A Nonjudgmental Guide To Interfaith Marriage

Every day Americans of different faiths fall in love, decide to marry, and are suddenly faced with a bewildering array of pressures, choices and conflicts. Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben offers down-to-earth advice to help couples of all faiths find their own solutions to sensitive issues, from talking about religious differences to deciding how to raise the children. Drawing upon 25 years of counseling experience, he shares the real life stories of couples who have met the challenges of interfaith relationships. This unique, nonjudgmental guide will help you learn how to discuss religion, talk to parents, choose a ceremony that’s right for you, celebrate differences, create your own unique religious lifestyle, celebrate life as a “team marriage,” learn how to discuss sensitive issues in advance and discover the joy of creating a life filled with mutual fulfillment, understanding and love.

Every day Americans of different faiths fall in love, decide to marry, and are suddenly faced with a bewildering array of pressures, choices and conflicts. Rabbi Steven Carr Reuben offers down-to-earth advice to help couples of all faiths find their own solutions to sensitive issues, from talking about religious differences to deciding how to raise the children. Drawing upon 25 years of counseling experience, he shares the real life stories of couples who have met the challenges of interfaith relationships. This unique, nonjudgmental guide will help you learn how to discuss religion, talk to parents, choose a ceremony that’s right for you, celebrate differences, create your own unique religious lifestyle, celebrate life as a “team marriage,” learn how to discuss sensitive issues in advance and discover the joy of creating a life filled with mutual fulfillment, understanding and love.

Straightforward and nonjudgmental advice for dating couples, partners, husbands and wives, in-laws, counselors and others. Interfaith relationships are commonplace; the challenges that go along with them are not. An interfaith couple will have to confront tough questions, yet it's often difficult to find answers, especially when traditional sources of help--family, friends, clergy and counselors--are unable or unwilling to understand the problems. > From a Jewish perspective, this book guides interfaith couples at any stage of their relationship--from dating and engagement, to the wedding and marriage--and the people who are affected by their relationship in any way, including their families and counselors who work with interfaith couples. While making no judgments or dictating answers, and supporting individual choice, topics covered include: What is an intermarriage? Why do people intermarry? When do you bring up the subject of religion? What is conversion and is it necessary? When do you discuss and decide how children will be raised? ... and much more!

Straightforward and nonjudgmental advice for dating couples, partners, husbands and wives, in-laws, counselors and others. Interfaith relationships are commonplace; the challenges that go along with them are not. An interfaith couple will have to confront tough questions, yet it’s often difficult to find answers, especially when traditional sources of help—family, friends, clergy and counselors—are unable or unwilling to understand the problems. From a Jewish perspective, this book guides interfaith couples at any stage of their relationship—from dating and engagement, to the wedding and marriage—and the people who are affected by their relationship in any way, including their families and counselors who work with interfaith couples. While making no judgments or dictating answers, and supporting individual choice, topics covered include: What is an intermarriage? Why do people intermarry? When do you bring up the subject of religion? What is conversion and is it necessary? When do you discuss and decide how children will be raised? ... and much more!

This book is a practical guide for parents whose children intermarry. It draws upon Rabbi Reuben's personal experiences officiating at over a thousand interfaith weddings. The author imparts the lessons he has learned for helping parents create loving, supportive, and successful relationships with their own children, their new son- or daughter-in-law, and their new interfaith in-laws, without compromising the integrity of their own dearly-held beliefs and faith. In addition, he incorporates anecdotal experiences of parents who have shared their own formulas for successfully coping with the day-to-day issues of maintaining the best relationship with their children. And he includes stories from same-sex unions as well. Written for people of various faiths across the religious spectrum, this book is a valuable source of information, guidance, and support. It speaks directly to parents, with concrete practical suggestions about how to maintain the best possible relationship with their children—and be a positive influence upon their grandchildren.

This book offers interfaith couples practical tools for dealing with the emotional, psychological, and religious issues that are unique to their chosen lifestyle. It will also help couples of all faiths handle sensitive issues, from announcing the engagement to deciding how to raise the children.

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As the Senior Rabbi of a 1,000 family congregation in Los Angeles, California and as the Rebbetzin (rabbi’s wife) and life partner for nearly 40 years Steven and Didi Carr Reuben have watched, met with and counseled hundreds of couples as they wrestled with the challenges, joys, successes, and failures of creating and nurturing their marriages. After decades of helping others they created this book as their unique recipe for creating a successful marriage and finding the right life partner. Filled with their particular brand of down-to-earth relationship advice and blending humor and experience both personal and professional, How To Marry Your Second Husband First is a practical “how to” guide for anyone looking for a road map to identify the qualities in themselves and a potential partner that will give them the best possible chance at finding love and creating a lasting, life-long spiritual partnership with the absolute right person.