Saving You Is Killing Me Loving Someone With An Addiction

“Don’t let someone else's problem destroy the person you were meant to be. You have the right to live a peaceful and fulfilled life full of love! In the book Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction, Andrea Seydel uses the scientific study of human flourishing and happiness to help you restore joy and teaches the reader how to struggle well through the challenges of addiction. You will learn the power of advocating for yourself and how your journey starts by taking back your power and shifting the focus onto you, not your addicted loved one. Seydel brings a wealth of support, lived experience, and her knowledge of positive psychology to help you prioritize your well-being and safeguard your mental health.” -Louisa Jewell MAPP Do you love someone with an addiction? Are you struggling? There is no mistaking it; addiction is a worldwide epidemic. People who struggle with addiction are not the only ones who feel the impact. If you know someone caught in the grips of addiction, you are undoubtedly living your own nightmare. You are probably desperate to find answers, scrambling to figure out what to do next and losing yourself in the process. Feeling hurt, broken and exhausted. Watching someone in active addiction is like mourning the loss of someone still alive. It is incredibly sad, confusing, and draining. The effects of addiction are rarely limited to the person with the addiction. Everyone around is affected in some way, and often it is family members or partners forced to pick up the broken pieces, make excuses, and potentially endure all types of abuse. The second-hand impact and havoc of addiction are often overlooked and underestimated. Are you done with coming second to addiction? Are you trapped in the line of fire and tired of being on an emotional rollercoaster? Or have you lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else? On the surface, Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction is about navigating the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, resilience, and happiness. But if you dig deeper, it is about creating a life you love, seeing your value, knowing your worth and being inspired to live a life that is better integrated with the person you are meant to be. As a leading voice advancing the science of applied Positive Psychology and the art of well-being, Andrea Seydel is devoted to sharing the science of resilience and ways to enhance your life even through struggle. Trauma and challenges are a fact of life; navigating the turmoil of loving someone with an addiction can be extremely damaging; Seydel teaches the reader how to struggle well and build resilience. Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction offers new hope for reclaiming your life. Seydel provides insights and learning opportunities for self-healing, recovery, and resilience that foster empowerment. When you know it’s time and are ready to prioritize your well-being and safeguard mental health despite someone else's addiction, Andrea Seydel’s book, podcast, and community will support you on the journey back to you. Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction is a helpful community to provide light to a dark path, so you don’t feel alone through this challenge. You don’t have to do this alone. Let’s get started on the journey back to you. “An astonishing amount of information on almost every aspect of resilience. When faced with the experience of trauma, manipulation, codependency, and toxic relationships, using research, interventions and the science of well-being, the reader can better advocate for their needs and reclaim their lives. It’s incredible the wealth of knowledge the author has brought together in this book, which has a distinctly holistic and compassionate feel.” -Rob Hannely Recovery Today magazine.

"Saving Me: One Day at a Time" is a beacon of hope and healing for anyone touched by the shadows of addiction. Andrea Seydel, drawing from her own personal journey of loving and losing someone to addiction, extends a hand of support and understanding to those facing similar challenges. In this remarkable book, part of the "Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone With an Addiction" series, Seydel brings the principles of positive psychology and resilience to life. Each day, readers will find a wellspring of strength, guidance, and encouragement to navigate the complexities of loving someone with addiction. This book is your daily companion, your source of solace, and your reminder that you are not alone. Seydel's insights are both heartfelt and practical, offering a lifeline of support as you prioritize your own well-being. Through the lens of positive psychology, you'll discover the power of gratitude, personal strength, and resilience in the face of addiction's challenges. If you're walking alongside someone battling addiction, "Saving Me: One Day at a Time" is an indispensable resource. Let it guide you on a journey of self-discovery, healing, and empowerment, one day at a time. Together, with Seydel's nurturing wisdom, you can nurture resilience and embrace hope as you step toward a brighter future filled with personal happiness. Rediscover the strength within you, and let each day be a testament to your resilience. With "Saving Me: One Day at a Time," Andrea Seydel offers you a lifeline of support, a wellspring of inspiration, and a path toward healing and reclaiming your life. Don't face addiction's shadows alone; let this book be your daily dose of resilience and hope on your journey to rediscovering joy. Dear Reader, In the midst of life’s challenges, struggles, and uncertainties, always remember this: “Every day may not be good, but there is something good in every day.” "Saving Me: One Day at a Time" aims to be your daily dose of positivity, providing uplifting support and resilience. It serves as a reminder that even in the darkest moments, there exists a glimmer of light, a spark of hope, and a silver lining. Whether you're on the journey of loving someone with addiction or grieving someone lost to addiction, let this book guide you in rediscovering joy, strength, and the importance of prioritizing your well-being. Each page stands as a testament to your inner resilience, offering compassionate support towards a brighter tomorrow. Know that you are not alone on this journey. Together, we will unearth the good in every day, or at the very least, help you navigate your struggles with grace. With warmth and encouragement, Andrea Seydel

