Lesbian Ex Lovers

“We have earned a certain place in each other’s lives, and in the best of times we can rest on what we have made together.” Lesbian Ex-Lovers: The Really Long-Term Relationships examines the need for the development of better understanding and more critical analysis of lesbian ex-lover relationships. This eye-opening look into the minds and hearts of women offers personal insight into the possibilities for and potential pitfalls of lesbian ex-lover relations. This book contains personal stories, fictional accounts, poetry, and theoretical analyses of the frequency and significance of ex-lovers at different stages in a relationship. Topics of interest in Lesbian Ex-Lovers include: the roles ex-lovers play in our lives ex-lovers as contexts for change and development how we continue to be influenced by ex-lovers letting go and moving on ex-lovers as current friends and family themes of betrayal and loss of faith reconstructing friendships and community the mystique of the ex-lover friend/family connections among lesbian ex-lovers “Rather than totally scrap a relationship, we recycle it—from lover to ex-lover to friend in a relatively short half-life.” Lesbian Ex-Lovers is the only book in print that explores how a lesbian’s ex-lovers impact her subsequent romances and lifestyle. This special collection adds a new dynamic to the current literature for and about the lesbian community. Lesbian Ex-Lovers offers advice, anecdotes, and interpretations from such authors, poetesses, and artists as: Michelle Gibson, PhD—educator and editor of Femme/Butch: New Considerations of the Way We Want to Go— who says goodbye to her lover in a sad, passionate elegy Marny Hall—Psychotherapist, editor of the anthology Sexualities, and author of several books, including The Lavender Couch: A Consumer’s Guide to Psychotherapy for Lesbians and Gay Men—who muses on the unique bonding between lesbians and their ex-lovers, lending a mystique that surrounds the lesbian lifestyle Alison Bechdel—creator of the comic strip Dykes to Watch Out For—who presents a humorous comic strip thanking her former lovers for teaching her about herself Jane Futcher—newspaper reporter and author of three novels—who uses a chapter in her novel to illustrate the tensions that can occur when ex-lovers choose to remain friends, especially when those bonds provoke jealousy in both current and ex-lovers Renny Christopher—educator and award-winning poetess—who expresses her love, loss, and regret in three poems about her ex-lover and much more!

Lesbian Ex-Lovers Through stories and interviews, Dr Becker, renowned psychoanalyst charts the various stages of lesbian breakups.

In The Lesbian Love Companion, Marny Hall, Ph.D., a psychotherapist with twenty years' experience counseling lesbian couples, explores and celebrates lesbian relationships in all their complexity - and humor. Based on the idea that the key to healthy relationships lies in our ability to keep refining the story of our relationships, it presents the perfect blend of advice and inspiration for every lesbian looking for love. Interspersing real-life examples from Hall's practice, sound advice, and laugh-out-loud observations, The Lesbian Love Companion takes a completely fresh and honest approach to the unique relationship issues near and dear to every lesbian's heart. "Witty, perceptive, and wise" - Karla Jay, editor of Dyke Life and Lesbian Erotics " A delightfully practical and funny guidebook to exploring life after love . No coy language and no judgmental presumptions help us say yes to the relationships we want. When you go shopping for the next commitment ceremony, The Lesbian Love Companion is the perfect gift" - Jewelle Gomez, author of The Gilda Stories A wonderful book helping lesbians define our relationships on our terms--making a successful breakup as worthwhile as our commitments." - Suzanne Westenhoefer, lesbian comedienne "With dozens of real-life examples, [this] highly creative guide to everyday relationship pitfalls is a veritable Kama Sutra of emotional possibility." - Alison Bechdel, creator of Dykes to Watch Out For "[A] lively, smart, funny, and fun-to-read book that challenges our fairy tale notions that we will find one Ms. Right and settle down forever in undisturbed bliss. Hall...offers wise advice about how to keep one's sanity through the ins-and-outs of all these discombobulating and destabilizing experiences." - Lillian Faderman, author of Odd Girls and Twilight Loversand Surpassing the Love of Men

