Healing Your Marriage By Healing Yourself

Every relationship is a reflection of our relationship with God. This book is intended for anyone experiencing marital-or any core relationship-challenges, particularly of a volatile nature. Some of the suggestions may appear martyrlike, due to the dedication to personal work that is recommended. However, without self-responsibility and generosity, love cannot fully blossom. In the end, the real winner is the one who stays with the challenges of marriage, and is gifted with the qualities of strength, patience, tolerance, compassion, and love that naturally ensue. Trust that your hard work will pay off. Chapter topics include: preparing yourself and your environment; assuming self-responsibility; self-healing; and opening to love. The first appendix offers troubleshooting tips: how to recognize the nature of your complaint about the relationship; gaining awareness of the underlying truth that is causing the complaint; finding a way out (or through) the problem by changing your approach; and what you can learn from the experience and take with you into future conflicts. In the second appendix, you'll find ten steps to healing, including surrendering to your higher power; accepting that everything you see is from you and for you; using life events as your teachers; and taking full responsibility for your reactions to outer events.

Resurrect beauty from the ashes of betrayal Wife and mother Cindy Beall’s world was shattered when her beloved husband of nine years confessed his pornography addiction, numerous affairs, and the stunning news that another woman was pregnant with his child. What could have been the end of a marriage instead became a testament to God’s miraculous ability to restore broken hearts and damaged bonds. With the wisdom and healing she’s gained in the twenty years that have passed since her husband’s devastating revelation, Cindy shares her own experience as well as those of couples she’s counselled. Drawing from her intimate knowledge of human pain and God’s power, Cindy shows how you can… seek support, counseling, and prayer after deception has surfaced rebuild trust that’s been eroded by infidelity, addiction, or other transgressions help your family heal from grief and reconcile with any long-term consequences rely on God to pursue forgiveness and move forward in new promises Cindy’s remarkable story, compassion, and grasp of God’s Word will help you trust God with your heartache as you seek His hope and redemption.

"Beyond discouragement, anger, and resentment to forgiveness"--Cover.

In You Can Heal Your Heart, self-help luminary Louise Hay and renowned grief and loss expert David Kessler, the protégé of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, have come together to start a conversation on healing grief. This remarkable book discusses the emotions that occur when a relationship leaves you brokenhearted, a marriage ends in divorce, or a loved one dies. It will also foster awareness and compassion, providing you with the courage to face many other types of losses and challenges, such as saying good-bye to a beloved pet, losing your job, coming to terms with a life-threatening illness or disease, and much more. With a perfect blend of Louise’s teachings and affirmations on personal growth and transformation and David’s many years of working with those in grief, this empowering book will inspire an extraordinary new way of thinking, bringing hope and fresh insights into your life and even your current and future relationships. You will not only learn how to help heal your grief, but you will also discover that, yes, you can heal your heart.

Lauren McKinley's raw glimpse of how to survive life in a destroyed marriage has inspired many by reminding women they're not alone. In Stop Wrecking My Home, she shares her personal story of the destruction an affair brings to a marriage, family, and community. Her words invite the brokenhearted to fight for their marriage while maintaining their self-worth. Her writing provides healing, hope, and restoration to the victims of betrayal. The pain you have endured may have broken your heart, but it does not have to break you.

Archbishop Desmond Tutu, Nobel Peace Prize winner, Chair of The Elders, and Chair of South Africa’s Truth and Reconciliation Commission, along with his daughter, the Reverend Mpho Tutu, offer a manual on the art of forgiveness—helping us to realize that we are all capable of healing and transformation. Tutu's role as the Chair of the Truth and Reconciliation Commission taught him much about forgiveness. If you asked anyone what they thought was going to happen to South Africa after apartheid, almost universally it was predicted that the country would be devastated by a comprehensive bloodbath. Yet, instead of revenge and retribution, this new nation chose to tread the difficult path of confession, forgiveness, and reconciliation. Each of us has a deep need to forgive and to be forgiven. After much reflection on the process of forgiveness, Tutu has seen that there are four important steps to healing: Admitting the wrong and acknowledging the harm; Telling one's story and witnessing the anguish; Asking for forgiveness and granting forgiveness; and renewing or releasing the relationship. Forgiveness is hard work. Sometimes it even feels like an impossible task. But it is only through walking this fourfold path that Tutu says we can free ourselves of the endless and unyielding cycle of pain and retribution. The Book of Forgiving is both a touchstone and a tool, offering Tutu's wise advice and showing the way to experience forgiveness. Ultimately, forgiving is the only means we have to heal ourselves and our aching world.

A Step-by-Step Guide to Healing Your Heart and Rebuilding Your Marriage Discovering that your husband has been unfaithful can be emotionally devastating, leaving you reeling in pain and confusion. But take heart—this survival guide for women offers compassionate and practical solutions for coping with the aftermath of an affair. Drawing on their years of experience as professional therapists, authors Marcella Bakur Weiner and Armand DiMele explain how to heal the marriage bond and restore trust between partners. Written with empathy and understanding, this book addresses such vital topics as: ·Coming to terms with the sense of loss and betrayal ·Coping with feelings of suspicion and the specter of "the other woman" ·Dealing with the children during and after the affair ·Understanding character traits of men who have affairs—and how different women's personalities interact with them ·Finding the best sources of emotional support Also included are helpful exercises for self-healing and redeveloping mutual trust as a couple. Repairing Your Marriage After His Affair will guide you through the turmoil of infidelity and aid you in mending and strengthening your marriage vows.

Learn to Love: Guide to Healing Your Disappointing Love Life is a book about learning to improve your love life. After 30 years of clinical research and treatment of patients with unhealthy love lives, I now recognize that most people are not in control of their love lives. Why? Because most people don't know what they've learned about and from the love relationships in the course of their lives. Love relationships that started in their families of origin the moment they were born. If you don't know what you've learned about love relationships, then what you've learned is in control of your love life, healthy or unhealthy. If what you've learned was healthy, no problem. Chances are you'll simply replicate what you've learned about love relationships. If what you've learned was unhealthy, you could be unwittingly making the same love life mistakes over and over again because of what you've learned. Learn to Love will show you how to identify what you've learned about love relationships, how to unlearn what is unhealthy, and practice something new, healthy, and the opposite of what you've learned, now as a corrective in your adult love life. This simple learning formulate has helped many of my patients begin taking control of their own love lives, as well as helping me improve my own love life. Learn to Love will help you learn how to take control of your love life. Dr. Thomas Jordan