Love Unfu Ked

From the New York Times bestselling author of Unfu*k Yourself comes tough-love that explains what makes relationships work: you taking responsibility to fix yourself. “Love is patient, love is blind. . .” Until it's not. Then what? No matter how much advice we get or how much work we do on our “stuff,” nothing ever seems to make the difference. The truth of it is, you’re woefully ill-equipped for one of the most life-defining things you will ever take on—being in a committed relationship. Whether you’re currently in one, want to be in one, half in–half out, getting over one, married, single, separated, divorced, or just overwhelmed with the whole thing, let’s cut through the morass of relationship schtick and put you back in charge. No flowery BS, no woo-woo strategies, systems, or techniques, just real talk, for real people who want a real relationship in their life that actually works.

Compelling and straight-shooting wisdom for coping with whatever challenges life throws at us from the New York Times bestselling author of Unfu*k Yourself. In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop taught millions of readers how to silence the negative, self-sabotaging voice in their head to thrive. In Wise As Fu*k he expands on his ideas, redefining what it means to be wise and showing how to tackle problems and improve our lives and those of others. When the shit storms of life hit us, many of us don’t know what to do—whether it’s losing a job, suffering a broken heart, or just feeling a lack of purpose. We need wisdom to help us navigate forward. While the internet is full of seemingly good advice, it isn’t helping us actually change our lives. Wise As Fu*k breaks through the bullshit, providing insight to inspire us in the four areas we need it most: love, loss, fear, and success. Written with his widely admired no-nonsense style, Wise As Fu*k provides a welcome fresh perspective to help us transform how we approach a variety of life’s problems. But Bishop makes clear, the work doesn’t stop there. Now that you’ve unfu*ked yourself and and are wise as fu*k about these touchy areas, you can apply the lessons to make a positive impact on the world.

Based on the New York Times bestseller Unfu*k Yourself comes an all new book of prompts, questions, and exercises, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to finally unfu*king your life. In Unfu*k Yourself, Gary John Bishop inspired people to put his words into action to transform their fu*king lives. Through seven paradigm shifting assertions such as: “I am wired to win,” “I embrace the uncertainty” and “I expect nothing and accept everything,” Bishop helped millions of readers to move past their self-imposed limitations. Still, Bishop knows it’s hard to go from reading the book, feeling inspired, and then actually doing the necessary work. That’s where Do the Work comes in: it’s the kick in the ass you need to get moving and create the life you want. The workbook drills down into three categories — self, people, and purpose — to help you identify and remedy the challenges that frustrate and often cripple us. Filled with entirely new material, including personalized prompts and exercises with ample lined space to journal and process, Do the Work expands the lessons in Unfu*k Yourself, giving you the tools to intentionally commit to taking on your life. “This is a personal workshop for your brain, a legit resource where you can work your life out, what matters to you, what’s going to make the biggest difference and empower you to act in ways that make some palpable change to the direction your life is currently taking.” The truth will set you free, right? So what are you waiting for?

From the author of the New York Times and international bestseller Unfu*k Yourself Gary John Bishop presents a no-holds-barred guide to breaking through our cycles of self-sabotage to get what we want out of life.

UNFU*K YOURSELVES. It's life-changing magic.Once you actually read this book, it will change your love life more than you could imagine. You'll discover how to unfu*k yourselves in 7 days, the power to make fu*ked-up issues disappear like magic, get rid of love-wrecking dramas, fight less, love more, be happier, be a lover, not a leaver!

This book is for you. You who have been living in pain, fenced in by fear, surviving but not really living. You who are exhausted searching for the one thing that will make it all better. You who have tried self-help courses, therapy, medication, changing relationships, reading piles of books, changing living situations, haircuts, eating plans,getting a pet, distractions, exercise, yoga, staying in bed all day,sleeping more, sleeping less, detoxing, smoothies, journaling, talking about it, not talking about it, being social, sitting in solitude, long baths, long drives, vision boards, workshops, crying on the kitchen floor, screaming in the woods, changing jobs. This is for you who have tried it all...and yet nothing has worked. Nothing has taken away the feelings. Nothing has stopped the mean thoughts from coming. Nothing has soothed the self-loathing and shame. Nothing has quieted the anxiety and panic. Nothing has lifted the weight of depression off of your chest. Nothing has set you free from the cycle of pain, struggle, hope, and disappointment. That's what this book is here to help you with, dear one. Just one more book. Just one more try. There are things that most of us are never taught about how to deal with being human. In these pages are 8 concepts that will change how you relate to these thoughts and feelings that have kept you down for so long. In 8 weeks, these concepts can help you start to break free, to start living instead of just going through the motions. More freedom of movement. More freedom to choose. More freedom to live the way you haven't even dared to wish for all these years, that you thought was for other people but not for you. Ready? It's time. Let's do this. After nearly two decades of listening to therapy clients, and many more years dealing with trauma, tragedy, chronic illness, and other adventures, Dr. Jo, a licensed clinical psychologist and registered yoga teacher, has condensed their training and experience into these chapters. Each one offers a different tool for increasing your resilience, ease, and confidence in facing anything that life brings your way, along with ideas for practicing it in everyday life. Peppered with personal examples and a playful, warm style, this accessible owner’s manual for the mind offers practical advice, relief, and loving encouragement for anyone struggling with emotional or physical pain who has become frustrated with traditional approaches and is ready to try something different.

“The most crucial relationship advice book since Men Are from Mars.”—Erin Meanley, Glamour.com A groundbreaking, interactive relationship tool that literally places in the hands of couples the power to transform chronically frustrating relationship dynamics. We've all been there. A conversation with a loved one escalates into conflict. Voices rise to a fever pitch and angry, accusative words fly through the air. At times like these, it seems impossible to find the magic words that will lead to healing. Enter Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love. A psychotherapist with decades of experience in counseling couples, Nancy Dreyfus hit upon the revolutionary practice outlined in this book during a couples-therapy session in which a wife’s unrelenting criticism of her husband was causing him to become emotionally withdrawn. In the midst of this, Dreyfus found herself scribbling on a scrap of paper, “Talk to me like I'm someone you love,” and gestured to the husband that he should hold it up. He did and within seconds the familiar power differential between the two shifted, and a gentler, more genuine connection emerged. Dreyfus was startled, then intrigued, and then motivated to create a tool that could help others. This book features more than one hundred of Dreyfus's "flash cards for real life," written statements that express what we wish we could communicate to the person we love, but either can't find the right words or the right tone in which to say it. The statements include: • Taking responsibility: "I realize I'm overreacting. Can you give me a minute to get sane again?" • Apologizing: "I know I've really hurt you. What can I do to help you trust me again?" • Loving: "You are precious, and I get that I haven't been treating you like you are." A one-of-a-kind, practical relationship tool, Talk to Me Like I'm Someone You Love will help couples to stop arguing and begin healing.