Developing Your Conflict Competence

A practical resource, this book combines tips, checklists, exercises, and stories to outline concrete processes that improve the way leaders, managers, and anyone within an organization responds to conflict. Beginning with a series of questions and self-diagnostics, the authors show you how to: maintain emotional balance in the face of conflict; implement constructive communications techniques; help others deal with conflicts that are causing organization problems; establish norms for handling conflict; use specific approaches for addressing conflict more effectively. "A must-have guidebook for the new age of global business. This book shows every leader how to turn feelings of fear into feelings of safety, suspicion into trust, and competitiveness into collaboration." --Jim Kouzes, coauthor of the best-selling book The Leadership Challenge and Dean's Executive Professor of Leadership, Leavey School of Business, Santa Clara University "Craig Runde and Tim Flanagan use their vast experience to give us Developing Your Conflict Competence. Move beyond negative workplace conflict to positive and constructive outcomes with the simple tools and suggestions in this must-read field guide!" --Marshall Goldsmith, best-selling author of What Got You Here Won't Get You There, Succession: Are You Ready?, and the upcoming MOJO "I've read the authors' first two books, Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader and Building Conflict Competent Teams. Their latest book pulls it all together by providing models, examples, and thought-provoking insight. It will be required reading for my senior management team." --Deborah Jallad, president/chairman, Accredited Surety and Casualty Company, Inc.

A practical resource, this book combines tips, checklists, exercises, and stories to outline concrete processes that improve the way leaders, managers, and anyone within an organization responds to conflict. Beginning with a series of questions and self-diagnostics, the authors show you how to: maintain emotional balance in the face of conflict; implement constructive communications techniques; help others deal with conflicts that are causing organization problems; establish norms for handling conflict; use specific approaches for addressing conflict more effectively. "A must-have guidebook for the new age of global business. This book shows every leader how to turn feelings of fear into feelings of safety, suspicion into trust, and competitiveness into collaboration." --Jim Kouzes, coauthor of the best-selling book The Leadership Challenge and Dean's Executive Professor of Leadership, Leavey School of Business, Santa Clara University "Craig Runde and Tim Flanagan use their vast experience to give us Developing Your Conflict Competence. Move beyond negative workplace conflict to positive and constructive outcomes with the simple tools and suggestions in this must-read field guide!" --Marshall Goldsmith, best-selling author of What Got You Here Won't Get You There, Succession: Are You Ready?, and the upcoming MOJO "I've read the authors' first two books, Becoming a Conflict Competent Leader and Building Conflict Competent Teams. Their latest book pulls it all together by providing models, examples, and thought-provoking insight. It will be required reading for my senior management team." --Deborah Jallad, president/chairman, Accredited Surety and Casualty Company, Inc.

The Second Edition of this classic resource on conflict resolution combines research, conceptual models, practitioner experience, and stories that highlight the core conflict competencies. The book underscores the importance for leaders to develop the critical skills they need to help them, their colleagues, and their organizations deal more effectively with conflict and move their organizations forward. This new edition expands on the conflict competence model, includes new tools and techniques, shows how to develop conflict competent teams and organizations, and offers a new online assessment.

Understanding how to cool down, slow down, and engage the naturally occurring conflicts among team members is critical to the ultimate success of a team. With this book, your team and its members will gain a deeper understanding of how conflict emerges and how to respond in ways that will leverage conflicts to their advantage. Team members will learn the importance of establishing a safe team climate, agreeing on processes to guide interactions, and use of constructive communication skills in order to develop a conflict competent team. As the authors say, conflict is not to be avoided, but embraced and explored. This often results in new, previously unimagined opportunities, solutions and results. The authors include stories, interviews, and examples that provide entertaining and thought provoking insights. They dedicate one chapter to techniques and processes for addressing team conflict that has gone awry. Runde and Flanagan also include useful tips and tools for assessing your team?s current state of conflict competence and suggestions for addressing the challenges of today?s virtual and geographically dispersed teams.

There is a wealth of knowledge, research, books and training programs about skills and techniques of conflict resolution and conflict transformation, however despite of the vast amount of it, conflicts in general are dealt with poorly, even more, oftentimes they are not even recognized as such before it is too late.One of the reasons is that conflicts are for the most part not understood, accepted as part of reality, nor dealt with consciously. Rather than that, people are dealing with conflicts spontaneously, which is in most cases the exact opposite of how they should act.In addition, people generally perceive the conflict as the other person's fault and themselves as the other's victim or, when refusing to be a victim, a righteous 'punisher'. Since the other person responds in the same way, the conflict only escalates."There are, however, individuals, groups and sometimes cultures that have a habit of dealing with conflicts productively, namely using a conflict for progress, growth and the improvement of relationships. And they are, knowingly or unknowingly, treating the phenomenon of conflict differently than others.In general, we can call the characteristic that differentiates people who deal with conflicts productively from the rest, conflict competence. It is not a particular set of skills 'per se', but rather a general approach and attitude towards conflict.This book presents a concept of conflict competence as a predisposition for dealing with conflicts productively, proposes and describes a tool for their assessment and gives some general guidelines and suggestions for developing conflict competence.

CONFLICT MANAGEMENT COACHING: THE CINERGY MODEL describes a well-researched process for coaching people on a one-on-one basis, to improve their skills and abilities to manage and engage in their interpersonal disputes. This comprehensive text written by Cinnie Noble, a lawyer-mediator and certified coach, not only provides a coaching model that uniquely integrates neuroscience principles with conflict management and coaching theory and practice. It also provides readers with many ideas and practical ways to support a conflict coaching practice. CONFLICT MANAGEMENT COACHING is an informative resource that will be of interest to coaches, mediators, ombudsmen and other conflict management and dispute resolution practitioners, HR professionals, leaders, lawyers, psychologists, social workers and others who work with people in conflict. TABLE OF CONTENTS * Introduction * The Three Pillars of Conflict Management Coaching * Conflict Management: There Is No Rule Book * Client Engagement * The CINERGY Conflict Management Coaching Model * Conflict Management Coaching Skills * Applications of Conflict Management Coaching * Measuring Conflict Management Coaching

This book offers an understanding of the nature of conflict and structures, which enable the reader to negotiate a solution.