The Road To Marital Success Is Unpaved

This highly readable research-based book provides surprising answers to this simple question in plain language. Successfully married spouses have a realistic understanding of marriage and demonstrate effective marriage skills when compared to those in troubled marriages. The authors tell the reader those “secret” understandings of marriage, but more importantly, describe the skills needed to be successful and how to learn those skills. The book is a practical roadmap for married people to realize their dreams of a life-long marriage worth lasting. The book explodes myths about marriage, explains why the challenges and struggles of marriage are normal, how to get through them and reassures us that when a marriage is successful, the effort is worthwhile. The book treats marriage as a “game” and describes how to play it well and have fun playing it. The skills are presented as practical behaviours that can be learned and applied as soon as the next day. The skills turn many ideas about marriage, and even some expert advice, on their head, and while acknowledging that a successful marriage can seem magical, the book exposes the secrets and tricks behind the magic. This is a book for people starting out in a marriage, for people struggling in a troubled marriage, and even for people heading for divorce who would like to turn around their marriage. The book makes clear that reaching a successful marriage is not easy, but that most marriages can be successful. More importantly, the book offers hope and a practical “we can do it” and “here is how” approach. Finally, the book offers a roadmap to mental health counsellors (psychologists, marriage, child and family counsellors, social workers and other licensed counsellors), when working with clients who need help regarding their marital situation.

This highly readable research-based book provides surprising answers to this simple question in plain language. Successfully married spouses have a realistic understanding of marriage and demonstrate effective marriage skills when compared to those in troubled marriages. The authors tell the reader those "secret" understandings of marriage, but more importantly, describe the skills needed to be successful and how to learn those skills. The book is a practical roadmap for married people to realize their dreams of a life-long marriage worth lasting. The book explodes myths about marriage, explains why the challenges and struggles of marriage are normal, how to get through them and reassures us that when a marriage is successful, the effort is worthwhile. The book treats marriage as a "game" and describes how to play it well and have fun playing it. The skills are presented as practical behaviours that can be learned and applied as soon as the next day. The skills turn many ideas about marriage, and even some expert advice, on their head, and while acknowledging that a successful marriage can seem magical, the book exposes the secrets and tricks behind the magic. This is a book for people starting out in a marriage, for people struggling in a troubled marriage, and even for people heading for divorce who would like to turn around their marriage. The book makes clear that reaching a successful marriage is not easy, but that most marriages can be successful. More importantly, the book offers hope and a practical "we can do it" and "here is how" approach. Finally, the book offers a roadmap to mental health counsellors (psychologists, marriage, child and family counsellors, social workers and other licensed counsellors), when working with clients who need help regarding their marital situation.

Divorce doesn’t have to be a messy and tragic process, especially when there are children involved. In fact, research shows that about 20% of divorces are amicable. Couples with minor children who have good communication skills and a focus on long-term outcomes for their children can work together effectively to resolve differences and make the transition as smooth as possible. Written by a psychologist and a divorce lawyer with nearly 100 years of experience working with divorcing spouses and families, this research-based book provides a roadmap for having a sensible divorce that focuses on the long-term goals of both parties. Don’t let the emotions of the separation get in the way of making the best decisions for your future. Use the knowledge and skills in this book to guide you through the process.

Classic Torah concepts provide insight into dealing with problem areas of married life. A warm, profound guide for b'nei Torah.

Its a troubled world we live in. It was meant to be utopia, yet we are busy messing it up. At all levels of government we seem to do our best to throw a monkey wrench at the system we devised for our good, not our own hurt. The legislators are ever busy opposing each other, yet expect to run the day-to-day affairs smoothly. The American fathers of the constitution chose the least of evil of all forms of government, but the element of human nature seems to make it, at best, a dysfunctional system on many levels. Without an agreed upon system of values, accepted by all members of society, its impossible to run a smooth government as it is prerequisite for the function of life. Since education is the basis that determines the outcome of life, we shall concentrate on this dimension that leads to either success or failure in all areas. To begin our search for the causes that create a utopian society, we shall address first roll of the parents, especially the mother, in the success or failure of a human beings. Next, we shall go to the school system the surrogate parent and examine its roll in molding the young plants our children. Finally, we shall address the roll of the society at large. In these three areas we shall find the causes of success and failures of life. Then, we shall proceed to the solutions that will insure the way to success in all areas the dreamed of utopia. Utopia is possible! We dont have to be ridden with the ills of society, with crime, with violence, with wars, with political corruption. In the beginning it was not so, in the end it can, and will, be different if we are willing to submit to the process of re-education, all is possible.