Reclaim Your Marriage

Something Has to Change… You can’t put it into words, but something is happening to you. Your stomach churns, your heart aches, and the tension in your marriage is making you feel weary and a little crazy. The constant criticism, disrespect, cruelty, deceit, and gross indifference are eroding your confidence and breaking your spirit. For any woman caught in an emotionally destructive marriage, Leslie Vernick offers a personalized path forward. Based on decades of counseling experience, her intensely practical, biblical advice will show you how to establish boundaries and break free from emotional abuse. Learn to: · identify damaging behaviors · gain the skills to respond wisely · promote healthy change · stay safe · understand when, why, and even how to leave · recognize that God sees and hates what is happening to you Trying harder to be a perfect fantasy wife won’t help fix what’s wrong your marriage. Discover instead how you can initiate effective changes to stop the cycle of destruction and restore hope for the future. “Women in an emotionally abusive marriage do not need another book on how to have a good marriage; those books rub salt in raw wounds. No, they desperately need this book so that they can diagnose just how bad their marriage is and then, with Leslie’s clear expertise, develop a plan that will either begin to turn their marriage around...or give them a wise route of escape.” —Dee Brestin, author of Idol Lies and The Friendships of Women

When your husband struggles with pornography, your world is shattered.Where can you go with your grief, insecurities, fear, and even anger? Jenny Solomon comes alongside hurting wives and gently encourages them to bring their pain to God, who is able to reclaim their marriage.

Professional matchmaker and relationship coach, Jackie Dorman shares the teaching that has helped countless single women just like you get out their own way and get married in less than one year. Whether you haven’t dated for years or have never dated at all, it doesn’t matter—Married in 12 Months or Less is your personal guide on dating, overcoming past relationship trauma, and meeting the love of your life. What’s your love life look like? Be honest. Does it feel like everyone else is in a happy, committed relationship except for you? Do you ever ask yourself “Why does it seem so easy for other people to find love but so hard for me?” or “When is it going to finally be my turn?” If you’re tired of being the bridesmaid and not the bride, living in the pain of past hurts, or constantly attracting the wrong guys, this book is for you! Jackie Dorman has been there and she will help you get out of your own way and step into the Love Story that’s waiting just for you. In Married or 12 Months or Less, you will learn: how to heal your heart from past relationship trauma and learn the tools to prevent future trauma. how to recognize the blindspots that keep you from seeing and receiving the love that’s often right in front of you. proven ways to recognize red flags quickly in order to protect your time, energy and emotions. how to use the biblical law of attraction to attract high-quality romantic relationships from now on. how to embrace your divine feminine power to captivate the Spirit Mate that will love you for you. Are you ready to get unstuck? Get out of the waiting room and join the movement that is changing lives whether you are discouraged, divorced, or just plain depressed when it comes to love.

As a husband, what can you do when you are caught in the morass of pornography use? It might be tempting to give up and give in, but there is hope for your struggle and there is hope for your marriage. You might feel weak, helpless, and powerless to change, but Curtis Solomon points you to Jesus who is strong and powerful. In Christ our great Redeemer, it is possible to find the courage and grace to fight this battle, and your heart and your marriage can be redeemed, restored, and renewed. In Redeem Your Marriage: Hope for Husbands Who Have Hurt through Pornography, Curtis will guide you through a process to help you understand the hurt pornography has caused and to lament the effects of your struggle on your marriage. But you will not be left without hope--Curtis will help you learn to believe in the forgiveness of sins and Jesus's power to help turn away from sin and live for God's glory instead of momentary pleasure. God's grace and power is what you need to overcome the shame and guilt brought by porn use. His grace will catch you if you fail again, and his love will hold you fast as you seek to glorify him in every area of your life. You will see that true repentance and forgiveness will help both you and your wife move forward toward healing. This book was written in tandem with Reclaim Your Marriage: Grace for Wives Who Have Been Hurt by Pornography by Jenny Solomon, Curtis's wife. These in the context of mentoring, counseling, or accountability relationships to give biblical direction and hope in the midst of a difficult struggle. The Solomons know the struggle you are going through, but they also know and have experienced the power of the gospel to bring forgiveness, change, and healing.

It took Brian, my husband, and me some time to grasp the idea of purity while we were dating. After reading our story, you’ll see that making the commitment to purity was just the beginning. We had tasted the forbidden fruit for a number of years. Then I got to know Jesus in a new and powerful way as I recovered from an eating disorder. Brian eventually followed, and we knew things had to change. We had the difficult task of trying to figure out how to have a Christian dating relationship, living in the Garden of Eden, so to speak, right next to the tree but resisting the habit and compulsion of reaching for that fruit. How close to the forbidden tree can you get? Can you actually hold the apple in your hand but not taste it? There is no hard-and-fast rule I can give you for where to draw the line. However, I will share with you some lessons that I learned to show you how to build your relationship together through Christian dating. I will describe some strategies to keep the pilot light of your passion lit but under God’s gentle control. Then, how does it work to take two imperfect people, joined under God to become one in a loving marriage?

Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.

Leslie Vernick, counselor and social worker, has witnessed the devastating effects of emotional abuse. Many, including many in the church, have not addressed this form of destruction in families and relationships because it is difficult to talk about. With godly guidance and practical experience, Vernick offers an empathetic approach to recognizing an emotionally destructive relationship and addresses the symptoms and the damage with biblical tools. Readers will understand how to: Reveal behaviors that are meant to control, punish, and hurt Confront and speak truth when the timing is right Determine when to keep trying, when to get out Get safe and stay safe Build an identity in Christ This practical and thorough resource will help countless individuals, families, and churches view abuse from God's perspective and understand how vital it is for victims to embrace His freedom from the physical, emotional, spiritual, and generational effects of emotionally destructive relationships.