Friends as lovers; lovers as friends; ex-lovers as friends; ex-lovers as family; friends as family; communities of friends; lesbian community. These are just a few of the phrases heard often in the daily discourse of lesbian life. What significance do they have for lesbians? Do lesbians view friends as family and what does this analogy mean? What sorts of friendships exist between lesbians? What sorts of friendships do lesbians form with non-lesbian women, or with men? These and other questions regarding the kinds of friendships lesbians imagine and experience have rarely been addressed. Lesbian Friendships focuses on actual accounts of friendships involving lesbians and examines a number of issues, including the transition from friends to lovers and/or lovers to friends, erotic attraction in friendship, diverse identities among lesbians, and friendships across sexuality and/or gender lines.

This is a vivid, funny portrait of the four tumultuous years a young editor spent working in the gay press. the late 1970s, writes Amy Hoffman in this memoir of gay liberation before AIDS, before gay weddings, and before The L Word. Provocative, informative, inspiring, and absurd, with a small circulation but a huge influence, Gay Community News produced a generation of leaders, writers, and friends. In addition to capturing the heady atmosphere of the times - the victories, controversies, and tragedies - Hoffman's memoir is also her personal story, written with wit and insight, of growing up in a political movement; of her deepening relationships with charismatic, talented, and sometimes utterly weird coworkers; and of trying to explain it all to her large Jewish family.

Friends as lovers; lovers as friends; ex-lovers as friends; ex-lovers as family; friends as family; communities of friends; lesbian community. These are just a few of the phrases heard often in the daily discourse of lesbian life. What significance do they have for lesbians? Do lesbians view friends as family and what does this analogy mean? What sorts of friendships exist between lesbians? What sorts of friendships do lesbians form with non-lesbian women, or with men? These and other questions regarding the kinds of friendships lesbians imagine and experience have rarely been addressed. Lesbian Friendships focuses on actual accounts of friendships involving lesbians and examines a number of issues, including the transition from friends to lovers and/or lovers to friends, erotic attraction in friendship, diverse identities among lesbians, and friendships across sexuality and/or gender lines.

I have just broken up with my girlfriend, so I decided to start a journal: A 28-Day Journal of My Crazy Lesbian Breakup (and What the Radio Had to Say About It). Luckily I have my trusty group of friends to help me through the rough patches.but they have a few issues of their own.Tara is playing the role of "mistress" for a woman 20 years her senior. Amy is dealing with the drama of dating a woman who has just come out to her family. Karen, a transgendered lesbian, is hopelessly in love with a bisexual vixen. And, Jared, my heterosexual, sociopathic friend is considering abandoning relationships entirely and joining a monastery. Nice support group, huh? Meanwhile, I'm still in love my (ex)girlfriend that lives 1000 miles away. I'm hoping we can get back together, even though we can't seem to stop fighting about another woman who is relentlessly competing for my attention.her mother! Move over, Jerry Springer! The truth really is stranger than fiction sometimes.

I have just broken up with my girlfriend, so I decided to start a journal: A 28-Day Journal of My Crazy Lesbian Breakup (and What the Radio Had to Say About It). Luckily I have my trusty group of friends to help me through the rough patches.but they have a few issues of their own.Tara is playing the role of "mistress" for a woman 20 years her senior. Amy is dealing with the drama of dating a woman who has just come out to her family. Karen, a transgendered lesbian, is hopelessly in love with a bisexual vixen. And, Jared, my heterosexual, sociopathic friend is considering abandoning relationships entirely and joining a monastery. Nice support group, huh? Meanwhile, I'm still in love my (ex)girlfriend that lives 1000 miles away. I'm hoping we can get back together, even though we can't seem to stop fighting about another woman who is relentlessly competing for my attention.her mother! Move over, Jerry Springer! The truth really is stranger than fiction sometimes.