Self Ish

“An intelligent, thoughtful look at the complex journey that is gender transition” from an openly transgender Quaker woman and human rights activist (Joy Ladin, author of Through the Door of Life). SELF-ish is a narrative drawn from an international life, beginning with some early glimpses out at the world by a girl in a boy’s body. Chloe Schwenke was raised as Stephen in a Marine Corps family, and was sent off at age fourteen to “man-up” at a military academy. Later—and still embodied as a man—she ventured abroad to work in some of the roughest regions of Africa, the Gaza Strip, Turkey, and many other locales. Her far-flung global journey was matched in intensity by an inner identity and spiritual struggle and the associated ravages of depression, before she came to the revelation of being a transgender woman. At a time when many Americans are just waking up to the reality of the transgender phenomenon, this portrayal of Chloe’s life, her challenging gender transition, and her many accomplishments and adventures along the way (including being among the first three transgender political appointees in U.S. history, under President Obama), creates a poignant story of authenticity, self-discovery, and the meaning of gender set against a fascinating international backdrop. “Takes the reader through a powerful, heart-wrenching journey of the innumerable, daunting challenges of gender transition confronted by a transgender woman. It is ultimately also a story of extraordinary courage in persevering through formidable odds to be true to oneself. Schwenke underscores the moral, human and societal imperative to confront and ameliorate the challenges faced by transgender people, and others marginalized by mainstream society.” —Sanjay Pradhan, CEO, Open Government Partnership

Create your inspirational playbook for life. Self!sh | adj. | taking time for oneself every day. Some might call that selfish. We say own it. This is your personal playbook for your mindset. Your tool kit to cope and grow. It’s unique to you. It gets you back to the best of You. Yes, it’s a good thing to take care of yourself. You’ll bring more of what you cherish and value to the world and those around you. That's self!sh. Chances are, if you’ve picked up this workbook, you are looking for a mind shift. You want more out of life. You are self-motivated to “do the work” to heal, grow, and thrive. Take a journey inward with humility and compassion. Forget the roles you play, the job title or the status symbol. Surrender. Make space for all of you, the bold and the vulnerable. This isn’t about proving anything to yourself or anyone else. There is no audience here. Quiet down your inner critic. Follow your heart. Surprise yourself! Built around eight self-reflection exercises, this workbook will guide you every step of the way through prompts, questions and examples that will culminate in you creating your personal Playbook. You will be empowered to cultivate a sense of worth tied to your intrinsic value, your character, and your principles. You will gain clarity on what is truly important to you, what motivates you, and what gets you emotionally charged to live the life you want.

Welcome to your Pocketbook Guide to start the path of living your most fulfilling life. Incorporate more feel-good days without the GUILT in this journey of replacing selfless acts with the positivity and necessity of being SELF-ISH! What was once considered a societal negative- toned word, selfish, has since been renewed with this author's remarkable perspective of breaking down the word into two distinct parts: self and -ish. The takeaway here is- we cannot be our best for others unless we are our best for ourselves. Covering talking points of self-care, communicating with purpose, navigating relationships, and prioritizing your needs. Don't be selfless and focus on others... be SELF-ISH and focus on yourself, how you spend your time alone, and how and when you will spend your time with others. After all... haven't you heard? Self-ish is the new selfless! Throughout this guide, you can find the following short but sweet reads that consist of 3 sections: The Pocketbook Guides, The Heartfuls, and The Random Stuff. Readers are encouraged to embrace putting themselves first. The Pocketbook Guides are focused on deciding who you want to be a part of your life and how. With an emphasis on choice, communication, and maintaining boundaries. The Heartfuls encompass compassion and empathy towards ourselves and others. The Heartfuls enhance mental health well-being through self-care, self-love, and a special focus on self-worth when seeking a life-long partner. The Random Stuff is a hodgepodge focus of: Friendly reminders to keep ourselves healthy Reminders to do what we love most How to support "young ones" in recognizing and developing a passion A discussion of "college or no college" Preparing for a job interview Making time to do things you enjoy and are interested in (even alone-embrace it) is what promotes a feel-good-more-often kind of life. A life that everyone deserves. This book represents embracing the self with self-care, self-love, self-compassion, and SELF-ISH decisions. Remember, we can't be our best for others if we are not our best for ourselves. After all, didn't you hear? Self-ish is the new selfless.

