The Science Of Parenting Adopted Children

Explaining how adoptive parents can help their traumatised child develop, it looks at the many different factors that can manifest in trauma, and how parents should respond to them.

Therapeutic parenting is a deeply nurturing parenting style, and is especially effective for children with attachment difficulties, or who experienced childhood trauma. This book provides everything you need to know in order to be able to effectively therapeutically parent. Providing a model of intervention, The A-Z of Therapeutic Parenting gives parents or caregivers an easy to follow process to use when responding to issues with their children. The following A-Z covers 60 common problems parents face, from acting aggressively to difficulties with sleep, with advice on what might trigger these issues, and how to respond. Easy to navigate and written in a straightforward style, this book is a 'must have' for all therapeutic parents.

Practical techniques for guiding parents through the stagesof adoption and beyond "This book makes a significant contribution to both a greaterunderstanding of adoption and its complex dynamic constellations aswell as to serving those who are or come across adoption families,many of whom count on us adoption-informed mental healthprofessionals to clarify and facilitate the challenges theyface." —From the Foreword by Henri Parens, MD, Professor ofPsychiatry, Thomas Jefferson University, Training and SupervisingAnalyst, Psychoanalytic Center of Philadelphia "What most people don't know about adoption could fill abook—and this is the book. Finally sorting myth from science,Working with Adoptive Parents will give therapists, andquite a few nonprofessionals considering adoption, the real storyof what it means to make this momentous choice. Better yet, it doesso without letting the data speak in place of the parentsthemselves, in all their fear, doubt, and joy." —Jesse Green, author of The Velveteen Father: An UnexpectedJourney to Parenthood Editors Virginia Brabender and April Fallon are clinicalpsychologists and also adoptive parents whose families areacquainted with both the uncertainty and joy of adoption. InWorking with Adoptive Parents, they offer an in-depthtreatment of the distinctive needs, feelings, impulses,expectations, and conflicts that adoptive parents experiencethrough the stages of adoption and beyond. This volume offers acomprehensive picture of adoption through an exploration of theexperiences and developmental processes of the adoptive parent. Featuring contributions from mental health professionals whosecareers have focused on work with families through the adoptionprocess, this unique book: Covers the theory, research, and practice of adoptive parentingthroughout the life cycle Explores the issues unique to the adoptive mother and adoptivefather as they traverse the stages of parenting Offers a close look at families with special needschildren Acknowledges and explores the great diversity among adoptivefamilies and the kinship networks in which they are embedded Examines attachment issues between adoptive parent andchild Providing a framework for therapists to conceptualize their workwith adoptive parents, Working with Adoptive Parentsclarifies and facilitates the journey that many of these familiesface.

Ray Guarendi, psychologist, husband and father of ten adopted children, considers the most commonly asked adoption questions with insight, humor and a heart for the adoptive family. His aim? To dispel unsettling misperceptions about adoption, to encourage others to think about and act on adoption, and to guide adoptive parents to a more relaxed, rewarding family life for all involved. A must-have resource for those considering adoption, those who have already adopted and those in the mix as family members or friends of adoptive parents.

"Birthdays may be difficult for me." "I want you to take the initiative in opening conversations about my birth family." "When I act out my fears in obnoxious ways, please hang in there with me." "I am afraid you will abandon me." The voices of adopted children are poignant, questioning. And they tell a familiar story of loss, fear, and hope. This extraordinary book, written by a woman who was adopted herself, gives voice to children's unspoken concerns, and shows adoptive parents how to free their kids from feelings of fear, abandonment, and shame. With warmth and candor, Sherrie Eldridge reveals the twenty complex emotional issues you must understand to nurture the child you love--that he must grieve his loss now if he is to receive love fully in the future--that she needs honest information about her birth family no matter how painful the details may be--and that although he may choose to search for his birth family, he will always rely on you to be his parents. Filled with powerful insights from children, parents, and experts in the field, plus practical strategies and case histories that will ring true for every adoptive family, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew is an invaluable guide to the complex emotions that take up residence within the heart of the adopted child--and within the adoptive home.

Parenting Your Internationally Adopted Child guides adoptive parents in promoting a child's emotional and social adjustment, from the family's first hours together through the teen years. It explains how to help an adopted child cope with the ''Big Change,'' bond with new parents, become part of a family, and develop a positive self-image that incorporates both American identity and ethnicity origins. Parents waiting to meet their adoptive children will appreciate Cogen's advice about preparing for the trip and handling the first meeting. The author's main focus, though, is the child's adaptation over the next months and years. Cogen explains how to deal with the child's ''mixed maturities''; how (and why) to tell the child's story from the child's point of view; how to handle sleep problems and resistance to household rules; and how to encourage eye contact and ease transitions and separations. The reassuring narrative tone and the breadth and depth of information make this the most substantive and accessible book available and an indispensable resource for parents who adopt, professionals who advise adoptive parents, and teachers of adoptive children

Originally published in 1993, this classic piece of literature on adoption has revolutionised the way people think about adopted children. Nancy Verrier examines the life-long consequences of the 'primal wound' - the wound that is caused when a child is separated from its mother - for adopted people. Her argument is supported by thorough research in pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and the effects of loss.