Making Love Real

If you are thinking about ordering this book, you probably have a strong desire to work on your relationship, but the steps to take to create any kind of real and lasting changes may feel like a mystery. You may have tried everything from taking a romantic vacation to buying a drawer full of feathers, candles and sex toys you still haven't used. You may have even gone to couples therapy and learned some tools for good communication. Making Love Real will help you take your relationship to the next level, one that includes both your emotional and your sexual connection. Written by two pioneering sex therapists and relationship coaches who have worked successfully with countless individuals and couples helping them improve their relationships and sort out their sexual challenges, this comprehensive guide offers you an in-depth understanding of sexual desire and relationship dynamics as well as a highly practical set of tools that will help you have deep and lasting transformation in your relationship. You will learn why you have the same fight over and over again and how to break the cycle to repair and heal old resentments. You will find out what actually turns people on psychologically and physically and how to have an honest, supportive conversation about your desires. You will learn how to handle the day-to-day ups and downs of relationship and how to use challenges in your relationship to deepen intimacy instead of eroding it. You will create the passionate connection you've always wanted.

A self-help psychology title for adults who wish to communicate with empathy, respect and authenticity (ERA). Background on common miscommunication is provided and readers are invited to use the ERA Process, developed by the author from her research and that of others, to end communication problems and take their relationship to a more loving, honest level. Practice dialog format is included.

Robert Johansen's and Todd Gaffaney's breakout book, Making Love - How to Create, Enjoy, and Sustain Intimacy, is a beautifully written, easy to understand, clinically proven concept that teaches the reader how he or she can create and sustain love for their partner. Making Love is an extremely important book for today's times, given that a staggering sixty-seven percent of couples married after 1990 are divorced. Ironically, marriage counselors divorce at the same alarming rate as the national average. While these failed relationship statistics are troubling, there is hope for a better tomorrow. Author's Johansen and Gaffaney's research evolved into a groundbreaking and clinically tested model that gives readers the tools to thrive in their marriage or relationship. What Other Doctors Have Said About Making Love: The authors have brought a refreshing and new perspective to the difficulties and complexities of the intimate relationship. Making Love offers a uniquely inspiring view on how partners can grow love for each other. I highly recommend it. - Sherry Lewis, PhD. LCSW Drs. Johansen and Gaffaney have devised a very powerful model for effectively intervening in couples lives to improve their intimacy. Their model reduces strife while teaching relating partners intimacy-building communication techniques. This book will benefit professional therapists and lay people alike. - Diana Haberland, M.A., Marriage and Family Therapist, Private Practice I had the great opportunity to put the principles contained in this book to a scientific test for my doctoral dissertation. The results of my research were very positive to say the least. But perhaps even more importantly, I have applied these principles with clients in my practice and have seen first hand how effective they are. By offerring an organizing perspective on the complex data couples bring to therapy, the model reduces anxiety in clients and treating therapists. The model changes our traditional views on love and marriage. I strongly recommend it. - Ian T. Johansen, PhD, Clinical Psychologist, Private Practice, Author, Private Practice This book can change one's life. The authors have lucidly presented profoundly simple principles that enable couples to understand their own needs, hear those of their partner, and work toward continued open and nurturing communication and fulfillment. My own professional and personal growth after thirty years as a psychologist continues to be informed by this landmark addition to the practice of couples therapy." - Lester Mindus, PhD, Private Practice

What you're reading right now is known as the "cover copy," or “flap copy.” This is where the 84,951 words of my latest book are cooked down to 350 words or less to capture your imagination/download. I pondered how to do that. Should I cut to the chase and reveal pivotal plot points like the one at the end of the book where the little girl on crutches points an accusing finger and shouts, "the killer is Mr. Porter"? No. I have too much respect for you as an intelligent consumer to attempt such an obvious ruse. But let's not play games here. You clicked your way to this page, so you either: A. Know who I am. B. Like the cool smoking jacket I'm wearing on the cover. Or: C. Thought this was a secret link to Ashley Madison. Is it a sequel to my autobiography If Chins Could Kill: Confessions of a B Movie Actor? Sadly, no, which made it much harder to write. Is it an "autobiographical novel"? Yes. I am the lead character in the story (coincidentally an actor), and I am a real person, and everything in the book actually happened - except for the stuff that didn't. The action revolves around my preparations for a pivotal role in the A-list relationship film, Let's Make Love! My Homeric attempt to break through the glass ceiling of B-grade genre fair is hampered by a vengeful studio executive and a production that becomes infected by something called the "B-movie virus" - symptoms of which include excessive use of cheesy special effects, slapstick, and projectile vomiting. From a violent fistfight with a Buddhist to a life-altering stint in federal prison, this novel has it all. And if the 84,951 words are too time-consuming, there are lots and lots of cool graphics – all of which have been upgraded to vibrant color since the first publication. I hope you enjoy the book – and if you learn anything at all about making love, please share it with me! Regards, Bruce "Go Ahead and Call Me Ash" Campbell

