Why I Make Myself Unhappy 2nd Ed

Why I Make Myself Unhappy shows us how we are often the authors of our unhappiness but how we can also write a brighter, much happier future for ourselves, starting now. Using inspiring examples tailored for a busy, contemporary society, Tsem Rinpoche sheds light on new approaches for facing daily troubles and making ourselves happy.

Three strangers find solace and friendship at a Martha’s Vineyard beach house one summer in this touching novel by the author of Living Single. The little beach house on Martha’s Vineyard has a rickety porch and no closets, but the gorgeous location is unbeatable—and more than enough to entice three total strangers into a house share for the summer . . . At first, the only thing Gincy, Danielle, and Clare have in common is a desire to spend weekends away from the city. No-nonsense Gincy has worked hard to leave her small-town childhood behind. Danielle grew up with every advantage and is looking for a husband who’ll fit neatly into her pampered life, while Clare is enjoying a last burst of independence before marrying her ambitious fiancé. Yet lazy beach days and warm, conversation-filled nights forge an unexpected connection. And over the course of one eventful summer, Gincy, Danielle, and Clare will discover that friendship isn’t always measured in how well you know a person’s past—but in opening each other’s eyes to everything the future could hold . . . Praise for the writing of Holly Chamberlin “Nostalgia over real-life friendships lost and regained pulls readers into the story.” —USA Today on Summer Friends “It does the trick as a beach book and provides a touristy taste of Maine’s seasonal attractions.” —Publishers Weekly on The Family Beach House

“No other individual—not even Freud himself—has had a greater impact on modern psychotherapy.” —Psychology Today All of us worry about something, big or small, every day. But much of the emotional misery we feel is an overreaction—and can be significantly reduced using the techniques in this book. World-renowned therapist Dr. Albert Ellis, who created Rational-Emotive Behavior Therapy (REBT), believed that anger, anxiety, and depression are not only unnecessary, they’re unethical, because when we allow ourselves to become emotionally upset, we’re being unfair and unjust to ourselves. Thinking negative thoughts is a choice we can refuse to make. Applying the proven, time-tested principles of REBT is a simple, logical way to find true mental health and happiness. REBT acknowledges the power of emotions, but it also helps us understand which feelings are healthy and which are not. This classic book teaches you how to: · Retrain your brain to focus on the positive and face obstacles without unnecessary despair · Control your emotional destiny · Refuse to upset yourself about upsetting yourself · Solve practical problems as well as emotional problems · Conquer the tyranny of “should,” and much more Get the tools you need to take back your life—and your happiness. If you can refuse to make yourself miserable, you’re that much closer to making yourself happy—every day. “Shows how to avoid the traps of self-harm and find mental health.” —Publishers Weekly

A young man is between two worlds. Will his mistakes doom him or will he be able to turn his life around?

The definitive career guide for grad students, adjuncts, post-docs and anyone else eager to get tenure or turn their Ph.D. into their ideal job Each year tens of thousands of students will, after years of hard work and enormous amounts of money, earn their Ph.D. And each year only a small percentage of them will land a job that justifies and rewards their investment. For every comfortably tenured professor or well-paid former academic, there are countless underpaid and overworked adjuncts, and many more who simply give up in frustration. Those who do make it share an important asset that separates them from the pack: they have a plan. They understand exactly what they need to do to set themselves up for success. They know what really moves the needle in academic job searches, how to avoid the all-too-common mistakes that sink so many of their peers, and how to decide when to point their Ph.D. toward other, non-academic options. Karen Kelsky has made it her mission to help readers join the select few who get the most out of their Ph.D. As a former tenured professor and department head who oversaw numerous academic job searches, she knows from experience exactly what gets an academic applicant a job. And as the creator of the popular and widely respected advice site The Professor is In, she has helped countless Ph.D.’s turn themselves into stronger applicants and land their dream careers. Now, for the first time ever, Karen has poured all her best advice into a single handy guide that addresses the most important issues facing any Ph.D., including: -When, where, and what to publish -Writing a foolproof grant application -Cultivating references and crafting the perfect CV -Acing the job talk and campus interview -Avoiding the adjunct trap -Making the leap to nonacademic work, when the time is right The Professor Is In addresses all of these issues, and many more.

"Subject Areas/Keywords: anger, approval seeking, assumptions, avoidance, basics, CBT, challenging, clinical practice, cognitive distortions, cognitive therapy, cognitive-behavioral therapy, CT, decision making, distortion, eliciting, emotion regulation, emotional processing, emotions, evaluating, examining, forms, homework, interventions, intrusive, logical errors, modifying, practitioners, psychotherapists, psychotherapy, schemas, self-criticism, skills, strategies, techniques, testing, therapists, thoughts, training DESCRIPTION This indispensable book has given many tens of thousands of practitioners a wealth of evidence-based tools for maximizing the power of cognitive therapy and tailoring it to individual clients. Leading authority Robert L. Leahy describes ways to help clients identify and modify problematic thoughts, core beliefs, and patterns of worry, self-criticism, and approval-seeking; evaluate personal schemas; cope with painful emotions; and take action to achieve their goals. Each technique includes vivid case examples and sample dialogues. Featuring 125 reproducible forms, the print book has a large-size format for easy photocopying; purchasers also get access to a Web page where they can download and print the reproducible materials. "--

The gentle wisdom of "Zen and the Art of Happiness" shows how to invite magnificent experiences into your life and create a philosophy that will sustain you through anything. The Zen of doing anything is to behave with a particular state of mind that brings the experience of enlightenment to even everyday facts -- and through that experience, happiness.