Healing Wounded Relationships

Available January 2006 Genuine spirituality is rooted in our ability to be fully human, and nowhere is this more fully seen in our relationships with others. Focusing on marriage relationships, here priest/psychologist Padovani offers couples solid and practical advice gleaned from his thirty plus years as a counselor.

While most of us have moments of loving freely and openly, it is often hard to sustain this where it matters most—in our intimate relationships. Why if love is so great and powerful are human relationships so challenging and difficult? If love is the source of happiness and joy, why is it so hard to open to it fully and let it govern our lives? In this book, John Welwood addresses these questions and shows us how to overcome the most fundamental obstacle that keeps us from experiencing love's full flowering in our lives. Perfect Love, Imperfect Relationships begins by showing how all our relational problems arise out of a universal, core wounding around love that affects not only our personal relationships but the quality of life in our world as a whole. This wounding shows up as a pervasive mood of unlove—a deep sense that we are not intrinsically lovable just as we are. And this shuts down our capacity to trust, so that even though we may hunger for love, we have difficulty opening to it and letting it circulate freely through us. This book takes the reader on a powerful journey of healing and transformation that involves learning to embrace our humanness and appreciate the imperfections of our relationships as trail-markers along the path to great love. It sets forth a process for releasing deep-seated grievances we hold against others for not loving us better and against ourselves for not being better loved. And it shows how our longing to be loved can magnetize the great love that will free us from looking to others to find ourselves. Written with penetrating realism and a fresh, lyrical style that honors the subtlety and richness of our relationship to love itself, this revolutionary book offers profound and practical guidance for healing our lives as well as our embattled world.

In this empathetic and inspiring resource, Padovani describes how one's emotional and spiritual lives interact, as he challenges readers to live fuller, more satisfying lives.

This book is an invaluable key to self-understanding. Using examples from her own life and the lives of her clients, as well as from dreams, fairy tales, myths, films, and literature, Linda Schierse Leonard, a Jungian analyst, exposes the wound of the spirit that both men and women of our culture bear—a wound that is grounded in a poor relationship between masculine and feminine principles. Leonard speculates that when a father is wounded in his own psychological development, he is not able to give his daughter the care and guidance she needs. Inheriting this wound, she may find that her ability to express herself professionally, intellectually, sexually, and socially is impaired. On a broader scale, Leonard discusses how women compensate for cultural devaluation, resorting to passive submission (“the Eternal Girl”), or a defensive imitation of the masculine (“the Armored Amazon”). The Wounded Woman shows that by understanding the father-daughter wound and working to transform it psychologically, it is possible to achieve a fruitful, caring relationship between men and women, between fathers and daughters, a relationship that honors both the mutuality and the uniqueness of the sexes.

Many people struggle at times with a challenging relationship and ask themselves how things got so screwed up. They wonder what they're doing wrong and why they keep making bad choices in who they date or partner with. Trying to fix these problems using outdated communication tools rarely works, so many give up, feeling lost, defeated and resentful. This book helps you see how your unresolved inner child wounding keeps showing up, attracting and meshing with another's codependent parts in a wounded dance-like a moth to a flame. Once you read this book, you will begin to see your own wounded dance. Know that there is a path to healing and you don't have to live this way. You can heal these patterns. The book is written for people who are dating, currently in a relationship or those wanting to avoid making the same mistakes in their next relationship. Expert Insights-Proven Results Psychotherapist, Reiki Master and bestselling author Robert Jackman takes you on a journey of self-discovery and intentional communication using the STARR Reset. This powerful process is designed to heal and restore healthy emotional bonding and help you repair dysfunctional cycles to create an openhearted connection. Learn to use your hard-won wisdom to embrace and restore a deeply loving relationship. You will also discover: how your inner child shows up in your adult relationship why hurt people find other hurt people why you ignored the red flags early on how to speak your truth with intention, the message of your heart why couples keep recreating archetypal patterns how to be brave as you reach for the relationship you desire This book is a natural progression for readers of Healing Your Lost Inner Child and its Companion Workbook, and can be read individually or with your partner. Relationships are not about perfection, they are about connection, growth and possibility.

In this book, psychotherapist David Richo explores how we replay the past in our present-day relationships—and how we can free ourselves from this destructive pattern. We all have a tendency to transfer potent feelings, needs, expectations, and beliefs from childhood or from former relationships onto the people in our daily lives, whether they are our intimate partners, friends, or acquaintances. When the Past Is Present helps us to become more aware of the ways we slip into the past so that we can identify our emotional baggage and take steps to unpack it and put it where it belongs. Drawing on decades of experience as a psychotherapist, Richo helps readers to: • Understand how the wounds of childhood become exposed in adult relationships—and why this is a gift • Identify and heal the emotional wounds we carry over from the past so that they won't sabotage present-day relationships • Recognize how strong attractions and aversions to people in the present can be signals of own own unfinished business • Use mindfulness to stay in the present moment and cultivate authentic intimacy

This popular book, with over 130,000 copies in print, explores the importance of healing wounded relationships in a variety of settings: family, extended family, friendships, and workplace. Forgive and Love Again provides readers with hope that their wounded hearts can be healed and they can love again motivation to make the decision to forgive an explanation of the essentials of true forgiveness guidance through the process of forgiveness answers to questions about confrontation and reconciliation A warm and compassionate tone and life-changing insights combine to make this bestseller an invaluable guide for readers faced with the need to forgive and an excellent resource for pastors, counselors, and other emotional caregivers.