Don T Be A Dick

The single book therapists everywhere will recommend to all of their patients, because at some point or another, we all behave like dicks. Why this book? Because you might be a dick: a mean-spirited, self-focused individual who thinks and acts as though everyone else in the world can only be understood—and whose only importance is defined—in terms of their relationship to you. Being a dick might feel powerful in the short term, but it is not helping you in the long term because this flawed character trait is exactly what’s keeping you from attaining what you may want most: personal fulfillment, satisfying work, a loving committed relationship, and lifelong friendships. Anyone, at any time, can be a dick. Yet Don’t Be a Dick is especially for people who have noticed how their own behavior tends to backfire, leaving them feeling isolated and unsure why their seemingly justified actions consistently yield such poor results. If you’re constantly using the refrain, It’s not me, it’s them whenever something goes wrong, Mark Borg is here to tell you that it is, in fact, you. The good news is there is something you can do to reverse these behaviors and live a happier, more fulfilling life.

On the one hand, nobody wants to be a dick. On the other hand, dicks are everywhere! They cut in line, talk behind our backs, recline into our seats, and even have the power to morph into trolls online. Their powers are impressive, but with a little foresight and thoughtfulness, we can take a stand against dickishness today. How Not to Be a Dick is packed with honest and straightforward advice, but it also includes playful illustrations showing two well-meaning (but not always well behaved) young people as they confront moments of potential dickishness in their everyday lives. Sometimes they falter, sometimes they triumph, but they always seek to find a better way. And with their help, you can too. Just see the agreement at the beginning of the book: I pledge to use the tools and techniques provided in this book to help make the world a less dickish place. "Doherty fires absurd twenty-first-century zingers that happen to be really, really, really funny."—starred, Booklist

Stuart Heritage got where he is today by being decent, thoughtful, hardworking and kind. He is, in short, a model citizen. The favourite son. His younger brother Pete is quick-tempered, peevish and aggressively pig-headed and, for a while, known to his friends as 'Shagger'. But now, Stu has returned to his hometown to discover that Pete has taken his place. Don't Be A Dick, Pete is a hilarious examination of home and family; sons, fathers, fatherhood, sibling relationships and how hard it is to move on in a system that's loaded with several decades of preconceived ideas about you.

No matter how committed two people are to being together, why can't they get away from feeling something is missing? In this important and transformative guide, three experienced practitioners identify the widespread dysfunctional dynamic they call "irrelationship," a psychological defense system two people create together to protect themselves from the fear and anxiety of real intimacy in a relationship. Drawing on their wide clinical and life experience, the authors examine behavioral "song-and-dance routines" repeatedly performed by couples affected by irrelationship. Readers will find a valuable framework for understanding their challenges with action-oriented tools to help them navigate their way to fulfilling relationships. Mark B. Borg, Jr., PhD, is a community psychologist and psychoanalyst, and a supervisor of psychotherapy at the William Alanson White Institute. Grant H. Brenner, MD, is a board-certified psychiatrist in private practice, specializing in treating mood and anxiety disorders and the complex problems that may arise in adulthood from childhood trauma and loss. Daniel Berry, RN, MHA, has practiced as a Registered Nurse in New York City since 1987 and has worked for almost two decades in community-based programs.

NOTE: THIS IS THE PG EDITION OF THE ORIGINAL BOOK, PERHAPS A LITTLE EASIER ON THE CONVENTIONS OF SOME READERS WHO DON'T LIKE THEIR CHALLENGING WORDS UNADULTERATED. THIS VERSION, ACCORDING TO AT LEAST ONE LEADING PEDIATRICIAN, COULD BE SAFER FOR CHILDREN. The only change is in the f*cking title, otherwise the experience is unadulterated from the original.Howie Milstein has had enough. After many years participating with a multitude of communities, such as corporations, non-profit organizations, boards of directors, and bowling teams, he's finally mustered up the nerve to address the enormous elephant in the room. When leaders are dicks, the community is unhealthy, stakeholders are disengaged, and outcomes are marginal. In DBAFD, Milstein asserts that it's incumbent upon leadership to promote and model strong, meaningful relationships throughout the community. At the basis of all relationships is trust, and while trust can be built through competency, reliability, and intimacy, it is easily destroyed when leaders' raging egos are manifest too much of the time. While the author is permanently imbued with irreverence and utter distaste for conventional thinking, DBAFD strikes a balance between the lighthearted perspective that helps people swallow the sometimes bitter pill of self-awareness, and the serious message that we all abut, and occasionally cross, the line of being a dick. Not meant to be an exhaustive tome on emotional intelligence, leadership, and the art of seizing conscious control of natural impulses, DBAFD makes a concise, compelling case for treating others with respect and dignity. This book is perfectly suited to anyone in a leadership role, without regard to whether they possess a formal leadership title. In other words, it's for everybody. And it makes a perfect gift for those leaders you want to send a clear message to!

Take a successful employee, promote them into management but give them no management training and there's a very good chance you'll create a defensive, insecure, unsuccessful, dick manager. Here is the management training you never got! This honest, straightforward guide reveals the things nobody talks about-knowledge that only comes from real-world experience in the management trenches. It will change the way you look at yourself, your job and your career and it will enable you to be a successful leader and mentor. Most importantly, it will help you avoid becoming a dick manager (or, if it's too late, to reform) so you can enjoy the personal and financial rewards of being a great manager. Discover the power of the Laws of Management and understand the personal characteristics you must have to excel as a manager. Learn how to deal with non-communicative, mean, micromanaging, bully bosses, and how to figure out when it's time for you to leave an impossible situation. Find out how to deal with ambitious employees and how to turn around hostile, jaded ones. And be warned about the one type of employee who must go, no matter what. Filled with anecdotes from more than 20 years of management experience, this book takes a frank look at the author's mistakes and triumphs, his great bosses and his dick managers and the lessons learned from all of them.

Don't Be A Dick! is a satirical new take on children's picture books with a message this world desperately needs. Written by comedian/podcast host Razzle Dangerously not just for new parents, but also high school students, college graduates, and even your black sheep of an uncle. Don't Be A Dick! brings a breath of fresh air, humor, and good morals to the coffee table, dorm room, and even your children's bedtime. "This is a deceptively thorough guide on not being a dick, yet simple enough for even dicks to understand. No more excuses. Stop being dicks, dicks." Andy McDonald - Editor, Huffington Post Comedy "VERY readable." Mac Faulkner - Senior Editor, theCHIVE ""From page to page, wise words for any age." Matt Fowler - Writer, IGN.com

A vital guide to overcome the barriers to achieving intimacy and meaningful connection.