Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer

It's the worst possible news - someone you love is diagnosed with cancer. Before you have a chance to do anything, you know you'll need to say something. The usual clichés spring immediately to mind, but surely there's something better to say than "What doesn't kill us makes us stronger"? Just what do you say to someone who has cancer? In Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer, author Jo Hilder draws on her experience as a cancer survivor, advocate and support group facilitator to introduce new ways to talk about cancer, and to the people we love who are diagnosed with it. With warmth and humor, Jo gently eases us into the inevitable interactions we face when loved ones receive a cancer diagnosis, exploring common challenges we face, socially and emotionally. Jo identifies, addresses and dispels the common cancer clichés we often resort to, introducing simple and comfortable methods for turning awkward interactions into open conversations about cancer. Sharing from her own journey as a cancer patient and her experience delivering cancer support programs, Jo helps her readers understand the reality of cancer and treatment, contrasting this with common stereotypes and cancer myths. Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer is a practical guide for the uninitiated, providing support for anyone who finds themselves bewildered and afraid in the face of a cancer diagnosis. "If it were an ideology, it would be terrorism. Cancer catches us unawares, unprepared, without mercy or prejudice, forever altering the lives it touches. Jo Hilder has tackled a very difficult subject in Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer - the very essence of our first contact with cancer. In acknowledging those first emotions and reactions and naming our fears, she sensitively constructs a platform for what is inevitably a long arduous journey for all involved. Having been through that experience personally, I feel Things Not To Say To Someone With Cancer is a great place for anyone to start." Brad Fitzpatrick, husband of Christine who passed away from breast cancer, 1997. "In Things Not to Say to Someone Who Has Cancer, Jo Hilder provides a friendly, well-written guide for things to say instead of the usual clichés. Things Not To Say is a great book for cancer patients, cancer survivors, carers, friends, colleagues, neighbors and health professionals." Carol Rhodes, cancer survivor and program facilitator, Living Well After Cancer. "This book is for anyone who has heard themselves say to a person with cancer 'Let me know if there is anything I can do for you' or 'Just be strong', and that's probably all of us. Beyond the expected list of do's and don'ts for supporting someone with cancer, Jo offers a way to open up conversations, leading us to a deeper and more authentic way of relating around a cancer diagnosis. Jo suggests there is a better way to face cancer with our loved ones." Carolyn Grenville, cancer advocate. "Jo tackles a tough issue with compassion, humor and sensitivity, challenging existing approaches to talking about cancer by shining a light on a new way to communicate around a cancer diagnosis. Things Not To Say also acknowledges the good intentions underpinning those things we know we shouldn't say to someone with cancer, but seem to stumble into anyway. This warm and thoughtful book is much more than a guide of what not to do, and contains much food for thought on new ways to address the issue of cancer and its impact on the ones we love." Kelly Williams "Positive and wise, this book goes well beyond what's promised. Things Not To Say To Someone Who Has Cancer doesn't just tell us what not to say, but leads us along a path to a far more positive and comprehensive way of approaching loved ones with cancer. Far from just being a list, Things Not To Say encourages us to leap forward into a better way, and to trust ourselves to relax into a more natural way of being with someone who has cancer." Carrie Green

Wondering what to say, how to help, and/or what to know about your friend with cancer? Now, for the first time, your questions will be answered in this supportive and instructional guide on how to be there for your loved one in his or her time of need. When Cancer Strikes a Friend is a prescriptive, step-by-step guide with menus of tried-and-true responses, bulleted examples, detailed sidebars, and sound advice from cancer professionals. In Bonnie Draeger’s debut book, professionals provide authoritative treatments of topics, including post-treatment; when friends live alone; pediatric and teen cancer issues; talking to children about cancer; and food, teamwork, and more. Featuring more than forty expert contributions, When Cancer Strikes a Friend is the essential guide for friends and colleagues who truly want to help their friends and family—acting as caregivers, listeners, and supporters—fight a winning battle against the Big C. Key topics and issues include: Finding your way as a friend Gifts of friendship Understanding the cancer experience Sharing hope, peace, and spiritual care Learning to communicate And more When Cancer Strikes a Friend is the essential book for anyone who knows someone with cancer—that is, everyone.

At last, the definitive guide on how to respond when someone says, I have cancer. Two-time cancer survivor Rosanne Kalick helps readers communicate caringly with the cancer patient. Many have had the gut-wrenching experience of having a friend or loved one reveal they have cancer, yet few can figure out how to react. Using real stories, Kalick conveys how much most people really want to say and do the right thing – and how they often fail. Even those in the medical profession who work with cancer are guilty of etiquette don’ts. The book is intended for patients, caregivers, family members, and friends. . . . Patients and others will find a great deal of value here. The lay-out is unadorned; there are subsection headings, but readers will have to read through t to find the nuggets. This book is long overdue. Recommended for all libraries. - Bette Lee Fox, Library Journal

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When Someone You Love is Being Treated for Cancer is a booklet for friends or family members giving care to a person with cancer. This booklet covers understanding the changes that come in your life with caregiving, how to cope with your feelings and ask for help, tips on caring for both your physical and emotional self, how to talk with your kids about cancer, communicating with your loved one who has cancer, and dealing with other family members and friends. Related products: Caring for the Caregiver: Support for Cancer Caregivers – ePub format only – ISBN: 9780160947520 Children with Cancer: A Guide for Parents -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947537 Coping with Advanced Cancer: Support for People with Cancer -- ePub format only ISBN: 9780160947544 Eating Hints: Before, during and after Cancer Treatment -- ePub format only --ISBN: 9780160947551 Life After Cancer Treatment: Facing Forward -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947568 Pain Control: Support for People with Cancer -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947575 Radiation Therapy and You: Support for People with Cancer --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947582 Surgery Choice for Women with DCIS and Breast Cancer -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947599 Taking Part in Cancer Research Studies --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947605 Understanding Breast Changes: A Health Guide for Women --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947612 Understanding Cervical Changes: A Health Guide for Women -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947629 When Cancer Returns: Support for People with Cancer -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947636 When Someone You Love Has Advanced Cancer: Support for Caregivers --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947643 When Someone You Love Has Completed Cancer Treatment: Facing Forward --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947650 When Your Brother or Sister Has Cancer: A Guide for Teens --ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947674 When Your Parent Has Cancer: A Guide for Teens -- ePub format only -- ISBN: 9780160947681

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