30 Roads Away From Porn

The Three R's System of Quitting Porn - The Relapse, the Reboot and the Retreat. The life of a porn addict can be thought of as a three-part loop which he goes through repeatedly. This loop consists of three phases - the Relapse, the Reboot, and the Retreat. The Relapse or phase one is when he goes back to his old ways of watching porn from a successful streak, the Reboot or phase two is when he is away from porn on a successful streak for any amount of time, and the Retreat or phase three is when the porn cravings hit him hard and he slowly moves back towards phase one or the Relapse. The porn addict behaves differently in each one of these phases. During phase one when he relapses, he is full of guilt and shame. During this phase, he has every reason to quit porn and every reason why porn is bad for him. He is full of motivation to quit porn and to get his life back on track. He will delete his porn collection, gets porn filters for his phone and PC, decides to exercise, meditate and do a host of other things which he thinks might help him in quitting porn. During phase two or the Reboot, when he is on a successful streak, he is full of energy and motivation to keep going on and the drive to succeed in quitting porn and doing the things which are important in life. During this phase, he is the most productive, confident, charismatic, enthusiastic and optimistic version of himself. And then, comes the dreaded phase three or the Retreat, when he is triggered by something sexual, a sexual thought, imagery, ad, or a sex scene in a movie and the porn cravings hit him hard. During this time, he starts losing control, doing everything possible not to watch porn and feeling helpless and irresistibly attracted to porn. And he relapses and binges on porn just to begin his Reboot phase again. The way an addict deals with his addiction and his life in each phase is completely different. The resolution and the motivation he has to quit porn in phase one is completely faded away in phase three. And the confidence, motivation towards life goals, the energy and vitality he has in phase two is completely gone in phase one. So, he would need different approaches in each phase to deal with and to master his addiction and this is where this book comes into the picture. This book includes 45 techniques to deal with porn and masturbation addiction and it is divided into three parts corresponding to the three phases discussed above. Since the best time when an addict invests the time, money and energy into quitting his porn addiction is after phase one, that is after his relapse. So, the first part of this book deals with the techniques to build a solid base before he builds his Porn free lifestyle. The second part of the book deals with the techniques to maintain a successful streak; techniques which will help him to keep going on. And the third part of the book will give him techniques for the times when the going gets tough. It deals with Triggers and Cravings because they are the sole reason for every relapse. This part will give him the techniques to deal with the cravings when they are strong and when they are very strong. I would like to wish good luck to you, the reader, as you move onto the next stage in your life. Without a doubt, you will continue to have success in all areas. The Author

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