Relational Conversations On Meeting And Becoming

Demonstrating a relational, dialogic way of thinking and writing, this book offers an innovative perspective on the human potential for intersubjective engagement and on the nature of true encounter. The authors engage in creative, associative dialogues and trialogues inspired by psychoanalysis and Buddhism, poetry and religion, theory and case studies, academic and free styles of writing – each enriching the other. Reflecting on the essence of relating, they convey a flow between inner, private reveries and shared ones, and between individual expressions of thought and evolvements of newly born thirds. Through this interdisciplinary, experimental setting, the authors explore the possibility to reach truths and meanings that each individual would not have achieved on their own. Offering new concepts and formulations that may nourish psychotherapists’ thought and be usefully implemented in their practice, this book presents a pressingly unique and essential viewpoint for psychoanalysts and psychoanalytic psychotherapists in training and in practice.

This book proposes a new approach to mindfulness-based interventions, presenting them not as individual, but as relational practices. In the last decades, mindfulness has exerted a growing influence on many fields of research and activity, but always as an individual practice. The authors in this volume believe that the strong development of mindfulness today implies considering a dialogue between this individualistic approach and the perspective of relational mindfulness based on social constructionism. The volume is organized in two parts. The first part focuses on the theoretical foundations of relational mindfulness. The second part presents possibilities of applications of relational mindfulness in clinical and organizational settings to promote mental health and personal development. Relational Mindfulness: Fundamentals and Applications will be of interest to a wide range of professionals interested in applying mindfulness-based interventions in mental health care and productive organizations, such as clinical and health psychologists, public health professionals and human resources analysts and consultants, among others. "It is true that the metaphor of mindfulness has been enormously fruitful in its invitation to innovate. By removing meditative practices from their ancient roots, practitioners were free to create practices especially relevant to context. (...) At the same time, there was also a recognizable loss in the profoundly rich heritage that was left behind. For many of us, the greatest loss resulted from the absorption of such practices into Western individualism. What had once been an orientation to practice emphasizing our fundamental inter-being, had become a gateway to silent separation. It is in this context that the present volume bursts into significance. With special appreciation to the editors of this book, we are treated to a multi-dimensional exploration into the relational dimensions of mindfulness practices. Bringing ideas, experience, and wisdom from across professions, and across continents the contributors open an exciting path to the future." - Excerpt from the Foreword by Kenneth J. Gergen

Whether you’re newly together and eager to make it work or a longtime couple looking to strengthen and deepen your bond, Eight Dates offers a program of how, why, and when to have eight basic conversations with your partner that can result in a lifetime of love. “Happily ever after” is not by chance, it’s by choice– the choice each person in a relationship makes to remain open, remain curious, and, most of all, to keep talking to one another. From award-winning marriage researcher and bestselling author Dr. John Gottman and fellow researcher Julie Gottman, Eight Dates offers an ingenious and simple-to-implement approach to effective relationship communication. Here are the subjects that every serious couple should discuss: Trust. Family. Sex and intimacy. Dealing with conflict. Work and money. Dreams, and more. And here is how to talk about them—how to broach subjects that are difficult or embarrassing, how to be brave enough to say what you really feel. There are also suggestions for where and when to go on each date—book your favorite romantic restaurant for the Sex & Intimacy conversation (and maybe go to a yoga or dance class beforehand). There are questionnaires, innovative exercises, real-life case studies, and skills to master, including the Four Skills of Intimate Conversation and the Art of Listening. Because making love last is not about having a certain feeling—it’s about both of you being active and involved.

Relational Perspectives on Leading discusses leadership from a relational and social constructionism perspective as practiced on an everyday basis between people. The book pursues a fast growing, practice-based approach - particularly within the Anglo-Saxon parts of the world - to organization studies and organizational phenomena.

Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy (DDP) is a therapeutic approach, based in attachment theory, which is used to support children who have experienced relational trauma. By consciously offering PACE (playfulness, acceptance, curiosity, and empathy), adults can help children - and each other - to feel more secure and open to others. This guide provides an overview of DDP and explores how it can be used to support children in residential care settings. Case studies, examples, and expert guidance from the authors' extensive experience demonstrate how to apply the principles of DDP to daily practice. From integrating the PACE model into conversations - both with children and colleagues - to balancing physical safety with relational safety in secure care situations, this book offers a way to build a culture of support throughout the whole structure of residential care settings.

The highly anticipated sequel to the global bestseller 12 Rules for Life. In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in his long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality--order and chaos--and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful, and meaningful life.

This book discusses the complexities of pastoral supervision. Topics addressed are pragmatic aspects of supervision, for pastors in local congregations who supervise seminary interns to well-developed theoretical aspects of supervisory education utilized in clinical pastoral education. Readers will benefit from theoretical viewpoints and practical hands-on application to their ministry.

In this book Erik de Haan encourages coaches to reflect on their coaching practices and reassess the tensions within the coaching relationship. Across its three sections this book is about developing trust, nurturing love in response to fears and tensions, and practicing humility as your confidence and success as a coach grows. Drawing on his long career, De Haan offers personal and thought-provoking advice for coaches. He highlights the benefit of making use of what happens before you start a session, listening to what is not being said, and disclosing all informational advantage you might have over your client. This book: • Features an array of personal experiences and helpful ideas to put into practice • Includes insights and reflections on coaching relationships to apply to all helping relationships • Uses a relational and inclusive approach to resolve the complex tensions inherent in coaching relationships • Explores the richness of listening, engaging, and understanding, as well as recognising the value of humility. The Gift of Coaching illustrates how coaching can help us process and integrate everyday fears and anxieties towards a place of love and acceptance for ourselves and our relationships. This is an entertaining, erudite and insightful read for both beginners and experienced consultants, coaches, and supervisors. Erik de Haan is the Director of Ashridge's Centre for Coaching with thirty years of experience in executive coaching and other organizational and leadership development. He is Professor of Organisation Development at the VU University Amsterdam, with an MSc in Theoretical Physics and a PhD in Physics with his research into learning and decision-making processes in perception. He has a registered psychodynamic psychotherapist and has authored more than 200 articles and sixteen books. “De Haan takes a forensic look at what it means to nurture another person’s experience and in so doing produces an essential and immensely powerful book.” Marina Cantacuzino MBE, Founder of The Forgiveness Project “Erik opens a window into his deep learning which will be of significant benefit to both new and experienced coaches.” Gina Lodge, CEO, Academy of Executive Coaching (AoEC) “'The Gift of Coaching' is a compendium of coaching research, wisdom, and case study examples.” Joel DiGirolamo, VP of Research and Data Science, International Coaching Federation “de Haan wields concepts like love, humility and quality of relationships like a maestro inspiring an orchestra. As one of the most highly published scholarly authors in coaching, he has provided a rare book with deep intellectual foundations, prolific empirical evidence and engaging stories. He has left little room for future authors to add more than he has already said about coaching.” Richard Boyatzis, PhD, Professor, Case Western Reserve University, USA “Erik continues to enrich the coaching space with his insights and his commitment to the maturation of the field and its practitioners. He asks some important questions about our role in these times that are well-worth the read.” Dr David Drake, Founder and CEO, The Moment Institute “Erik takes us back to the essence of coaching by illustrating the importance of trust, love, fear and humility through case studies, research and his own vast experience. This is a worthy contribution to our continuous search for understanding the building blocks of our profession.” Dr Nicky Terblanche, Head of MPhil in Management Coaching, University of Stellenbosch, South Africa