Five Minute Relationship Repair

The Tool Kit No Relationship Should Be Without Long-term happiness in love depends on a couple’s ability to repair the inevitable rifts and differences, large and small, that occur in any relationship. Neuroscience suggests that relationship upsets are best mended quickly, or they accumulate in long-term memory, increase reactive communication, and become harder to repair successfully. And good repair takes five minutes or less! This book offers practical tools and suggested scripts for resolving problems and having your needs met. Following its guidance, you can turn difficulties into opportunities to foster love, trust, and thriving intimacy.

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The human brain has a primitive warning system that was built to protect us from predators. It alerts us to potential threats to our survival, including a disturbance in our connection to our partner. #2 The process of falling in love is not always smooth, and can lead to the couple feeling as if they are pulling in opposite directions. Over time, this can lead to the couple feeling as if they are not safe in their relationship. #3 The pair experienced their first notable upset three months into their relationship. Eric arrived at Donna’s house to take her out for a romantic evening. She seemed tense, and when he asked her what was wrong, she began recounting how her boss had unfairly overloaded her with work that afternoon. #4 When someone triggers you, your body reacts before your mind does. Your body gets tense, and your mind races with thoughts or wants to do something - like run away. This is the flight response. When you are triggered, your stomach gets tight, and your breathing becomes shallow. You stop listening to the hurtful input and start defending yourself.

The Tool Kit No Relationship Should Be Without Long-term happiness in love depends on a couple’s ability to repair the inevitable rifts and differences, large and small, that occur in any relationship. Neuroscience suggests that relationship upsets are best mended quickly, or they accumulate in long-term memory, increase reactive communication, and become harder to repair successfully. And good repair takes five minutes or less! This book offers practical tools and suggested scripts for resolving problems and having your needs met. Following its guidance, you can turn difficulties into opportunities to foster love, trust, and thriving intimacy. “Shows us how to approach differences with openhearted listening and vulnerable truth telling...If you read and work with the practices offered here, you have everything you need to create a secure, lasting bond with your partner.” — Jack Canfield, author of The Success Principles™ “Using the case of a typical couple in trouble as their starting point, John Grey and Susan Campbell walk you through a sequential set of techniques based on neuroscience and attachment theory....Their work here is inventive, inspiring, and well worth the read.” — Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, author of Wired for Love

A Harvard-trained lawyer and mediator shows busy couples how to stop fighting and start communicating. In Fight Less, Love More, readers will learn how to identify the bad verbal habits, instinctive responses, and emotional reasoning that can cloud judgment and ultimately lead to the deterioration of otherwise healthy relationships. With exercises, examples, and sample scripts, Puhn’s modern voice presents simple 5-minute strategies create immediate, positive changes and provide long-lasting communication skills that couples can continually employ when faced with conflict.

From the country’s foremost relationship expert and New York Times bestselling author Dr. John M. Gottman comes a powerful, simple five-step program, based on twenty years of innovative research, for greatly improving all of the relationships in your life—with spouses and lovers, children, siblings, and even your colleagues at work. Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman: - Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection” - Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection - Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids - And more! Packed with fascinating questionnaires and exercises developed in his therapy, The Relationship Cure offers a simple but profound program that will fundamentally transform the quality of all of the relationships in your life.

Everyone values honest communication, yet few people possess the requisite skills in both their personal and professional lives. Susan Campbell provides simple yet practical awareness practices — culled from her thirty-five-year career as a relationship coach and corporate teamwork consultant — that require individuals to ?let go? of the need to be right, safe, and certain. Such questions as ?In what areas of my life do I feel the need to lie, sugarcoat, or pretend?? help guide the reader toward self-realization. Ten truth skills teach readers to let their real personalities shine through.

The highly anticipated sequel to the global bestseller 12 Rules for Life. In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in his long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality--order and chaos--and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful, and meaningful life.

Each of us longs to be loved and accepted for the person we truly are. There is no better opportunity than our love relationship for us to be fully ourselves. Ironically, since our partner is so central to our life, his or her validation becomes critical and we are inclined to hide our true self.