Thriving Through Divorce

Packed with research, insights, and illuminating (and often funny) examples from Paris’s own divorce experience, this book is a “practical and reassuring guide to parting well.” —Gretchen Rubin, author of The Happiness Project Engaging and revolutionary, filled with wit, searing honesty, and intimate interviews, Splitopia is a call for a saner, more civil kind of divorce. As Paris reveals, divorce has improved dramatically in recent decades due to changes in laws and family structures, advances in psychology and child development, and a new understanding of the importance of the father. Positive psychology expert and author of Happier, Tal Ben-Shahar, writes that Paris’s “personal insights, stories, and research” create “a smart and interesting guide that can be extremely helpful for those going through divorce.” Reading this book can be the difference between an expensive, ugly battle and a decent divorce, between children sucked under by conflict or happy, healthy kids. This is “a compelling case that it’s high time for a new definition of Happily Ever After—for everyone” (Brigid Schulte, author of Overwhelmed: Work, Love, and Play When No One Has the Time).

After nine years of marriage, Toyin M. Falusi, MD, a specialist in infectious diseases, found herself divorced and raising two young children. It was a trying, stressful time, but rather than accept the hackneyed stereotype of the miserable and overwrought single mom, Falusi chose to embrace her new existence. Twelve years later, she's still leading a happy, successful life. In The Decade After: Surviving Thriving after Divorce, she shares what she's learned along the way. While this is not a self-help manual, much inside will resonate with recently divorced women. It is also not exactly an advice book, although Falusi does offer tips and tactics to help you adjust to life after marriage breakdown and separation. Rather, this is an informal, often funny conversation, with Falusi expounding on such topics as raising well-adjusted kids, working with-not against-your ex-spouse, building a support system, and taking care of yourself. Life does not end after divorce, nor does it have to plunge into stress, loneliness, and despair. Take it from Falusi-twelve years later, she's still going strong. While she remains willing to entertain the possibility of a new serious relationship, she's quite happy as she is-self-reliant, successful, and fulfilled! #getbetternotbitter #thrivingafterdivorce This book empowers women of all ages to celebrate their awesomeness and to grow daily. The Decade After was named one of the best books of all time by BookAuthority.

You can survive divorce and even thrive! Do you feel like you are emotionally bleeding but no hospital can make it stop? Like you are a dead woman walking? Like you'll never be able to climb your way out of this heavy, suffocating place? Know this: With Jesus, you'll make it out, and you'll be okay. Jen Grice had to stop fighting for a marriage that had been dead for years and then had to work through the trauma of divorce proceedings and life thereafter. It wasn't easy, just as your own struggle isn't. But now Jen is healing and whole, as you can be. In this book, Jen holds your hand as you walk through the pain. - See a way out of the darkness of divorce-into the light. - Discover a hope-filled, fully redeemed future ahead. - Find hope in a devastating time. There is no roadmap through this foreign territory we call divorce, but here are those who have gone before us to light the way. As Jen shares her personal healing story, she points out God's promises and His healing and protection that will help you not only survive this difficult time but eventually thrive.

An internationally renowned authority on children and divorce reveals the latest research-based strategies for helping children survive and thrive before, during, and long after their parents divorce. The breakup of a family can have an enduring impact on children. But as Dr. JoAnne Pedro-Carroll explains with clarity and compassion in this powerful book, parents can positively alter the immediate and long-term effects of divorce on their children. The key is proven, emotionally intelligent parenting strategies that promote children's emotional health, resilience, and ability to lead satisfying lives. Over the past three decades, Pedro-Carroll has worked with families in transition, conducted research, and developed and directed award- winning, court-endorsed programs that have helped thousands of families navigate divorce and its aftermath. Now she shares practical, research-based advice that helps parents: -gain a deeper understanding of what their children are experiencing -develop emotionally intelligent parenting strategies with the critical combination of boundless love and appropriate limits on behavior -reduce conflict with a former spouse and protect children from conflict's damaging effects -learn what recent brain research reveals about stress and children's developing capabilities Filled with the voices and drawings of children and the stories of families, Putting Children First delivers a positive vision for a future of hope and healing.

Thoroughly revised and updated for a new generation, the essential guide for men and women to help them weather the turmoil of divorce and build rich, rewarding lives There is nothing easy about the breakup of a marriage, from coping with loss and failure to dealing with the uncertainty of the future. In this intelligent and insightful book, Abigail Trafford charts this emotional journey, identifying the common phases in the evolution from marriage to separation to divorce and eventually to a new life. Based upon her personal experience, extensive research, and interviews with hundreds of divorced men and women, Trafford offers individuals a better understanding of their own experiences and the message that they are not alone in their pain and confusion. Crazy Time is also an investment in the future—Trafford reveals the telltale signs of a marriage in crisis and discusses what determines whether a relationship will survive over time. This revised edition includes the most up-to-date research on the effects of divorce in adults' and children's lives, addresses the special challenges of becoming single again in the age of the Internet, and broadens the experience of divorce to include the breakup of all committed relationships. For anyone who has divorced, or is considering taking that step, Crazy Time offers a sense of hope and confidence that this transition is not only an ending but can also be a valuable beginning.

Divorce is a time of loss—it also becomes a time of change with the possibility that each partner might move forward toward personal restoration and wholeness. But how? David and Lisa Frisbie, authors of Happily Remarried, share godly wisdom, sound advice, and encouragement to help readers: heal from feelings of anger and abandonment discover the sufficiency of God develop interests, dreams, and skills raise healthy kids alone or as a co-parent manage money (or the lack of it) This excellent resource provides great help for those with children and will guide any divorced reader to see the hope of a second chance as they learn to depend on God's grace, sufficiency, and promises.

The end of a significant relationship initiates painful and powerful change in one's life, daily habits, and even in one's personal identity. In Thriving After Divorce, author and relationship coach Tonja Evetts Weimer offers readers a grounded approach to growing through the difficult life transitions that arise from the breaking of our most defining partnerships. Weimer's book will guide readers through a potentially tumultuous time to a safe place by showing how to put one's actions in alignment with one's needs and values for positive outcomes that will strengthen and prepare the heart for a new path. The key is in learning how to create an authentic new life, and therefore, a different relationship with the partner in the absence of shared romantic love. This relationship allows the possibility of any continuing combined goals, while building and sustaining necessary boundaries and guidelines for new interactions. Weimer shows readers how to deal with shared responsibilities involving children, mutual business interests, the care of family members, and other situations that require both parties to work together in the new space of the relationship. Thriving After Divorce speaks to anyone who has gone through a breakup, providing hope, alternatives, empowerment, and inspiration to find a new way to relate to former situations and relationships that, in the past, could have been fractious.