I Hope This Finds You Well

The author of the #1 New York Times bestseller What Kind of Woman returns with a collection of found poems created from notes she received from followers, supporters and detractors - a ritual that reclaims the vitriol from online trolls and inspires readers to transform what is ugly or painful in their own lives into something beautiful. 'I'm sure you could benefit from jumping on a treadmill' 'Women WANT a male leader . . . It's honest to god the basic human playbook' These are some of the thousands of messages that Kate Baer has received online. Like countless other writers - particularly women - with profiles on the internet, as Kate's online presence grew, so did the darker messages crowding her inbox. These missives from strangers have ranged from 'advice' and opinions to outright harassment. At first, these messages resulted in an immediate delete and block. Until, on a whim, Kate decided to transform the cruelty into art, using it to create fresh and intriguing poems. These pieces, along with ones made from notes of gratitude and love, as well as from the words of public figures, have become some of her most beloved work. I Hope This Finds You Well is drawn from those works: a book of poetry birthed in the darkness of the internet that offers light and hope. By cleverly building on the harsh negativity and hate women often receive - and combining it with heart-warming messages of support, gratitude, and connection, Kate Baer offers us a lesson in empowerment, showing how we too can turn bitterness into beauty.

An Instant #1 New York Times Bestseller A Goop Book Club Pick "If you want your breath to catch and your heart to stop, turn to Kate Baer."--Joanna Goddard, Cup of Jo A stunning and honest debut poetry collection about the beauty and hardships of being a woman in the world today, and the many roles we play - mother, partner, and friend. “When life throws you a bag of sorrow, hold out your hands/Little by little, mountains are climbed.” So ends Kate Baer’s remarkable poem “Things My Girlfriends Teach Me.” In “Nothing Tastes as Good as Skinny Feels” she challenges her reader to consider their grandmother’s cake, the taste of the sea, the cool swill of freedom. In her poem “Deliverance” about her son’s birth she writes “What is the word for when the light leaves the body?/What is the word for when it/at last, returns?” Through poems that are as unforgettably beautiful as they are accessible, Kate Bear proves herself to truly be an exemplary voice in modern poetry. Her words make women feel seen in their own bodies, in their own marriages, and in their own lives. Her poems are those you share with your mother, your daughter, your sister, and your friends.

i close my eyes putting my most beautiful dream of watching you sleep to an end i hold you, because i can, and let my body whisper “you make self-love look so easy and beautiful.” - you gave a face to my future and my dreams you gave my direction a path my calls of hope a voice to reach my eyes a sight to see - “you’ve got sad eyes with a hint of braveness,” is all she said, that moment changed my life - i still think i just needed to be kissed, or hugged, or talked to about ordinary dreams, failures, about bridges and red rare bushes. about souls and personalities - broken personalities - and how they are fixable. how sadness isn’t here to stay but it might take a while. how some days you need to be on your own and just make it to the end of the day or cry it all out on your own because friends aren’t always there beside you. i just feel so deeply for everything, and i’m not sure if there’s anything scarier than that. because this is life. its cold and harsh with cracks of warmth and softness. - i slept. i dreamed of words. can you mend me? i hope this finds you is the question of all the answers you’ve been searching all your life.

More than a hundred stereotype maps glazed with exquisite human prejudice, especially collected for you by Yanko Tsvetkov, author of the viral Mapping Stereotypes project. Satire and cartography rarely come in a single package but in the Atlas of Prejudice they successfully blend in a work of art that is both funny and thought-provoking. A reliable weapon against bigots of all kinds, it serves as an inexhaustible source of much needed argumentation and—occasionally—as a nice slab of paper that can be used to smack them across the face whenever reasoning becomes utterly impossible. This second edition packs the most extensive collection of Tsvetkov’s maps to date in a single book suitable for all ages, genders, and races.

From the creator of the popular website Ask a Manager and New York’s work-advice columnist comes a witty, practical guide to 200 difficult professional conversations—featuring all-new advice! There’s a reason Alison Green has been called “the Dear Abby of the work world.” Ten years as a workplace-advice columnist have taught her that people avoid awkward conversations in the office because they simply don’t know what to say. Thankfully, Green does—and in this incredibly helpful book, she tackles the tough discussions you may need to have during your career. You’ll learn what to say when • coworkers push their work on you—then take credit for it • you accidentally trash-talk someone in an email then hit “reply all” • you’re being micromanaged—or not being managed at all • you catch a colleague in a lie • your boss seems unhappy with your work • your cubemate’s loud speakerphone is making you homicidal • you got drunk at the holiday party Praise for Ask a Manager “A must-read for anyone who works . . . [Alison Green’s] advice boils down to the idea that you should be professional (even when others are not) and that communicating in a straightforward manner with candor and kindness will get you far, no matter where you work.”—Booklist (starred review) “The author’s friendly, warm, no-nonsense writing is a pleasure to read, and her advice can be widely applied to relationships in all areas of readers’ lives. Ideal for anyone new to the job market or new to management, or anyone hoping to improve their work experience.”—Library Journal (starred review) “I am a huge fan of Alison Green’s Ask a Manager column. This book is even better. It teaches us how to deal with many of the most vexing big and little problems in our workplaces—and to do so with grace, confidence, and a sense of humor.”—Robert Sutton, Stanford professor and author of The No Asshole Rule and The Asshole Survival Guide “Ask a Manager is the ultimate playbook for navigating the traditional workforce in a diplomatic but firm way.”—Erin Lowry, author of Broke Millennial: Stop Scraping By and Get Your Financial Life Together

One day in early February Nancy Perkins, a nurse in a decaying marriage, receives an assignment to care for a Vietnam War veteran suffering from a severe case of Alzheimer's. Not only does the patient, Jeremiah Jacobson, believe himself to be in the midst of war but he also believes all of his nurses and visitors to be deceased family members and friends from his tormented past. On the same day Andrea Waters, an anti-social high school senior with a painful past, is ordered by her father to visit Jeremiah on weekdays. Although reluctant, Andrea agrees to spend her afternoons with a grandparent she was never particularly close to and barely knows anything about. In order to communicate more easily with Jeremiah, Andrea and Nancy pretend to be the deceased relatives and friends he imagines them to be. They never thought doing so would change his life or theirs.

The author of the #1 New York Times bestseller What Kind of Woman returns with a collection of erasure poems created from notes she received from followers, supporters and detractors—an artform that reclaims the vitriol from online trolls and inspires readers to transform what is ugly or painful in their own lives into something beautiful. “I'm sure you could benefit from jumping on a treadmill” “Women WANT a male leader . . . It’s honest to god the basic human playbook” These are some of the thousands of messages that Kate Baer has received online. Like countless other writers—particularly women—with profiles on the internet, as Kate’s online presence grew, so did the darker messages crowding her inbox. These missives from strangers have ranged from “advice” and opinions to outright harassment. At first, these messages resulted in an immediate delete and block. Until, on a whim, Kate decided to transform the cruelty into art, using it to create fresh and intriguing poems. These pieces, along with ones made from notes of gratitude and love, as well as from the words of public figures, have become some of her most beloved work. I Hope This Finds You Well is drawn from those works: a book of poetry birthed in the darkness of the internet that offers light and hope. By cleverly building on the harsh negativity and hate women often receive—and combining it with heartwarming messages of support, gratitude, and connection, Kate Baer offers us a lesson in empowerment, showing how we too can turn bitterness into beauty.