"Tainted Love: Stay or Go? Navigating Tough Relationship Decisions in Addiction" is a compassionate and empowering guide penned by Andrea Seydel, a renowned positive psychology expert who intimately understands the complexities of loving someone battling addiction. As part of the acclaimed "Saving You Is Killing Me: Loving Someone with an Addiction" series, Seydel draws from her personal journey of love and loss, infusing each page with wisdom, empathy, and practical strategies to support readers facing similar challenges. In this poignant book, Seydel skillfully navigates the intricate dynamics of relationships touched by addiction, providing readers with invaluable insights and tools to make informed decisions about their futures. With a gentle and understanding tone, she explores the profound impact of addiction on individuals and relationships, helping readers gain clarity amidst the chaos. Through relatable anecdotes, thought-provoking exercises, and evidence-based strategies, Seydel guides readers on a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment. She emphasizes the importance of self-care, setting boundaries, and aligning personal values with individual goals, empowering readers to make choices that honor their well-being and resilience. "Tainted Love" serves as a beacon of hope for anyone grappling with the challenges of loving someone struggling with addiction. It offers a roadmap for navigating tough decisions, nurturing love, and finding clarity amidst uncertainty. With Seydel's compassionate guidance, readers will uncover the strength to embrace their own growth, reclaim their hearts, and forge pathways to healing and empowerment. Embark on this transformative journey with "Tainted Love, " and discover the courage to make choices that will shape your future with compassion, understanding, and resilience. Endorsements: "Having walked the challenging path of loving someone with addiction, I can attest to the invaluable wisdom and compassion Andrea Seydel offers in 'Tainted Love: Stay or Go? Navigating Tough Relationship Decisions in Addiction.' Her guidance is like a guiding light in the darkness, providing practical strategies and heartfelt support to those facing similar struggles. This book is a must-read for anyone seeking clarity, empowerment, and healing in the midst of loving someone battling addiction." Dr. Jonathan Parker, Clinical Psychologist and Author of "Breaking the Chains: Overcoming Addiction and Reclaiming Your Life" "Andrea Seydel's 'Tainted Love' is a profound and compassionate resource for anyone grappling with the complexities of loving someone struggling with addiction. As a therapist specializing in addiction recovery, I am deeply impressed by Seydel's ability to blend personal experience with evidence-based strategies, offering readers a roadmap to navigate the challenges with grace and resilience. This book is a testament to the power of self-discovery, self-care, and self-empowerment in the face of addiction's impact on relationships." Dr. Sophia Nguyen, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist

Are you feeling exasperated and helpless about your family member's addiction? Are you at your wit's end, having tried everything you can think of to make them stop? If someone you love is engaging in addictive behaviors such as alcohol and drug misuse, eating disorders, smoking, gambling, Internet addiction, sex addiction, compulsive overspending, or relationship addiction, you are undoubtedly experiencing unpredictability in your relationship. Some of the most common emotions you will experience include: - Guilt and shame - Anger and anxiety - Confusion and powerlessness Whether the addict in your life is your spouse, partner, parent, child, friend, or colleague, the key to changing this reality for yourself lies in shifting your focus from your loved one's addiction to you own self-care. This book presents a dramatically fresh approach to help you get off the roller-coaster chaos of addiction, maintain your own sanity and serenity, and live your best life.

