The Myth Of Forgiving Others

‘Just let it go and forgive others.’ Heard it often? When we forgive, we not only forget and let go of our hatred and disappointment, we are also supposed to start back on a clean slate and love them unconditionally. Do we do that really? Deep down in our psyche, forgiving others in the above sense stays with us only as a myth, not a reality. And myths always trap us and entangle us in a maze of misinformation and especially misunderstandings so that it becomes virtually impossible for us to get out and see the road ahead, until we take a pause, look around very carefully, marking the pointers through which we have already gone round and round! Once we do that, there is a possibility that wisdom finally dawns on us. What, then, is the real meaning of forgiving others? If we can’t forgive, should we continue to get stuck forever in the same negative energies of hurt, hatred and pain? The solution for pain is not more pain, but understanding, compassion and healing! But how do we get there?

'Just let it go and forgive others.' Heard it often? When we forgive, we not only forget and let go of our hatred and disappointment, we are also supposed to start back on a clean slate and love them unconditionally. Do we do that really? Deep down in our psyche, forgiving others in the above sense stays with us only as a myth, not a reality. And myths always trap us and entangle us in a maze of misinformation and especially misunderstandings so that it becomes virtually impossible for us to get out and see the road ahead, until we take a pause, look around very carefully, marking the pointers through which we have already gone round and round! Once we do that, there is a possibility that wisdom finally dawns on us. What, then, is the real meaning of forgiving others? If we can't forgive, should we continue to get stuck forever in the same negative energies of hurt, hatred and pain? The solution for pain is not more pain, but understanding, compassion and healing! But how do we get there?

The Forgiveness Myth, a bold, ground-breaking book, refutes the notion that those who have been hurt cannot recover their inner peace and happiness unless, and until, they forgive. For centuries, forgiveness has been assumed to be the only legitimate way to recover from interpersonal hurts. Yet millions are either unable or unwilling to forgive, including many who have gone through divorce, suffered abuse, or are in recovery or therapy. Countless individuals who have suffered discrimination due to their sexuality, race, religion, or ethnicity also resist or reject forgiving. And many who aren't able to forgive themselves are prisoners of unresolved feelings of guilt, regret, or shame. The Forgiveness Myth explains why forgiving doesn't always work and what readers can do instead to reclaim their peace and happiness. There are times when forgiving works very well, and times when an alternative approach will be more effective. Readers are encouraged to choose what works best for them.

More than just a book full of the latest information, this is a dynamic, interactive, and personalized journey of recovery for those impacted by adverse childhood experiences (ACES). Finally, they can put their past behind them where it belongs! For those who have grown up in a family with addiction, mental illness, or other adverse childhood experiences (ACES), the heartache and pain doesn’t end when they grow up and leave home. The legacy can last a lifetime and spread to generations unseen, as author Janet Wotitiz first showed readers in the groundbreaking Adult Children of Alcoholics. In The ACoA Trauma Syndrome Dr. Tian Dayton picked up where Dr. Woititz left off, filling in the decades of research that tell us why pain from yesterday recreates itself over and over again in our today. In The Soulful Journey of Recovery, Dr. Dayton gives us the how. There is a journey of recovery that you can start today. Simple, elegantly written and researched, poignant, penetrating, and on point, Dr. Dayton will move with you through the confusion, pain, and anger you may carry in secrecy and silence. Through engaging and enlightening exercises, you will give voice to hidden wounds and space to your innermost emotions and thoughts. Online links will also offer guided meditations, film clips and other tools to enhance the work you do in the book. You will learn what happened to you growing up with dysfunction and you will learn how to deal with it in the present. You will discover that recovery is a self-affirming life adventure, and the kindest and best thing you can do for yourself and future generations. Some books can change your life. This is one of them.

Filled with stories, examples, and encouragement, the book dispels some common myths about self-forgivenessThe co-authors pave the way for the reality that self-forgiveness is an act of love toward yourself, and they show how you can rid yourself of destructive and unwarranted anger and guilt in order to restore your sense of self-worth as a child of God.

Bestselling author, psychologist, and psychodramatist Dayton examines childhood trauma through an exploration of the way the brain and body process frightening or painful emotions and experiences.

Riting Myth, Mythic Writing: Plotting Your Personal Story is a both a theoretical as well as interactive book on the nature of personal myth. Its intention is to offer participants who wish to explore further the terms and structure of their personal myth over 80 writing meditations that are spread throughout 9 chapters in order to guide the readers-writers on a pilgrimage into the deepest layers of their personal myth.