Your Civil War A Father S Guide To Winning Child Custody

In recent years, more fathers have attempted to win custody of their children following a divorce. In "Fighting for Your Children", the authors help men who are facing such a battle, guiding them through the entire legal experience. Using anecdotes from fathers who have successfully gained full or joint custody of their children as well as from fathers who have met with failure, this book illustrates the dos and don'ts of waging a custody battle for children.

A Nationally endorsed book that offers positive approaches for fathers caught up in a brutal custody battle. A 300 page guidebook giving fathers 100 Secret Strategies for winning in court. Fathers learn "how to" Conduct Themselves in Mediation, Deal with a Difficult Judge, Execute Winning Strategies, Master Skills of Testifying, Handle Setbacks & Adversity, Use Court Time Wisely & Skillful Linguistic Techniques. Recommended by: Attorneys, Mediators & Fathers Rights Groups across the U.S. Stocked by Ingram Book Co. Call our office for further questions. (949) 646-9842.

This strategy and resource guide to divorce- and post-divorce-related child custody matters provides practical advice and support resources for fathers who want to stay connected to their children.

Win Your Child Custody War, is impressive in both its depth and its breadth. It is a practical "how-to" book, but it is extremely well researched and covers every imaginable custodial issue. No one involved in a custodial battle should enter the courtroom without first reading it. With this book everybody wins--mothers, fathers, and especially the children. The use of the military metaphor throughout (including a photo of a child in a Marine Corps dress uniform on the cover) is in recognition of two salient facts about custody disputes: they can be psychologically as brutal as war; and the stakes can be extremely high. Yet, the book demonstrates with details and documents, that negotiations are possible, and if the welfare of the child has the highest priority, both sides can win.I would advise you, however, NOT to go into court without having first read this remarkable book. Over the course of 640 triple-columned pages, Hardwick shares her personal experience and her painfully accumulated knowledge on just about every conceivable aspect of the child custody wars while guiding the reader toward a powerful strategy. If you don't have this book you are likely to be overmatched; indeed if your attorney doesn't have this book, he or she is likely to be overmatched. In fact, I would say that the first thing you should do after reading the book yourself, is buy a copy for your attorney and somehow persuade him or her to open the pages and to start reading--anywhere in the book. I promise you your attorney will learn facts, ideas, strategies new to him or her. The expanse and depth of the material presented here quite frankly amazed me. This extensive tome constitutes an entire course not only in child custody disputes but in human psychology, parenting, and the law itself. Some items: There are 91 pages citing, summarizing, quoting from, and referencing relevant cases and decisions.There is a detailed guide on how to negotiate and what conflict resolution is all about;a chapter on how to handle discovery and depositions; another on judges, what to expect from them and how you might get a good one or avoid a bad one; there's guidance on what to expect in court and how to present yourself and your case; how to select an attorney; what your case is likely to cost and how to discover the assets of your adversaries, including (this floored me) hidden assets such as "Overpayments to the IRS". You will learn about how much you can expect to pay or receive in child support, and again how to gauge assets, including hidden income such as "excessive deductions on paychecks" --a nice dodge which amounts to loaning Uncle Sam the money until tax time! You will also: --Discover how to handle psychologists and other "evaluators" and influence them to your advantage. For example beware of the "halo effect." (Have your side evaluated by the psychologist first to secure that effect.) --Understand what psychological tests can be given and what they can mean in the dispute. Sometimes the judge makes the court-ordered decision of a professional binding, so that "you have in fact a new judge." --Appreciate the role of other experts, what they can and cannot do to further your case, and how to evaluate and get a reliable expert who will make an effective witness.--Learn the value of keeping a detailed log of everything pertaining to your case and its possible use as documentation. Hardwick presents this with some tips on how e-mail and computer files can come back to haunt you if you share the wrong information, even anonymously or through the assumption of an Internet moniker.--Become knowledgeable about lie detectors and their use and misuse and the reach of DNA testing.--Know which problems or accusations are issues and which are non-issues in the eyes of the law. For example, child endangerment is an issue; a "blended" family is not. Physical abuse is an issue; false accusations may or may not be. --Be introduced to the infamous Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in which one parent tries to alienate the child from the other parent through lies and distortions. PAS includes "The Grand Lie" in which one side falsely accuses the other of child sexual abuse, a charge that is hard to become completely free of, regardless of the truth of the accusation.Hardwick even includes some humor with eleven ways on how to know "You've Been in Court Too Long" (from Dean Hughson). If this isn't enough there is a presentation of ingrained psychological strategies that you might use or encounter such as the famous "Tit for Tat" from game theory or the sneaky "Tranquilizer" who lulls you to inattention and then takes advantage.There is a Glossary of Terms and a detailed Index as well as a lot information on resources throughout. There's even a chapter on lies and how to correct them (should you be the liar!).The mass of information and the sharp, sound guidance contained herein really amount to a post graduate course in child custody disputes. Even so I was almost as much impressed with Hardwick's assertive, no-nonsense writing style and organization that managed to painlessly inform while emphasizing a positive approach.

You never wanted to be in this position, but you are. Now, faced with the prospect of a custody dispute, you need to make smart choices. Winning Custody can help. this book-written by a woman who is an experienced psychotherapist, a mom, and a veteran of a bitter custody dispute-will help you find your way, maintain your sanity, and keep your kids from being caught in the custody cross fire. Winning Custody is geared specifically toward women seeking custody of their children. It offers advice on how to navigate the complicated legal maze of the custody process, giving step-by-step guidance on: -How to find a good-and affordable-lawyer -What to wear in court (it's more important than you might think) -How to effectively communicate with you ex -How to parent your child firmly, lovingly, and consistently throughout the crisis period -How to defuse your fears of losing your children -And how to love and believe in yourself during this most difficult time

You need to know your rights as a parent--or face losing them. -- p.[4] of cover.

As a single father, I found myself in a position where it was in the best interest of my child that I fight for custody. Many people told me how hard it was for a dad to get custody; and they were right. Father's have to operate under a different set of rules and expectations in order to have a chance at success. I adapted existing warfare strategies and applied it to the custody battle. Of course, sometimes I just had to learn from my mistakes as well. I wrote a Father's Playbook in order to not only tell my story, but also to help other dads who may be going through the same heart wrenching experience. It is my prayer that other fathers will avoid making the same mistakes as I did. Family Court is like a knife fight - Nobody wins and everyone is going to bleed."He explains the process clearly and provides invaluable tips for fathers who find themselves in the same predicament. No father heading to court for a custody hearing should do so without reading Morefield's excellent book."- James M. Olson, former Chief of CIA Counterintelligence and author of Fair Play: The Moral Dilemmas of Spying"This book could literally be life changing, as it could be the catalyst to give someone courage and wisdom to pursue full custody, when needed in desperate situations."- Deborah Moncrief, LCSW, LMFT"I felt as if I was having an out of body experience reading this book; almost as if it was written about my own struggles... It definitely got me thinking and it made me want to read it again."- Christopher Peterson, U.S. Army, Retired