C H O I C E S Model Choosing Love Instead Of Fear

C.H.O.I.C.E.S. Model: Choosing Love Instead of Fear is a self-empowerment book which was 35 years in the making and based on extensive research. That research distilled down to its essence demonstrates that stress is not, as is often portrayed in popular culture, the enemy. Data from two separate fields, academia, and industry, while having opposing views on who is responsible for reducing felt stress, both agree that the primary mitigator of harmful distress is locus of control (LOC). Internal LOC locates the control within the individual whereas external LOC locates the control from outside forces. The consensus by academia and industry is the more LOC is internal, the less distress is felt. Chosen versus imposed stressors yield less harmful impacts from the distress. This research becomes a powerful tool to help reduce distress by restoring control to the individual. Life can be so overwhelming that automatic knee jerk reactions are used to fend off a constant barrage of stressors. The CHOICES Model provides a way to be proactive. The more this is done consciously the greater the sense of wellbeing. The book presents seven life areas which give purpose and meaning. The areas include Community, Health, Occupation, Investment, Creativity, Education, and Spirituality. Each is essential to a quality life. The premise of this book is that an individual’s perception of their own personal power increases with every small success and one area of success gives the individual confidence to believe in themselves enough to attempt challenges in the other domains. There’s a chapter for each of these seven equally important domains. Each area is defined along with the rationale and tools necessary for personal development. Community is important because we are social beings with needs for belonging. Letting someone know you care allows joy to spring through both your hearts. No matter our physical or mental condition, health matters to all of us. Our personal level of wellbeing sets the limits for what can be our personal best. Build strength and immunity when feeling well and be gentle with yourself when you’re not. Occupation is important because we all have a need to be part of something bigger than ourselves; a calling to make a difference; and a desire to leave a meaningful legacy. This needn’t be one’s vocation. It is literally what occupies our time and energy. It may be an avocation or volunteer service work. However we spend our time, let our life’s work lift our hearts and move us all into better days. Investment is not limited to finances. This area is all about how we spend our resources. Besides money, it includes our time, energy, and level of commitment. Let’s be generous and give of ourselves without expecting anything in return. In this way we all have the power to be superheroes. Creativity is important because it defines who we are. We build a life. We express who we are. We make something that only we can imagine. Expressions from our hearts are never wasted. When we bring something new into this world we give birth to something that will survive us. Education is something we do naturally and have done since we took our first breath. Lifelong learning helps us make our way in the world. We know that reading to a child instills curiosity and ignites intelligence. Let’s read to a child tonight and if that’s not possible, let’s all continue reading to our inner child. Finally, spirituality provides transcendence to see and feel beyond our limitations and provides love when facing the void. Namaste! The light within me bows to the light within you. Let’s spread this message and celebrate the sacred in each other.

The CHOICES Model provides a way to take back control away from feeling overwhelmed by identifying seven areas about which we already make decisions every single day. The more we do this consciously, the greater our sense of wellbeing.

Your mind is most powerful tool you can imagine; it can be your best friend, or your worst enemy. You are the only person responsible for what is happening to you, and if you see it any other way it is because of your mind and the way it is trained. Imagine that you are a carriage and your thoughts are horses, and if those horses are out of control, guess what will happen? Every horse (your thoughts) will keep pulling in their own direction without any regard to what will happen to the carriage, which is you. However, if you learn how to tame your horses/thoughts you will be in control of them. This is the truth, whether you believe it or not.

“Life is full of choices and decisions, and it’s clear in Fear Is a Choice that James chose not to be a victim of his circumstances. His vulnerability makes this book so relatable. James decided during one of the toughest battles in his life to be an inspiration for everyone who will follow. Fear Is a Choice is more than a great book—it’s a mentality.” — Akbar Gbajabiamila, host of American Ninja Warrior "Fear Is a Choice will inspire every reader to become better through invaluable lifelong lessons and powerful perspective. James teaches us that if we harness fear and meet life's challenges with faith, determination, and hard work there is nothing we can't accomplish." — Kyle Carpenter, USMC Medal of Honor recipient and national bestselling author of You Are Worth It "You don’t have to be a football fan to be inspired by James Conner. On the field, James has never backed down from an opponent. He scored the biggest victory of his life—beating cancer—with that same courage and resolve. Like one of James’s powerful touchdown runs, this very personal story will make you want to stand and cheer." — Pat Narduzzi, head coach of the University of Pittsburgh football team "When faced with the biggest adversity an athlete can face, James Conner chose every emotion but fear. In Fear Is a Choice, he shares his journey and his belief that we are all playing for someone who can’t. We must give it our best shot. A truly inspirational book by an incredible role model we all can learn from." — Brittany Wagner, star of Last Chance U

Be the master of your fear and you can rule over your life. Fear is the only obstacle between you and your dreams, between you and what you most love. So says Archangel Raphael, who, in this series of channelings, unravels the mysteries of fear and, through its darkest paths, guides you step by step up to the glade of love. He helps you tear away fears masks one by one till you come to know its real face; only then does he teach you the ways to transmute it into love, thus eliminating its disastrous implications. According to Archangel Raphael, fear shows that somewhere in the deepest part of your being, you have chosen hatred versus love, and your life cannot have real meaning. Only when your fear is transformed can real life happen to you. The end of your fear will signal the beginning of your life. Until that day comes, you will have just lived in a lie, in an illusion. I am only asking you to give me your fear, Archangel Raphael adds, and I will give back to you your love, the most precious gift you ever had.

This book is one of the most comprehensive and in-depth studies of Spiritual Psychology ever written; in an easy to understand and practical format! In truth, there is no subect in the world that is more important than Spiritual Psychology. It is the key to finding happiness, inner peace, being right with self, right with God and right with all relationshiops in your life! This book is one of the most profound, cutting-edge books ever written on this subject! Guaranteed to completely transform your consciousness and your life! It will teach you how to cause and choose all your feelings and emotions instead of being victimized by them, and how to create your own reality through the power of your mind through learning the science of attitudinal healing! Spiritually electrifying reading!

Our Choices Lead to Happiness or Sadness Due to the situations, many people find themselves in; they think that the power of choice has been taken from them. They feel helpless, out of control of their own life. There are two main choices in this world, you can choose to FEAR the future, which limits the options available to you, or you can choose to have FAITH which opens up unlimited options. Through the media. Be it television, newspaper or the Internet we can be bombarded with fear from a morning to night, so much so that we become accustomed to it and take it as the norm.If you are looking for examples of faith then you have to search for it, seek it out. Making the Right Choice In this book, I would like to restore some of that faith that may have been taken from you throughout the years. I will share stories of how both faith and fear are equally powerful and need to be treated as so. FEAR can bring sickness, depression, heartache. FAITH can bring healing, good fortune, mental clarity. When you take responsibility that the power of choice is within you and not in the circumstances that affect your life, then with that comes an within bliss. As you stand in faith, it allows Gods love to flow into your life, creating stronger family bonds, peace of mind, healing, often off incurable diseases. I welcome you today to make a choice of faith and learn to leave fear behind. Where you once seen a dead end, you will now see crossroads. I leave the choice to join me up to you. Have a great day.