The dawn of the Enlightenment saw heated debates on self-love. Do people only act out of self-interest? Or is there a less pessimistic explanation for human behaviour? Maurer delves into the contributions to these debates from both famous and lesser known authors, including Lord Shaftesbury, Bernard Mandeville, Francis Hutcheson, Joseph Butler, Archibald Campbell, David Hume and Adam Smith, and puts them in their philosophical, theological and economic context. Maurer identifies five distinct conceptions of self-love and looks at their role within theories of human psychology and morality while drawing attention to the heuristic limits of our contemporary notion of egoism. He compares the central arguments and the different strategies intended to morally rehabilitate human nature and self-love before and during the Enlightenment.

If you're ready to embark on a journey of self-discovery and unlock your transformational abilities, "I'm Not Selfish, I'm Self First, And It's Non-negotiable" can be a helpful guide for you. By following the actionable steps outlined in this book, you can tap into the power of manifestation and unleash the potential that lies within you. Prioritizing your own needs and desires without feeling guilty or selfish is crucial, and this book can help you create a life that aligns with your values and goals. So, take the first step towards a more fulfilling and empowered life with "I'm Not Selfish, I'm Self First, And It's Non-negotiable."

This book proceeds from a single and very simple observation: throughout history, and up to the present, women have received a clear message that we are not supposed to prioritize ourselves. Indeed, the whole question of "self" is a problem for women – and a problem that issues from a wide range of locations, including, in some cases, feminism itself. When women espouse discourses of self-interest, self-regard, and selfishness, they become illegible. This is complicated by the commodification of the self in the recent Western mode of economic and political organization known as "neoliberalism," which encourages a focus on self-fashioning that may not be identical with self-regard or self-interest. Drawing on figures from French, US, and UK contexts, including Rachilde, Ayn Rand, Margaret Thatcher, and Lionel Shriver, and examining discourses from psychiatry, media, and feminism with the aim of reading against the grain of multiple orthodoxies, this book asks how revisiting the words and works of selfish women of modernity can assist us in understanding our fraught individual and collective identities as women in contemporary culture. And can women with politics that are contrary to the interests of the collective teach us anything about the value of rethinking the role of the individual? This book is an essential read for those with interests in cultural theory, feminist theory, and gender politics.

SELF-ISH: Mastering self in a selfish business world is a humorous, honest, no frills business book that offers 28 business and life lessons to start up owners on managing their small businesses. The book offers a series of social commentary that ranges from the impact of black tax amongst black entrepreneurs, dealing with depression as an entrepreneur, personal branding for your brand as well as dealing with egotistical and greedy entrepreneurs in the business world. The book offers a business canvas section that has easy-to-use business templates for day to day operational management, cash and income statement planning, human resources interview forms, marketing and digital branding plans and other relevant business templates for any start up professional that wants to manage their business effectively and efficiently. SELF-ISH offers a real-life mosquito view of the business world by Mbali Bhengu, a businesswoman who has experienced business in a crude and honest manner, yet has easily juxtaposed her small business experience with insight, empowerment and hope for entrepreneurs. The Lessons presented in SELF-ISH range from "Dealing with Ringleaders and Bullshitters", "Build it, brand it & boast about it", "Know your numbers, period" and "How to secure the bag (a personal branding perspective)" amongst many other informative business and life lessons. Grab your copy today.

Written prior to becoming a psychotherapist, the first-time author explores the concept of selfishness in a non-pejorative light. Conceiving of many potential roads to and sources of happiness, Ison views vigilant self-awareness as a necessary step toward liberating oneself from the cycle of sacrifice, self-contempt, and depression that stifles the personal pursuit of happiness. Through self-analysis, self-interest, and exploration, Ison argues that individuals can learn how to answer life's most important question: "What will make me happy?" As a still picture of a continually developing theory, this book provides fascinating insight into the individual pursuit of happiness.