Angry All The Time

If you’ve picked up this book, chances are you’re someone with a serious anger problem. Your explosive temper has probably cost you jobs, friends, loved ones—maybe even your liberty. If it hasn’t yet, it soon will, unless you do something about it. This book contains a powerful and straightforward system for taking control of your anger and your life. This program is not easy, and it might even be painful at times—but it works. The book will teach you how your anger escalates and what you can do to change your angry thoughts and behaviors. Then it’s your turn. When you make and keep that promise to yourself to stay calm no matter what, the happier, safer life you want will become a possibility. With this book, you'll be able to: •Identify the causes of your anger •Avoid violence, blaming, and threats •Stay calm one day at a time •Change anger-provoking thoughts •Ask for what you want without anger

The popular LGBTQ advice columnist and writer presents a memoir-in-essays chronicling his journey growing up as a queer, mixed-race kid in America's heartland to becoming the "Chicano Carrie Bradshaw" of his generation.

This is THE book on anger, the first book to explain exactly why we get mad, what anger really is - and how to cope with and use it. Often confused with hostility and violence, anger is fundamentally different from these aggressive behaviours and in fact can be a healthy and powerful force in our lives. What is anger? Who is allowed to be angry? How can we manage our anger? How can we use it? It might seem like a day doesn't go by without some troubling explosion of anger, whether we're shouting at the kids, or the TV, or the driver ahead who's slowing us down. In this book, the first of its kind, Dr. Ryan Martin draws on 20 years plus of research, as well as his own childhood experience of an angry parent, to take an all-round view on this often-challenging emotion. It explains exactly what anger is, why we get angry, how our anger hurts us as well as those around us, and how we can manage our anger and even channel it into positive change. It also explores how race and gender shape society's perceptions of who is allowed to get angry. Dr. Martin offers questionnaires, emotion logs, control techniques and many other tools to help readers understand better what pushes their buttons and what to do with angry feelings when they arise. It shows how to differentiate good anger from bad anger, and reframe anger from being a necessarily problematic experience in our lives to being a fuel that energizes us to solve problems, release our creativity and confront injustice.

Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.

The flame character, Anger, is here to teach your little ones how to recognize this strong emotion and name their feelings. This adorable book uses red mist and exploding balloons to show how it feels to be angry. It explains what happens in the brain in uncomplicated terms, perfect for young children. Learn how anger affects the body, like breathing harder and having a faster heartbeat. This brightly illustrated board book is a gentle and simple introduction to strong emotions. The Anger character evokes the feelings that small children have experienced, but might not have the words for just yet. Help them understand what these emotions are and that everyone feels them sometimes. The book also includes tips and tricks to control anger, which kids can practice whenever something upsets them. The easy language makes for fun and educational reading time. This helps children with language, vocabulary, and talking about their emotions, especially if they have difficulty expressing feelings. Let the Anger character help your toddler answer difficult questions with simple explanations. Why Do I Feel Angry Today? This fantastic kids' feelings guide includes: Easy-to-understand descriptions of the key emotion: Anger Easy-to-read text that encourages vocabulary building Beautiful illustrations that will engage preschoolers The little flame Anger from this delightful book has friends! Look out for sunshine in I Feel Happy, the raincloud in I Feel Sad, the little star in I Feel Proud and all of them together in How Do I Feel?

Road rage. Domestic violence. Professionally angry TV and radio commentators. We’re a society that is swimming in anger, always about to snap. Leonard Scheff, a trial attorney, once used anger to fuel his court persona, until he came to realize just how poisonous anger is. That and his intense study of Buddhism and meditation changed him. His transformation can be summarized in a simple parable: Imagine you are circling a crowded parking lot when, just as you spot a space, another driver races ahead and takes it. Easy to imagine the rage. But now imagine that instead of another driver, a cow has lumbered into that parking space and settled down. The anger dissolves into bemusement. What really changed? You—your perspective. Using simple Buddhist principles and applying them in a way that is easy for non-Buddhists to understand and put into practice, Scheff and Edmiston have created an interactive book that helps readers change perspective, step by step, so that they can replace the anger in their lives with a newfound happiness. Based on the successful anger management program Scheff created, The Cow in the Parking Lot shows how anger is based on unmet demands, and introduces the four most common types—Important and Reasonable (you want love from your partner); Reasonable but Unimportant (you didn’t get that seat in the restaurant window); Irrational (you want respect from a stranger); and the Impossible (you want someone to fix everything wrong in your life). Scheff and Edmiston show how, once we identify our real unmet demands we can dissolve the anger; how, once we understand our "buttons," we can change what happens when they’re pushed. He shows how to laugh at ourselves—a powerful early step in changing angry behavior. By the end, as the reader continues to observe and fill in the exercises honestly, it won’t matter who takes that parking space—only you can make yourself angry.

NEW & REVISED SECOND EDITION! How bad is your anger? Do you control it, or does it control you? Has it wrecked your life, or does it hurt the lives of others? This book is informative, interactive and insightful in helping people identify their “anger type(s)”, their triggers, and providing proven anger management tools that will work best for helping people overcome self-destructive anger patterns and behaviors. Furthermore, it will engage readers in helping those who possess “millennial anger types” provoked by texting habits, online social media and online dating. This book has been used in anger management support groups, colleges, private companies and employee assistance programs with tremendous success. It has been published on 4 continents, and used by thousands of people, who have applied the principles and changed their lives for the better!