Why Men Fear Marriage

R.M. Johnson, #1 Essence bestselling author of The Million Dollar Divorce offers an enlightening perspective to the question that has baffled millions of women for decades. Johnson’s fiction writing has been described as "powerful and bold…from the heart, thought-provoking, and life-changing" (Eric Jerome Dickey), and he expertly allows female readers access to the male perspective. Now, in Why Men Fear Marriage, his first foray into nonfiction, his insight illuminates a topic that has increased in intensity and relevance in recent decades. Why Men Fear Marriage sheds important light on several issues behind men’s inability to commit. Johnson explains why men cling to their single status and offers tips for identifying whether or not a man is truly interested in marriage. This helpful guide equips women with the tools to distinguish between someone who is Mr. Right, as opposed to Mr. Right Now, and helps women to see situations the way that men often see them. Informative and engaging, Why Men Fear Marriage is a bold and much-needed discussion of an issue that deeply touches millions of people, regardless of race or gender.

You’re out there dating, and you’re looking for marriage material, but how can you tell if the guy who’s wining and dining you tonight has (somewhere deep inside his complex male machinery) the potential to make a lifelong commitment? And what can you do to significantly increase your odds for finding Mr. Right? Why Men Fear Marriage is the new dating bible, and it begins with one essential golden rule: If a man is interested, he’ll let you know. From there, #1 Essence magazine bestselling author RM Johnson explains, with wit and honesty, what men really think, feel, and fear when it comes to tying the knot. You’ll learn to recognize the five types of guys—yes, every man fits one of them—and discover invaluable and empowering advice on every page: • Ten steps to make him pop the question without an ultimatum • How to spot opportunities to meet marrying men—at the gym, at the market, and elsewhere • When to take his phone number, and when to give him yours • How to let a guy down...gently • Where you should meet on your first date • An instant way to win his respect ...and much more.

Ryan and Selena Frederick were newlyweds when they landed in Switzerland to pursue Selena's dream of training horses. Neither of them knew at the time that Ryan was living out a death sentence brought on by a worsening genetic heart defect. Soon it became clear he needed major surgery that could either save his life--or result in his death on the operating table. The young couple prepared for the worst. When Ryan survived, they both realized that they still had a future together. But the near loss changed the way they saw all that would lie ahead. They would live and love fiercely, fighting for each other and for a Christ-centered marriage, every step of the way. Fierce Marriage is their story, but more than that, it is a call for married couples to put God first in their relationship, to measure everything they do and say to each other against what Christ did for them, and to see marriage not just as a relationship they should try to keep healthy but also as one worth fighting for in every situation. With the gospel as their foundation, Ryan and Selena offer hope and practical help for common struggles in marriage, including communication problems, sexual frustration, financial stress, family tension, screen-time disconnection, and unrealistic expectations.

There are two marriages in every marital union, his and hers. Men and women live in worlds that are organized around gender, and their marriages reflect differing realities. As life companions, they respond to each other; but they also respond to the cultural definitions of what it means to be a husband and a wife. What has fascinated social and behavioral scientists for several years, however, is not only that husbands' and wives' experiences are different, but also that 'his' marriage is better than 'hers'. Numerous findings have reported that married men are better off than married women on measures of both physical and mental health, but the reasons are not yet fully understood. In Marriage in Men's Lives Dr. Nock proposes an explanation to this issue. He focuses on marriage as a system of rules, customs, and expectations. The book shows that marriage changes men on basic dimensions of achievement, participation in public social life, and philanthropy because marriage reinforces such behaviors as part of adult masculinity. Men in modern society crave well-being, comfort, luxury, and prestige, and marriage affords a means of achieving these things within circumscribed legitimate boundaries. Using a huge data base of over 6,000 interviews with men the author has studied since 1979, Nock draws some interesting and far-reaching conclusions about the nature of marriage, and predicts that marriage is definitely here to stay.

Although the term "Commitment Phobia" has become nauseatingly common in popular culture, there is a significant number of women who still suffer great anguish because of it. If you are one of these women, trapped in a relationship with a man who balks and scurries like a frightened rabbit when faced with anything remotely concrete or permanent, then I've got two pieces of good news for you: (1) you're not alone... this is quite common, and (2) there are specific things you can do to help him overcome his fear of commitment. Whether such relationships result because the man hides his problem in the beginning, or the woman is aware of it but thinks she will be the exception that can transform her rogue bad boy into a solid partner, be warned: the solution I'm going to offer will require mountains of mental strength and truckloads of willpower. But, hey, if you're sure that your man is really worth the effort, then you've come to the right place. If you are ready to delve deep into the psyche of your not-so-better-half, and eke out the gem of a man you know he can be; and if you are ready to see your vast investment of time and effort into this relationship finally rewarded, then get started reading this book now so you can finally experience the happily-ever-after you've always envisioned.

“Very wise . . . Give this book to every single girlfriend [you] have.”—Marie Claire If you’re looking to get married and you’re not, there’s most likely a very good reason: you. Hey, you’re certainly not a bad person! You just haven’t yet become the woman you need to be in order to have the partnership you want. That’s where this book comes in. Based on her wildly popular Huffington Post article, Tracy McMillan’s Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet dishes out no-holds-barred practical wisdom for women hoping to head down the aisle. And this new edition features even more candid advice and sisterly insight. McMillan points out the behaviors that might be in your blind spot and shows you how to adjust them to get the relationship you deserve. Do any of these chapter headings sound familiar? • You’re a Bitch: How defensiveness can hide behind a tough exterior, and why being nice is never a sign of weakness. • You’re a Liar: How to stop lying to men—and get honest with yourself—about the kind of relationship you really want. • You’re Selfish: The big secret about marriage: It’s about giving something, not getting it. A funny, insightful guide, Why You’re Not Married . . . Yet will change your life and the way you think about relationships, and it may very well lead you down the aisle. “Equal parts BFF, boot-camp instructor, and relationship guru, Tracy McMillan will change the way you think about yourself and your relationships. This book is for every woman out there who wants to have a great marriage.”—Ricki Lake

God calls women to influence and move their husbands in positive ways. Applying the concepts from his bestseller, Sacred Marriage, Gary Thomas offers a view through a man’s eyes. Here’s the inside scoop on what men find motivating—with inspiring real-life stories of women who are employing this knowledge to transform their marriages. Sacred Influence doesn’t flinch from difficult marital problems. But by using this faith-focused approach, you’ll see how to help your husband become the man God intends him to be. At the same time, God will shape you to be the woman he designed you to be. God has given godly women a wonderful power to influence and encourage their husbands. What’s the secret? This book will provide challenges, examples, and hope to women who want to love their husbands well and be loved well in return. --Dennis Rainey, President of Family Life