way forward. From the Hardcover edition.

Hate your ex but love your kids? If so, this much-needed guide offers practical tips and strategies to help you manage intense emotions, deal with shame and blame, and create a peaceful, loving environment for your children. Let’s face it—divorce is tough. In a high-conflict divorce, your ex may attempt to undermine your relationship with your children, blame you for the failed marriage, and be hostile toward you in general. Unfortunately, this negativity can affect your kids, too. You need to break the cycle of rage and conflict now, for their sake. This book can help. Loving Your Children More Than You Hate Each Other offers powerful skills based in dialectical behavior therapy (DBT) and values-based parenting to help you both take control of your emotions. You’ll get tools to help you identify cycles of conflict, as well as strategies for breaking these cycles before they get out of hand. You’ll also learn strategies to effectively communicate with one another and your children in a way that is healthy and productive. If you’re going through a high-conflict divorce, you need real tools to help you manage the pain and anger that can follow. This book will show you the skills you need to go from ex to co-parent, and start rebuilding your—and your child’s—life.

In this book the following topics are addressed: Why I wrote the book; How do we form our relationships; Why marriages fail; Why second marriages fail at a higher rate; How to foster a healthy union; What divorce looks like to the kid; A healthy divorce; Parenting through divorce; and Finding the right counselor. "A magnum opus is not made in a microwave; it is incubated and nurtured. This book is a synergy between Dr. Waldman's many other works. The heart and soul of this effort is to protect our most valuable natural resource (our children) from more needless damage. Thank you, Larry for the privilege of reading your manuscript." -Dr. Karl Riem, Psychologist (Retired). "Dr. Waldman's book on divorce is a guide on what to do and not to do when contemplating a divorce. Reading this book and following his guidance, could prevent parents from making mistakes that will impact their children's lives and future relationships in a negative manner. It will also assist parents in answering their children's questions and concerns, before and during a divorce in a constructive manner. I wish I had this information when I was on my divorce journey, it would have prevented a number of mistakes on my part." -Cary Silverstein, MBA Professor Emeritus, DeVry University / Keller Graduate School of Business. "Dr. Waldman's published articles fit very well within his exhortation that we consider our children and their well-being over our own selfish interests in situations of marital difficulty or divorce. Anyone who has worked as a child mental health provider has witnessed some of the scenarios he outlines in this book for us. I enjoyed the reading, and found the pace quick, and the material provocative." -Stephen D Bailey, Ed.D., Licensed Psychologist HSPP, Child/Geriatric Neuropsychologist. "This book is great and covers so many important issues. Every couple contemplating or in the middle of a divorce should carefully read each chapter for insight into avoiding mistakes and putting the children FIRST." -Linda Feldman, Director of Family Education Bureau of Jewish Education of Greater Phoenix

In this book the following topics are addressed: Why I wrote the book; How do we form our relationships; Why marriages fail; Why second marriages fail at a higher rate; How to foster a healthy union; What divorce looks like to the kid; A healthy divorce; Parenting through divorce; and Finding the right counselor. “A magnum opus is not made in a microwave; it is incubated and nurtured. This book is a synergy between Dr. Waldman’s many other works. The heart and soul of this effort is to protect our most valuable natural resource (our children) from more needless damage. Thank you, Larry for the privilege of reading your manuscript.” —Dr. Karl Riem, Psychologist (Retired) “Dr. Waldman’s book on divorce is a guide on what to do and not to do when contemplating a divorce. Reading this book and following his guidance, could prevent parents from making mistakes that will impact their children’s lives and future relationships in a negative manner. It will also assist parents in answering their children’s questions and concerns, before and during a divorce in a constructive manner. I wish I had this information when I was on my divorce journey, it would have prevented a number of mistakes on my part.” —Cary Silverstein, MBA Professor Emeritus, DeVry University / Keller Graduate School of Business “Dr. Waldman’s published articles fit very well within his exhortation that we consider our children and their well-being over our own selfish interests in situations of marital difficulty or divorce. Anyone who has worked as a child mental health provider has witnessed some of the scenarios he outlines in this book for us. I enjoyed the reading, and found the pace quick, and the material provocative.” —Stephen D Bailey, Ed.D., Licensed Psychologist HSPP, Child/Geriatric Neuropsychologist “This book is great and covers so many important issues. Every couple contemplating or in the middle of a divorce should carefully read each chapter for insight into avoiding mistakes and putting the children FIRST.” —Linda Feldman, Director of Family Education Bureau of Jewish Education of Greater Phoenix

