Why Is My Child In Charge

Solve typical toddler challenges with eight key mindshifts that will help you parent with clarity, calmness and self-control. Through stories from her practice, Claire Lerner shows parents how making critical mindshifts—seeing their children’s behaviors through a new lens —empowers parents to solve their most vexing childrearing challenges. This process puts parents back in the driver’s seat, where they belong and where their children need them to be. These real life stories provide a roadmap for how to tune into the root causes of children’s behavior and how to create and implement strategies that are tailored to the unique needs of each child and family. Through these stories, Claire provides a treasure trove of practical solutions that are based in science and which work in real life. Why Is My Child In Charge? picks up where other books have left parents hanging. Most parenting books offer solutions that sound good on paper but don’t work in practice. They are aspirational rather than achievable, or they offer one-size-fits-all approaches that don’t meet the needs of an individual child. They can compound parents’ feelings of frustration and thus, can be counterproductive. Case by case, Claire unpacks the individualized process she guides parents through to solve the most common challenges such as throwing tantrums in public; delaying bedtime for hours; refusing to participate in family mealtimes; and resisting potty training. Employing a relatable story-telling approach, Claire elucidates: The faulty mindsets that pose obstacles to parents seeing the situation more objectively The essential mindshifts that enable parents to quickly identify the root causes of the problem The development of an action plan tailored to each unique child and family Why is My Child in Charge? is like having a child development specialist in your home. It shows how you can develop “win-win” strategies that translate into adaptable, happy kids and calm, connected and in-control parents. It will help you be the parent you want to be.

"New stories & strategies based on ... 'How to talk so kids will listen & listen so kids will talk'"--Cover.

"I am afraid people are seeing that video", thinks Jennie, a 12-year-old child pornography victim, a thought she has every day she wakes up. "What has that bully said online today to make me want to kill myself?", thinks a 13-year-old victim of bullying, contemplating suicide. "I sent my nude to that man on the game - hope he doesn't share it. I will be in deep trouble", thinks an 8-year-old. Do their parents or caregivers know? Would you want to know if your child is being targeted by predators? A bully or victim? Suicidal? Thinking of killing someone? How can children be supervised online in a proactive approach to avoid such negative consequences? Charlene Doak-Gebauer has developed a user-friendly Theory of Digital Supervision, to be used for child and family online protection. She states the Internet hosts more predation than any host in the history of the world. Predation is everywhere - the Internet, our neighbourhoods, schools, and any other place a person can imagine. Predators can include unknowns, knowns, peers, family, and other types of acquaintances. Children are too independent from adult guidance. Would you give your eight-year-old child the keys to your car and let them drive unsupervised? Yet, they have the key to your router, and journey the world unsupervised. Digital Supervision is necessary. Read and learn how to protect your children and their futures.

A modern parenting classic—a guide to a new and gentle way of understanding the care and nurture of infants, by the internationally renowned childcare expert, podcaster, and author of No Bad Kids “An absolute go-to for all parents, therapists, anyone who works with, is, or knows parents of young children.”—Wendy Denham, PhD A Resources for Infant Educarers (RIE) teacher and student of pioneering child specialist Magda Gerber, Janet Lansbury helps parents look at the world through the eyes of their infants and relate to them as whole people who have natural abilities to learn without being taught. Once we are able to view our children in this light, even the most common daily parenting experiences become stimulating opportunities to learn, discover, and connect with our child. A collection of the most-read articles from Janet’s popular and long-running blog, Elevating Child Care focuses on common infant issues, including: • Nourishing our babies’ healthy eating habits • Calming your clingy, fearful child • How to build your child’s focus and attention span • Developing routines that promote restful sleep Eschewing the quick-fix tips and tricks of popular parenting culture, Lansbury’s gentle, insightful guidance lays the foundation for a closer, more fulfilling parent-child relationship, and children who grow up to be authentic, confident, successful adults.

An essential instruction manual for the toughest job a parent will ever love from a fresh new authority on parent/child relationships.

Through stories of her work with families, the author shows parents how making critical mindshifts--seeing their children's behaviors through a new lens--empowers them to solve their most vexing childrearing challenges. Claire Lerner offers a roadmap for implementing practical and proven solutions that are based in science and work in real life.

“Instead of trusting kids with choices . . . many parents insist on micromanaging everything from homework to friendships. For these parents, Stixrud and Johnson have a simple message: Stop.” —NPR “This humane, thoughtful book turns the latest brain science into valuable practical advice for parents.” —Paul Tough, New York Times bestselling author of How Children Succeed A few years ago, Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson started noticing the same problem from different angles: Even high-performing kids were coming to them acutely stressed and lacking motivation. Many complained they had no control over their lives. Some stumbled in high school or hit college and unraveled. Bill is a clinical neuropsychologist who helps kids gripped by anxiety or struggling to learn. Ned is a motivational coach who runs an elite tutoring service. Together they discovered that the best antidote to stress is to give kids more of a sense of control over their lives. But this doesn't mean giving up your authority as a parent. In this groundbreaking book they reveal how you can actively help your child to sculpt a brain that is resilient, and ready to take on new challenges. The Self-Driven Child offers a combination of cutting-edge brain science, the latest discoveries in behavioral therapy, and case studies drawn from the thousands of kids and teens Bill and Ned have helped over the years to teach you how to set your child on the real road to success. As parents, we can only drive our kids so far. At some point, they will have to take the wheel and map out their own path. But there is a lot you can do before then to help them tackle the road ahead with resilience and imagination.

A Puerto Rican boy finds a place to live on New York City's lower east side and a way to support himself and his sister after their father disappears. Grades 5-6.