Offers middle-aged couples advice on overcoming emotional and physical problems that prevent a satisfying sex life, providing information on diagnosing and treating medical conditions, confronting adultery, and enhancing desire.

“A beautifully written and well-researched cultural criticism as well as an honest memoir” (Los Angeles Review of Books) from the author of the popular New York Times essay, “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This,” explores the romantic myths we create and explains how they limit our ability to achieve and sustain intimacy. What really makes love last? Does love ever work the way we say it does in movies and books and Facebook posts? Or does obsessing over those love stories hurt our real-life relationships? When her parents divorced after a twenty-eight year marriage and her own ten-year relationship ended, those were the questions that Mandy Len Catron wanted to answer. In a series of candid, vulnerable, and wise essays that takes a closer look at what it means to love someone, be loved, and how we present our love to the world, “Catron melds science and emotion beautifully into a thoughtful and thought-provoking meditation” (Bookpage). She delves back to 1944, when her grandparents met in a coal mining town in Appalachia, to her own dating life as a professor in Vancouver. She uses biologists’ research into dopamine triggers to ask whether the need to love is an innate human drive. She uses literary theory to show why we prefer certain kinds of love stories. She urges us to question the unwritten scripts we follow in relationships and looks into where those scripts come from. And she tells the story of how she decided to test an experiment that she’d read about—where the goal was to create intimacy between strangers using a list of thirty-six questions—and ended up in the surreal situation of having millions of people following her brand-new relationship. “Perfect fodder for the romantic and the cynic in all of us” (Booklist), How to Fall in Love with Anyone flips the script on love. “Clear-eyed and full of heart, it is mandatory reading for anyone coping with—or curious about—the challenges of contemporary courtship” (The Toronto Star).

Here is a liberating vision of love that offers couples powerful new ways of using words and touch to create levels of intimacy they have never reached before. Barbara De Angelis, Ph.D., reveals how partners can experience deeper sexual and emotional connections as she helps them become better lovers in--and out of--the bedroom. Interweaving the sensual and the spiritual, Real Moments for Lovers offers inspiration for finding profound meaning in our most intimate relationships. It shows couples how to make their relationship a sanctuary from stress and distress, and how lovemaking can not only satisfy the body but nourish the spirit. Combining wisdom, clarity, and exciting new insights, it is the unique and essential guide for all those seeking true spiritual and sexual fulfillment.

We are currently knee-deep in a Romance Apocalypse. There are more single adults than ever before, yet people are not connecting and forming real relationships. The US birth rate is at the lowest point in history, traditional values are under attack, and any sense of courtship behaviors and chivalry has all but died at this point. In Making Love Great Again, DeAnna explains who killed romance, and why many men are boycotting marriages with women and no longer interested in committing beyond a fling. She boldly explains the forces that have created a generation of adult men hooked on video games & pornography, and single women who unknowingly repel great men away, yet are lonely, over-worked, and much less happy than women of 50 years ago. She paints a frightening future of what's in-store for us in the next five years if no changes are made - including relationships with robots, a completely gender-neutral society, and the elimination of intimacy and marriage. She then lays out her Making Love Great Again plan to this ship around, revive romance, and start WINNING again in your relationships. You'll find out what your opposite sex really wants & needs right now and what s been missing in order to better understand them, connect with them, and attract them. This book is a wakeup call to every man and woman, but also a practical action plan for making love great again for yourself - and the world - that will leave you winning in dating and love!