The 80 80 Marriage

NAMED ONE OF COSMOPOLITAN'S "15 BEST MARRIAGE BOOKS ALL COUPLES SHOULD READ." An accessible, transformative guide for couples seeking greater love, connection, and intimacy in our modern world Nate and Kaley Klemp were both successful in their careers, consulting for high-powered companies around the world. Their work as mindfulness and leadership experts, however, often fell to the wayside when they came home in the evening, only to end up fighting about fairness in their marriage. They believed in a model where each partner contributed equally and fairness ruled, but, in reality, they were finding that balance near impossible to achieve. From this frustration, they developed the idea of the 80/80 marriage, a new model for balancing career, family, and love. The 80/80 Marriage pushes couples beyond the limited idea of "fairness" toward a new model grounded on radical generosity and shared success, one that calls for each partner to contribute 80 percent to build the strongest possible relationship. Drawing from more than one hundred interviews with couples from all walks of life, stories from business and pop culture, scientific studies, and ancient philosophical insights, husband-and-wife team Nate and Kaley Klemp pinpoint exactly what's not working in modern marriage. Their 80/80 model of marriage provides practical, powerful solutions to transform your relationship and open up space for greater love and connection.

By spending only 15-minutes a week, a busy couple can gain deeper understanding of each other and learn practical new techniques to strengthen their relationship.

Marriage, for Equals: The Successful Joint (Ad)Ventures of Well-Educated Couples pulls back the curtain on a number of dangerously misleading messages promoted in the media and popular press that encourage us to commit to ticking-time-bomb relationships. In addition to revealing the telltale signs of doomed relationships, this book also describes a form of marriage that is highly successful and deeply rewarding to many of the smartest women in this generation. To profile these relationships, Marriage for Equals draws from a poll of more than 1200 women, mostly Harvard graduates and their equally capable friends, who are working to create truly equal partnerships. The end result is a guidebook to a marriage of equals that offers a blunt, bold, and refreshingly truthful approach about what it takes to create and sustain an exceptional partnership. "With a combination of research, clinical insight, and plain good sense, author Shauna Springer sorts out the state of romantic love today, bursting more than a few myths in the process. For anyone confused about intimate relationships, this book offers a clear, highly readable, and entertaining road map." -- Dr. Benjamin Karney, Professor of Psychology, UCLA "A fresh look at love and marriage, stripping away the fantasies and revealing the realities, this book should be read by every person who is (or hopes to be) in love and/or married. While grounded in research, the concepts are presented in common sense terms and are presented in a way that is both entertaining and enlightening. I wholeheartedly recommend it." -- Peggy Vaughan, Author and Host of DearPeggy.com "The best predictor of well-being is a healthy and happy relationship. By drawing on clinical experience and solid research, this wonderful book can help you realize your potential for well-being--and love." --Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, Author of Being Happy Shauna Springer, Ph.D., earned her undergraduate degree in English Literature from Harvard University and her doctoral degree in Counseling Psychology from the University of Florida. She has particular expertise in marital counseling, stressor effects on marriage, trauma recovery, and women's issues.

A book to challenge the status quo, spark a debate, and get people talking about the issues and questions we face as a country!

A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives. Good people can be bad at relationships. One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to “journal his feelings,” Matthew Fray started a blog. He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband. As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he’d learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote—“She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink”—went viral and was read over four million times. Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, This Is How Your Marriage Ends exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong. We simply haven’t been taught any of the necessary skills, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust. With the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and the practical insights of The 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends helps readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage–beginning, middle, or even end—of your relationship.

Marriage Management focuses on balancing your Marriage Budget, which has nothing to do with money! Through open communication and an honest look at your circumstances, you can get out of the red as a couple and instead invest in a healthy and growing relationship. After reading this book, you'll be able to · Increase how you invest in your marriage, · remove unnecessary relational expenses, · set aside resources for necessary expenses, and · address marital debts in a caring and constructive way. Inside this book is a worksheet that you and your spouse will complete separately. Your individual answers will illuminate each other's perception of the relationship, where your resources are going, and what expenses you both have. Then you'll come together and use the insights to intentionally strengthen your marriage. Two individuals working in one accord to love each other and serve the Lord is a beautiful thing. However, we're all sinners in need of guidance and clarification at times. Make sense of your marriage with the visual tools created by Tim Russo.

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 Dr. Edward Podolsky, a pioneer in the field of self-help and marriage advice, wrote a book in 1945 called Sex Today in Wedded Life. He offered confidential advice on everything from the harmfulness of masturbation to the frequency of sex in marriage. #2 The 80/20 model is based around asymmetrical power and inequality. It is designed to be a reflection of the spirit of contribution, which is a measure not only of who’s doing the dishes but also of who’s managing conflicts, looking ahead to big decisions, and thinking of ways to strengthen the marriage. #3 The 80/20 model of marriage is still present today, albeit in a milder form. It is clear and easily identifiable when it comes to the business world, where women are paid less than men. But it shows up in invisible ways, and is no less corrosive on our aspiration to marital equality. #4 The most recent data shows that when it comes to the amount of time spent on household work, most heterosexual couples are far from achieving equality. The average dad spends around eight hours on childcare and ten hours on chores each week, while the average mother spends eighteen hours on childcare and eighteen hours on chores each week.