When Anger Hurts Your Relationship

Two psychologists offer couples a variety of tools and strategies to reduce conflict, diffuse rage, and move beyond repeated confrontations to regain a loving relationship.

“Every woman who is struggling to understand the mistreatment she is experiencing in her relationship should begin by reading [this] wonderful book.”—Lundy Bancroft, author of Why Does He Do That? What do you do when the one you love hurts you? Have you been searching for answers to difficult questions about your relationship? Do you feel confused about why your partner seems loving one moment and angry the next? Summoning the courage to ask these challenging questions can seem daunting. You know something is wrong in your relationship, but you are not sure what. If you are beginning to wonder if you are experiencing abuse, this book can offer you support, information, and, most of all, hope as you look for answers. Written by two women with a wealth of experience supporting victims of abuse, When Love Hurts introduces exercises and resources to help you make sense of your relationship, addressing all forms of abuse, including verbal, emotional, financial, sexual, and physical. This practical guidebook is a supportive and nonjudgmental friend to those who don’t know where to turn and is filled with stories from women who have been in the same position. By drawing on your own wisdom and that of the many others who have shared your experience, When Love Hurts can help you find the answers you have been looking for.

A major revision of the best-selling classic-a quarter of a million copies sold. This new edition of When Anger Hurts is a complete, step-by-step guide to changing habitual anger-generating thoughts while developing healthier, more effective ways of meeting your needs. It includes new chapters on emergency anger control, the interpersonal and physiological costs of anger, road rage, and parental anger. Discover how to create your own personal intervention strategy for controlling angry impulses Recognize anger-triggering thoughts and learn ways to challenge them Learn how to control anger-generating stress Recognize the early warning signals of anger and find out how to cool down before things get really hot When you work through the exercises and lessons in this book, you will immediately see positive change in every aspect of your life.

The highly anticipated sequel to the global bestseller 12 Rules for Life. In 12 Rules for Life, acclaimed public thinker and clinical psychologist Jordan B. Peterson offered an antidote to the chaos in our lives: eternal truths applied to modern anxieties. His insights have helped millions of readers and resonated powerfully around the world. Now in his long-awaited sequel, Peterson goes further, showing that part of life's meaning comes from reaching out into the domain beyond what we know, and adapting to an ever-transforming world. While an excess of chaos threatens us with uncertainty, an excess of order leads to a lack of curiosity and creative vitality. Beyond Order therefore calls on us to balance the two fundamental principles of reality--order and chaos--and reveals the profound meaning that can be found on the path that divides them. In times of instability and suffering, Peterson reminds us that there are sources of strength on which we can all draw: insights borrowed from psychology, philosophy, and humanity's greatest myths and stories. Drawing on the hard-won truths of ancient wisdom, as well as deeply personal lessons from his own life and clinical practice, Peterson offers twelve new principles to guide readers towards a more courageous, truthful, and meaningful life.

Filled with strategies about managing anger, this guide to "getting over" bad feelings teaches readers how to effectively manage stress, conflict, and violence. Original.

When St. Jane Francis de Chantal encouraged St. Francis de Sales to be a bit angrier over the opposition they were facing in starting their religious order, he replied, “Would you have me lose in a quarter hour what has taken me twenty years’ hard work to acquire? St. Francis de Sales had quite a temper when he was young. But over time he learned to convert his angry feelings into virtuous action. He knew that anger never leads to happiness. Worse, it causes tremendous harm to our relationship with God. In these pages, the wise Fr. Morrow shows you how to pull the rug out from beneath your anger and reclaim a life of peace and grace. You’ll come to understand the root causes of angry behavior, ways to heal painful memories, and how to deal well with your hurts and humiliations. You’re not likely to overcome blowups and anxiety through willpower alone. You need tools that help you cultivate the habits that lead to virtuous action. You’ll discover here simple ways to influence your behavior, control your impulses, and rebuild tattered relationships. When you follow the simple advice offered in these pages, you’ll be surprised at how quickly you’re giving up all desire for revenge, forgiving those who hurt you, and finding peace in your life. You’ll also learn: The difference between righteous and sinful anger.Why saying "Well, that’s just the way I am” could cost you your soul.The three root causes of every angry outburstThe five stages of healing hurtful memories.How to discipline an angry childThe three actions every Christian MUST take to overcome sinful anger. “Father Morrow presents a practical solution to a common problem. This book can make the world a much better place." Mike Aquilina

When it comes to finding love, are you standing in your own way? Daring to Love will help you identify the internal barriers that cause you to sabotage your love life, open yourself up to vulnerability, and build the intimate, lasting relationship you truly desire. After a breakup, most of us spend a lot of time thinking long and hard about what the other person did to cause it, rather than reflecting on ourselves. It seems self-evident that we want our romantic relationships to work, and that love and long-term commitment are our ultimate goals. But what if our desire for love is actually not as straightforward as our emotions make us believe? What if, instead of pursuing love, we are unconsciously pushing it away? In Daring to Love, Tamsen and Robert W. Firestone offer techniques based in Robert Firestone’s groundbreaking voice therapy—the process of giving spoken word to unhealthy patterns—to help you understand how you are getting in your own way on the quest for true love. Love, the Firestones argue, makes us vulnerable and triggers old defenses we formed in childhood, causing us to sabotage our relationships in myriad subtle—and not-so-subtle—ways. Using the voice therapy strategies in this book, you will be able to identify your own defensive patterns and uncover the destructive messages your critical inner voice is telling you about yourself, your partners, and your relationships. If you’re struggling to cultivate lasting relationships, this book can help you embark on your next romantic journey with more openness and self-knowledge.

Marriage is made in heaven, but not always. The reality is that marriage is hard. There are times you just want to throw your hands up and storm out. Some situations set your teeth on edge, and you find yourself seething with anger that scares you and everyone around you. You can't say no to anger. You may not want it. Sometimes you don't even know what causes it. But the anger comes, and suddenly you're yelling at top of your voice. And it's not like you haven't tried to tone it down —you have tried so many times to figure out what works when it comes to controlling your emotions, but you are yet to get your answer because how else would you explain why you are reading this? In this book, you will learn so many anger management tips. You will learn that sometimes your anger isn't always because of the numerous grudges and resentment you bottle up. It is not always because of a lack of love or family support. This book will teach you how to say no to anger and how to manage it effectively in your marriage. It will teach you; ● How to benefit from anger explosions. ● Ways to tame your temper. ● Methods of channeling your spouse’s anger toward positive change ● Benefiting from anger ●Taking control of spouse’s anger outbursts Additionally, you will learn… ●How to express your anger effectively ●How to fix anger issues in a relationship ●How to control anger and irritation ●How to deal with an angry partner ●Angry spouse strategy of control When you get angry, it's always easy to settle for slamming doors and screaming matches with your better half —sometimes you find yourself throwing punches. But do you know what's even easier? The anger management strategies that can help you control your anger.