The New York Times Bestseller What if everything you think you know about addiction is wrong? Johann Hari's journey into the heart of the war on drugs led him to ask this question--and to write the book that gave rise to his viral TED talk, viewed more than 62 million times, and inspired the feature film The United States vs. Billie Holiday and the documentary series The Fix. One of Johann Hari's earliest memories is of trying to wake up one of his relatives and not being able to. As he grew older, he realized he had addiction in his family. Confused, not knowing what to do, he set out and traveled over 30,000 miles over three years to discover what really causes addiction--and what really solves it. He uncovered a range of remarkable human stories--of how the war on drugs began with Billie Holiday, the great jazz singer, being stalked and killed by a racist policeman; of the scientist who discovered the surprising key to addiction; and of the countries that ended their own war on drugs--with extraordinary results. Chasing the Scream is the story of a life-changing journey that transformed the addiction debate internationally--and showed the world that the opposite of addiction is connection.

Set in rural, poverty-stricken North Carolina, this "beautiful, gritty, and piercing" novel follows two young women—best friends—as they "journey through the highs and lows of friendship, love, and addiction," perfect for readers of Julie Buntin's Marlena (Erika Carter, author of Lucky You). Irene, a lonely nineteen-year-old in rural North Carolina, works long nights at the local pool hall, serving pitchers and dodging drunks. One evening, her hilarious, magnetic coworker Luce invites her on a joy ride through the mountains to take revenge on a particularly creepy customer. Their adventure not only spells the beginning of a dazzling friendship, it seduces both girls into the mysterious world of pills and the endless hustles needed to fund the next high. Together, Irene and Luce run nickel-tossing scams at the county fair and trick dealers into trading legit pharms for birth-control pills. Everything is wild and wonderful until Luce finds a boyfriend who wants to help her get clean. Soon the two of them decide to move away and start a new, sober life in Florida—leaving Irene behind. Told in a riveting dialogue between the girls' addicted past and their hopes for a better future, Bewilderness is not just a brilliant, funny, heartbreaking novel about opioid abuse, it's also a moving look at how intense, intimate friendships can shape every young woman's life.

Would you like to experience more happiness and spontaneity in your life? Do you feel life isn’t as fun and exciting as it could be and crave more positivity, closer relationships, and a deeper understanding of what matters most to you? You need to play! In the book, The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potential, you will discover how igniting joy and uplifting experiences through the power of play can transform your life, help you through challenging times and even lead you on a path to appreciation and great fulfillment. Play positively matters. From International award-winning fitness professionals and two leading voices advancing the science of applied Positive Psychology and the art of well-being, Elaine O’Brien, Ph.D., and Andrea Seydel are devoted to sharing the science and ways to enhance your life through play. You will discover valuable cutting-edge research and hundreds of FUNTANEOUS activities created to spark your energy, ease your stress, and increase your happiness. You don’t want to underestimate the power of play. Learn the secret of creating a “play mindset” that sparks meaning, loving connections, mastery, and laughs. In this playbook for grownups, you will learn to “optimize your joy potential,” the capacity to be open to experiences of joy, by harnessing your self-awareness, happy habits, and positive action. It’s vital and in your power to play, learn, move, rest, be in nature, perform, and live with wonder every day. Elaine and Andrea will show you how valuing play safeguards your mental health and is essential to your life. The Power of Play: Optimize Your Joy Potentialis designed to show you how you can have much more fun and be happier and healthier. The Power of Play is a game changer.

Addiction is an increasing problem in our society. While there are a variety of programs and “steps” that addicts can follow to work towards recovery, there is no rule book for us—the people who are in love with an addict. All of our journeys are different and yet, the same—filled with chaos, uncertainty, and confusion. This book may not hold any magical solutions to your challenges, but it just might provide you with the comfort and companionship that the author longe