Your Post Divorce Journey Back To Yourself For Men

No one walks into a marriage thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures together, growing old together, where they may want to retire, places they want to visit someday, their hopes and dreams and goals for themselves and for each other. When the marriage ends, there is generally a feeling of failure that goes along with it. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and we all know that we have to work at it to keep it together. If it ends, does that mean we didn't work hard enough? Didn't try hard enough? Didn't do enough to keep our spouse happy? What went wrong? Why couldn't I make it work? Why couldn't I fix the problems? These feelings are so common, especially among all of the overachievers out there who believe they can accomplish anything and fix anything if they just try hard enough. Recognize that life is not fair and accept that reality. However, also recognize that sometimes it is not fair in your favor. Imbalance sometimes tips toward you and sometimes away from you. Don't dwell on the times when it feels like the world is against you; instead celebrate the times when everything seems to be going your way. Take responsibility for your own happiness. If anyone intrudes on your happiness, recognize that it is your own fault for allowing it to happen. No one can make you feel any particular way?you control your own feelings and reactions. You choose how you will handle any particular situation. You can wallow in self-pity and wither away, or you can learn from a negative experience, grow from it, and become a better, stronger, and happier person. Accept responsibility for your own future; it is all on you now, and if you don't take responsibility for it, no one else will.

No one walks into a marriage thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures together, growing old together, where they may want to retire, places they want to visit someday, their hopes and dreams and goals for themselves and for each other. When the marriage ends, there is generally a feeling of failure that goes along with it. A marriage is supposed to be a partnership, and we all know that we have to work at it to keep it together. If it ends, does that mean we didnt work hard enough? Didnt try hard enough? Didnt do enough to keep our spouse happy? What went wrong? Why couldnt I make it work? Why couldnt I fix the problems? These feelings are so common, especially among all of the overachievers out there who believe they can accomplish anything and fix anything if they just try hard enough. Recognize that life is not fair and accept that reality. However, also recognize that sometimes it is not fair in your favor. Imbalance sometimes tips toward you and sometimes away from you. Dont dwell on the times when it feels like the world is against you; instead celebrate the times when everything seems to be going your way. Take responsibility for your own happiness. If anyone intrudes on your happiness, recognize that it is your own fault for allowing it to happen. No one can make you feel any particular wayyou control your own feelings and reactions. You choose how you will handle any particular situation. You can wallow in self-pity and wither away, or you can learn from a negative experience, grow from it, and become a better, stronger, and happier person. Accept responsibility for your own future; it is all on you now, and if you dont take responsibility for it, no one else will.

No one gets married thinking that it will end. Spouses talk about their futures, growing old together, places they want to visit, their hopes, dreams and goals for themselves. If the marriage ends, does that mean we didn't work hard enough? Didn't try hard enough? Why couldn't I make it work? With your view of the future now gone, there will definitely be feelings of loss. Recovery will take time and will be a process. You'll also experience a lot of change. Friends will change, neighbors will view you differently, you may have to move to a new home and neighborhood, and your financial situation and your lifestyle may change. It's normal and natural to feel the loss, and it is okay to be sad about it. Grieve the loss but then move on. You have a new life now and you need to find a way to embrace and enjoy it. Your life isn't any worse; you are just on a different path. Reinvent yourself and your future. Starting over is hard. Yet somehow we find the strength to go forward, create new traditions, set up new homes, and meet new people. Learn from the past and recognize that you have a new life now, with new and exciting opportunities and adventures ahead. The journey gets better from here. Start by rediscovering your authentic self: Remember the girl who laughed, who was fun to be around, who liked to do new things? Yeah, that girl. Find her again. She's still in there; she's just been in hibernation. Enough time has been wasted being unhappy. It is time to reinvent yourself. No more time in bed with a box of tissues. Get out there, get in touch with your inner goddess, and rediscover your fabulous self-you're an amazing woman!

Buddhism has been applied to everything from parenting to golf, but until now no one has offered Buddhist principles as a healing path through divorce. In Storms Can't Hurt the Sky, Gabriel Cohen bravely delves into his personal experience-along with insights from Buddhist masters, parables, humor, social science studies, and interviews with other divorcés-to provide a practical and very helpful guide to surviving the pain of any break-up. Focusing on the emotions most common in the dissolution of a relationship-anger, resentment, loss, and grief-Storms Can't Hurt the Sky shows how thinking about these feelings in surprisingly different ways can lead to a radically better experience. This compulsively readable book offers sound advice and much-needed empathy for anyone dealing with a break-up.

A step-by-step approach to making your marriage loving again.

Unlike other books on divorce, Living Unbroken takes a deep dive into understanding and overcoming the emotional toll divorce, separation, and the loss of a serious long-term relationship has on a woman’s well-being. As someone who has walked this path, Tracie Miles leads women on a powerful, life-changing journey that provides much-needed hope, encouragement, and practical guidance for living their best life even if it’s not the life they once imagined. Her biblically sound approach teaches readers how to trust in God’s promises and restore their self-confidence and hope for the future.

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

Don't live through divorce by yourself, because you're not alone. Over 1,000,000 people divorce annually in the United States. This leaves approximately 500,000 men each year searching for answers and guidance. The author is a regular middle-class guy who chose to do something positive with his divorce; to turn tragedy into triumph. Now every man can benefit from Joe's nearly two years of research, his interviews with over two hundred men, and his own personal experience. Men are often banished by the stereotype of being insensitive womanizers. Nothing could be further from the truth. Men are emotional, men are sensitive, and men are affected by divorce in ways that are traumatic to our very heart, mind, and soul. This book specifically details: Understanding what went wrong Healthy ways to accept responsibility without beating yourself up Advice to help the children adjust while becoming a great single parent Strategies to make it through the dark days of emotional depression Re-entering the dating world in a way that best fits each individual And so much more...Take the time to live and learn from your divorce so you can embrace the far better life that awaits you!