Beyond Forgiveness

Let's be real: some very unsavory stuff happens here on Earth. It's completely understandable if you have thoughts and feelings of anger, resentment, vengeance, sadness or what-have-you. It's understandable, but it's not necessarily kind to YOU to keep carrying them around. There are lots of helpful forgiveness books available, many of which focus on helping you release those yucky emotions and thoughts. But for many people, that's not enough. The nagging question of "why?" goes unanswered. Why did this happen to me, in this way, at this time? Why does bad stuff need to happen at all? You may have unfinished business with your own soul, higher self, or with the universe or god or life itself. And that's understandable too. Come and explore answers to the really big questions in this guided journey Beyond Forgiveness. True freedom and empowerment are waiting for you there.

"If we harbor thoughts of violence or hatred, or seek revenge or retribution, we are contributing to the wounding of the world; if we transform those thoughts into forgiveness and compassion, and then move beyond them to actually make amends or restitution, we are contributing to the healing of the world. This timely, powerful and compassionate book helps show us the way." —Deepak Chopra "Nothing will help us survive the present age more than breaking the tragic cycles of violence and revenge that threaten our very existence. To do so, we must honor our soul's desire for deeper forms of reconciliation, a process that Phil Cousineau reveals here as being on the other side of forgiveness, in the ancient ritual of atonement. His book is a profoundly important contribution to the healing of the world, and I give it my blessing." —Robert A. Johnson, author of Transformation, Inner Work and Owning Your Own Shadow As indispensable as forgiveness has been to the healing process throughout history, there is another equally profound action that is needed for ultimate reconciliation, which Arun Gandhi, grandson of Mohandas Gandhi, calls “the other side of the coin.” Turning over the coin of forgiveness, we discover atonement, the half-hidden, much-overlooked other half of the reconciliation process. Beyond Forgiveness shows how acts of atonement—making amends, providing restitution, restoring balance—can relieve us of the pain of the past and give us a hopeful future. This rich and powerful book includes 15 thoughtful contributions by high-profile thinkers and activists including Huston Smith, Michael Bernard Beckwith, Azim Khamisa, Rabbi Michael Lerner, Jacob Needleman, Michael Nagler, Diane Hennacy Powell, James O’Dea, Arun Gandhi, Kate Dahlstedt, Ed Tick, Richard J. Meyer, Rev. Heng Sure, Douglas George-Kanentiio and Katharine Dever. Atonement is put forward as a process that we must all learn to practice—from individuals to nations—if we are to heal our wounds and move forward.

Pastor A. T. Samuel, in this book, captured very well one of the major problems ravaging Christian homes, societies, and churches throughout the world today. Those problems are related to the lack of the spirit of forgiveness in the daily interaction among people. It was Alexander Pope, an English poet in the eighteenth century, who said that to err is human and to forgive is divine. This book shows clearly, with numerous references to biblical passages, that the wounds caused by lack of forgiveness can be healed only through the intervention of the Holy Spirit. Christian brothers and sisters together with others in our societies who are burdened with unforgiveness will gain tremendously by reading this book, which is written in simple English and reinforced with many relevant and valuable biblical quotations.

Tracson Cordera and his cousin Billy were best friends. They'd built their cattle ranches side by side during the Gold Rush years in Montana Territory. One spring day Trac made a foolish bet with his head-strong cousin. Billy was killed, leaving his young wife Janie a widow. Trac's guilt and Janie's hatred of him changed everything. He couldn't stay and he couldn't go, but one thing he knew... he could not abide Janie's contempt. There was one other secret he kept buried deep in his heart. She'd chosen Billy, but Trac had loved Janie from the moment he'd laid eyes on her when she was a young girl. And what could he do about that now? Patricia Strefling, author of three published romance books, enjoys writing stories that inspire and encourage. She loves to travel and crochet and is currently working on three new novels. Mother of three grown sons and five grandsons, Patricia lives with her husband in Southwest Lower Michigan.

Bolin analyses biblical and extra-biblical traditions and motifs in the book of Jonah, and argues that the book's portrayal of the relationship between God and humanity, much like those of Job and Ecclesiastes, emphasizes an absolute divine sovereignty beyond human notions of mercy, justice, or forgiveness. God is understood as free to forgive, yet he still punishes, and is unfettered by the constraints imposed by attributes of benevolence. The only proper human response to God is fear at his power and acknowledgment of him as the source of welfare and woe.

Why is revenge such a pervasive and destructive problem? How can we create a future in which revenge is less common and forgiveness is more common? Psychologist Michael McCullough argues that the key to a more forgiving, less vengeful world is to understand the evolutionary forces that gave rise to these intimately human instincts and the social forces that activate them in human minds today. Drawing on exciting breakthroughs from the social and biological sciences, McCullough dispenses surprising and practical advice for making the world a more forgiving place. Michael E. McCullough (Miami, Florida), an internationally recognized expert on forgiveness and revenge, is a professor of psychology at the University of Miami in Coral Gables, Florida, where he directs the Laboratory for Social and Clinical Psychology.