Powerful advice for you and your ex-spouse on how to reduce conflict and protect your children's well-being by co-parenting You and your ex are struggling to be civil to each other. The conflicts could be damaging to your child. Dr. Farber, a clinical child psychologist on the clinical faculty of the George Washington University School of Medicine has been in practice for 30+ years; he knows what you're up against. He writes compassionately and insightfully about the concrete, doable steps you can take during and after divorce to still be the best mom or the best dad you can be. You don't have to like your ex, but to co-parent successfully you will still have to deal with your ex. Dr. Farber helps you navigate the upheaval with practical advice based on real families. His book shows you how to - Know what to say, and not to say, to your child about separation, divorce, and co-parenting - Cope with child support and other money issues - Handle the holidays, special family occasions, school sports, and religion - Introduce your child to a potential new partner - Co-parent when an ex has a personality disorder, addiction problem, or is a bully - Raise a healthy child while co-parenting Dr. Farber's expert analysis and counsel will show you how to use co-parenting to turn your broken marriage into a working divorce that supports the emotional and developmental health of you and your child.

Smile! It's not just the end of your marriage, it's the beginning of your second chance! Missy Benson has a two and a half carat diamond engagement ring with color grade H, VS2 clarity and a value of $36,000. It's absolutely gorgeous, practically flawless, and let's be honest, really big! But what the successful Chicago realtor doesn't have anymore is a husband. After 12 years of marriage, her husband, Paul, a handsome, wealthy attorney has devastated her by breaking up their marriage for Priscilla Sommerfeld, a young, personal trainer, who according to Missy's sassy assistant, J.J., looks more like a Las Vegas stripper than a fitness expert. Not sure what to do with her ring, and with no financial issues to worry about, Missy decides to put it up for sale on Craigslist. The price: 99 cents! The catch: She gets to pick the buyer. In essence, she's looking for the perfect guy, but not for herself. Her hope is to regain faith that good men do exist, and that marriages can last forever. Now referring to herself as "the divorced girl," Missy interviews dozens of young men who are vying for the huge ring. It's a contest that includes outrageous characters, hilarious and sentimental stories, and two finalists, both of whom Missy adores and who she must choose between. Then there's Parker Missoni, the sexiest contestant by far, who drives her crazy with his brutal honesty, and at the same time stops her heart with his deep brown eyes. Divorced Girl Smiling is the story of a woman's journey to do whatever it takes to heal herself from divorce. It's about acceptance, reflection, taking accountability for mistakes, and appreciating all of life's wonderful gifts. In other words, if you have the guts to put the past behind, admit your mistakes, embrace your future, and give love another chance, you will surely be a divorced girl smiling.

"Get this for your pregnant friends, or yourself" (People): a hilariously candid account of one woman's quest to bring her post-baby marriage back from the brink, with life-changing, real-world advice. Recommended by Nicole Cliffe in Slate Featured in People Picks A Red Tricycle Best Baby and Toddler Parenting Book of the Year One of Mother magazine's favorite parenting books of the Year How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids tackles the last taboo subject of parenthood: the startling, white-hot fury that new (and not-so-new) mothers often have for their mates. After Jancee Dunn had her baby, she found that she was doing virtually all the household chores, even though she and her husband worked equal hours. She asked herself: How did I become the 'expert' at changing a diaper? Many expectant parents spend weeks researching the best crib or safest car seat, but spend little if any time thinking about the titanic impact the baby will have on their marriage - and the way their marriage will affect their child. Enter Dunn, her well-meaning but blithely unhelpful husband, their daughter, and her boisterous extended family, who show us the ways in which outmoded family patterns and traditions thwart the overworked, overloaded parents of today. On the brink of marital Armageddon, Dunn plunges into the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the country's most renowned couples' and sex therapists, canvasses fellow parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an "explosive situation." Instead of having the same fights over and over, Dunn and her husband must figure out a way to resolve their larger issues and fix their family while there is still time. As they discover, adding a demanding new person to your relationship means you have to reevaluate -- and rebuild -- your marriage. In an exhilarating twist, they work together to save the day, happily returning to the kind of peaceful life they previously thought was the sole province of couples without children. Part memoir, part self-help book with actionable and achievable advice, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids is an eye-opening look at how the man who got you into this position in this first place is the ally you didn't know you had.

NATIONAL BESTSELLER • Soon to be a Hulu Original series • The internationally acclaimed author of Wild collects the best of The Rumpus's Dear Sugar advice columns plus never-before-published pieces. Rich with humor and insight—and absolute honesty—this "wise and compassionate" (New York Times Book Review) book is a balm for everything life throws our way. Life can be hard: your lover cheats on you; you lose a family member; you can’t pay the bills—and it can be great: you’ve had the hottest sex of your life; you get that plum job; you muster the courage to write your novel. Sugar—the once-anonymous online columnist at The Rumpus, now revealed as Cheryl Strayed, author of the bestselling memoir Wild—is the person thousands turn to for advice.