Raising Real Men Surviving Teaching And Appreciating Boys

Families with boys often find the world reacts to them in mock horror. Even though parents love their sons, privately they admit that boys can be a handful to raise--they are boisterous, competitive, reckless, distractable. The challenge of wills between parent and son starts early, and the quest to civilize young bulls may seem hopeless some days. Yet believers know that God has given them children as a gift of heaven, specially chosen for their particular families and marked as a blessing. If that's so, why does it seem so hard? How can we prepare these boys to serve God when it's all we can do to make it through another day? Isn't there a better way? Raising Real Men: Surviving, Teaching and Appreciating Boys shows the answer is emphatically yes. Written by the parents of six boys, Raising Real Men provides hope and encouragement to families with sons. Starting from the premise that God made boys to become men, Hal and Melanie Young offer Biblical principles and tested, practical ideas for training the manly virtues that can drive parents and teachers up the wall. This is a practical guide to equipping the hearts and minds of boys without breaking or losing your own. "...earthy, realistic, humorous, and scriptural ..." -- Douglas Wilson, author, Future Men "This is just what the doctor ordered for parents who want to raise capable Christian men of character." -- John Rosemond, author, Parenting By The Book

A landmark book that reveals the way boys think and that shows parents, educators and coaches how to reach out and help boys overcome their most common and difficult challenges -- by the bestselling author who changed our conception of adolescent girls. Do you constantly struggle to pull information from your son, student, or athlete, only to encounter mumbling or evasive assurances such as “It’s nothing” or “I’m good?” Do you sense that the boy you care about is being bullied, but that he’ll do anything to avoid your “help?” Have you repeatedly reminded him that schoolwork and chores come before video games only to spy him reaching for the controller as soon as you leave the room? Have you watched with frustration as your boy flounders with girls? Welcome to Boy World. It’s a place where asking for help or showing emotional pain often feels impossible. Where sports and video games can mean everything, but working hard in school frequently earns ridicule from “the guys” even as they ask to copy assignments. Where “masterminds” dominate and friends ruthlessly insult each other but can never object when someone steps over the line. Where hiding problems from adults is the ironclad rule because their involvement only makes situations worse. Boy world is governed by social hierarchies and a powerful set of unwritten rules that have huge implications for your boy’s relationships, his interactions with you, and the man he’ll become. If you want what’s best for him, you need to know what these rules are and how to work with them effectively. What you’ll find in Masterminds and Wingmen is critically important for every parent – or anyone who cares about boys – to know. Collaborating with a large team of middle- and high-school-age editors, Rosalind Wiseman has created an unprecedented guide to the life your boy is actually experiencing – his on-the-ground reality. Not only does Wiseman challenge you to examine your assumptions, she offers innovative coping strategies aimed at helping your boy develop a positive, authentic, and strong sense of self.

At a time when many boys are in crisis, a much-needed roadmap for helping boys grow into strong and compassionate men Over the past two decades there has been an explosion of new studies that have expanded our knowledge of how boys think and feel. In How to Raise a Boy, psychologist Michael Reichert draws on his decades of research to challenge age-old conventions about how boys become men. Reichert explains how the paradigms about boys needing to be stoic and "man like" can actually cause them to shut down, leading to anger, isolation, and disrespectful or even destructive behaviors. The key to changing the culture lies in how parents, educators, and mentors help boys develop socially and emotionally. Reichert offers readers step-by-step guidance in doing just this by: • Listening and observing, without judgment, so that boys know they're being heard. • Helping them develop strong connections with teachers, coaches, and other role models • Encouraging them to talk about their feelings about the opposite sex and stressing the importance of respecting women • Letting them know that they don't have to "be a man" or "suck it up," when they are experiencing physical or emotional pain. Featuring the latest insights from psychology and neuroscience, How to Raise a Boy will help those who care for young boys and teenagers build a boyhood that will enable them to grow into confident, accomplished and kind men.

"A guide to the stages and issues in boys' development from birth to manhood"--Provided by publisher.

Hal and Melanie have a way of writing that makes you feel as though you are sitting down and having a conversation with them. What they write is solid. What they write is Biblical. What they write actually works and is doable. They don t pull punches or just try to make you feel good. They handle delicate issues with Biblical responses. Since we know that God s word never returns void, we know that this book will change lives. -Phyllis Sather, author of Purposeful Planning Hal & Melanie Young have written another fabulous and much-needed book, My Beloved and My Friend: How to Stay Married to Your Best Friend Without Changing Spouses. Brilliant book. Of course it is; I knew it would be. They are the folks...who wrote Raising Real Men. I loved that book, and I knew I d get a lot from this one too. -Debra Brinkman, Footprints in the Butter Faith should impact your behavior. This one truth, emphasized repeatedly in the Bible, prompts Jesus followers to adopt Jesus priorities and Jesus behaviors in our human relationships. In this book, Hal and Melanie seize this understanding and seek to apply it to the covenant relationship of marriage. -Dave Buller at Christian First This book was hard to put down, I have pages dog eared, I have highlighted sections that I want to return to and I ve shared several great passages with my husband. I love how Hal and Melanie Young shared their private life and the struggles that they have gone through. I felt like I was a special friend that they were confiding in and in return I was learning so much about myself. -Kimberly Huff at Natural Beach Living This book felt more like a conversation with friends than a how-to manual. This is not a rekindle your romance kind of book. It s also not a here s why you fight, now work around it kind of book. It s a straightforward story of how two sinners, saved by Grace, live out their marriage covenant while being best friends. It s the perfect kind of marriage book. -Laurie Bostwick at Our Abundant Blessings Noth-ing is held back as they use God s word to show a clear path to being a Godly cou-ple and hav-ing a mar-riage that show it as well. -Steve Blackston at Husband of a Homeschool Mom I ve read a few marriage books no, actually I haven t. I ve purchased a few books, read a few pages, got bored with them, and got rid of them. My Beloved and My Friend is different than all those other marriage books I ve come across. -Tabitha Zehner at The Homeschool Four

"Practical help. Real encouragement. Just what you need to cope with emotional meltdowns, motivate them to get school done, answer their spiritual questions, and most of all, protect your relationship with your eight to fourteen year olds"--Amazon.com.

Never has the transition from childhood to manhood been more dangerous or more confusing than it is today. With tragic results, today's boys rarely learn from the adults closest to them what it means to become a man. In this celebratory and hopeful book, Brian Molitor, a father of four, shows parents and other concerned adults how to bless young men with mentoring, intentional blessing, and rites of passage, so that they become the men God created them to be. Offering compassionate and creative solutions, Molitor shares: - What other cultures do to recognize a boy's coming of age- Biblical foundations for mentoring, intentional blessing, and rites of passage- How Parents can celebrate their son's coming of age- What churches can to do help boys grow into mature manhood - Tips for single parents and others with unique circumstances