Divorce Yourself

Maria Shriver, Kim Kardashian, Stevie Wonder, Britney Spears . . . Who do they have in common? Top LA divorce lawyer Laura Wasser. If anyone ever had a platform to write a how to divorce book for today's generation, it's Laura Wasser. She has been practicing in her field for nearly twenty years, represented many of the country's top celebrities and has been celebrated for her unique style, her empathy and her expertise. Wasser's personal and professional life have been profiled by publications like the Los Angeles Times, Vogue and Interview. Most important, her approach and advice is different from almost any other and she articulates it in a simple manner. Laura Wasser addresses an entire generation who want—and need—to handle their breakups differently. It's no secret that the divorce rate in America is more than half the marriage rate. Yet the means for dissolving a relationship often seem hopelessly mired in an outdated perception of how it's supposed to be done. Wasser acknowledges that this generation's realities have evolved greatly since the previous generation's in almost every way, and that they want to get divorced cheaply and efficiently and maintain control of the process themselves. The daughter and partner of a prominent Los Angeles Family Law attorney, she has a deep history in the field, and she knows the available roads to uncontested resolution like nobody else. At times psychologist, at times strategist, and distinctly of this generation, Laura and her book will offer readers safer passage through what can be a devastating time, emotionally and financially.

- Sample divorce forms -- Appearing in court -- After your divorce.

Over 1.5 million people will obtain a divorce this year, but divorce laws are undergoing changes in many states. This new updated 4th edition of the best-selling divorce guide provides all of the details of the latest legal changes. Written in understandable language by an experienced attorney, this book provides a detailed explanation of the process of divorce. A wealth of practical legal information is furnished on the topics of property division, alimony, child support, and child custody and visitation. Helpful checklists, questionnaires, worksheets, and sample forms are provided for those readers who wish to understand and use the legal system for themselves.

This highly anticipated second edition of Splitting includes new chapters on abuse, alienation, and false allegations; as well as information about the four types of domestic violence, protective orders, and child custody disputes. Are you divorcing someone who’s making the process as difficult as possible? Are they sending you nasty emails, falsifying the truth, putting your children in the middle, abusing you, or abusing the system? Are they “persuasive blamers,” manipulating and fooling court personnel to get them on their side? If so, you need this book. For more than ten years, Splitting has served as the ultimate guide for people divorcing a high conflict person, one who often has borderline or narcissistic (or even antisocial) personality disorder. Among other things, it has saved readers thousands of dollars, helped them keep custody of their children, and effectively guided them through a difficult legal and emotional process. Written by a family law attorney and therapist, and the author of Stop Walking on Eggshells, Splitting is an essential legal and psychological guide for anyone divorcing a persuasive blamer: someone who suffers from borderline personality disorder (BPD), narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), and/or antisocial personality disorder (ASPD). This second edition includes new information about antisocial personalities; expanded information about domestic violence, child abuse, alienation, and false allegations; how to approach protective orders and deal with child custody disputes; and a new chapter on how to successfully present your case to decision makers. Turn to this guide to help you: Predict what your spouse may do or say in court Take control of your case with assertiveness and strategic thinking Choose a lawyer who understands your case Learn how e-mails and social networking can be used against you If you need help navigating a high-conflict divorce from a manipulative spouse, this book includes all of the critical information you need to work through the process of divorce in an emotionally balanced, productive way.

A Divorcee’s Empirical (and Slightly Irreverent) “What’s Next” Guide to Life after Marriage Just about everything about divorce sucks. It sucks away your time, your money, and occasionally your will to live. We know. We’ve been there. We’ve both been divorced and are now remarried . . . to each other. F*ck Divorce is not a book about divorcing (which stinks); it is a book about putting the pieces back together afterward (which doesn’t have to). Using the latest scientific research, a bit of tough love, and a highly questionable sense of humor, psychologists and relationship scientists Erica Slotter, PhD, and Patrick Markey, PhD, will teach you how to navigate your post-divorce relationships with yourself, kids, and even your slug-breath ex-spouse. They’ll hold your hand as you navigate the complicated, exciting, and sometimes terrifying world of dating and sex as a born-again singleton and be by your side as you (hopefully) find your way to new love. Learn: Self-Care in the Post-Divorce Haze How to Rediscover the Newly Single You The Importance of Being Nice(ish) to Your Ex How to Help Your Kids Through the Sh*tstorm How to Survive the Awkwardness of First Dates . . . Again Navigating Your Newfound Sexy Time Divorce-Proofing: Keeping Marriage 2.0, or 3.0, Together So, welcome to the world of being newly unwed. It’s good, bad, and ridiculous, and sometimes your blind date smells like soup. Pull up a chair, pour yourself a drink (or three), and let’s do this sh*t.

No one walks into a marriage thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures together, growing old together, where they may want to retire, places they want to visit someday, their hopes and dreams and goals for themselves and for each other. When the marriage ends, there is generally a feeling of failure that goes along with it. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and we all know that we have to work at it to keep it together. If it ends, does that mean we didnt work hard enough? Didnt try hard enough? Didnt do enough to keep our spouse happy? What went wrong? Why couldnt I make it work? Why couldnt I fix the problems? These feelings are so common, especially among all of the overachievers out there who believe they can accomplish anything and fix anything if they just try hard enough. Recognize that life is not fair and accept that reality. However, also recognize that sometimes it is not fair in your favor. Imbalance sometimes tips toward you and sometimes away from you. Dont dwell on the times when it feels like the world is against you; instead celebrate the times when everything seems to be going your way. Take responsibility for your own happiness. If anyone intrudes on your happiness, recognize that it is your own fault for allowing it to happen. No one can make you feel any particular wayyou control your own feelings and reactions. You choose how you will handle any particular situation. You can wallow in self-pity and wither away, or you can learn from a negative experience, grow from it, and become a better, stronger, and happier person. Accept responsibility for your own future; it is all on you now, and if you dont take responsibility for it, no one else will.

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.