Becoming One

Spiritual writer and founder of Rising Woman, Sheleana Aiyana takes you on a transformational inner-work journey to heal life-long relationship pattens and reclaim power over your life. Romantic relationships have the ability to infuse our lives with the magic of intimacy and connection. But for many of us, that magic is fleeting–over and over, our relationships don't last, or if they do, they fail to make us happy. We find ourselves chasing unavailable love, sublimating our needs in service to others, or trying to save our partners from themselves, all the while abandoning the one who needs us most–ourselves. If you find yourself struggling to let go after a relationship ends, or you keep hitting the same wall in dating and relationships with emotionally unavailable people, this is not a sign that you are broken. It is a sign that somewhere along the way, you learned to sacrifice yourself in order to be loved. In Becoming the One, spiritual leader and visionary founder of the Rising Woman community Sheleana Aiyana offers a roadmap for transforming your relationship patterns to end the cycle of self-abandonment and move into the light of self-discovery. You'll learn to: • build a secure, loving relationship with yourself. • connect with your inner child. • challenge your core beliefs about love. • set self-affirming boundaries. • discover and celebrate your true desires. • recognize red and green flags. Sheleana's revolutionary lessons, based on wisdom from the traumas of her past and years of guiding thousands of women around the world in her internationally acclaimed "Becoming the One" program of spiritual and therapeutic healing practices, teach you to embody the qualities you are seeking in others so that you can become "the one" for yourself. You'll learn how to trust your body, make peace with your past, and clear the path for healthy, conscious love–one that returns the authority to you to choose how to live and whom to love. The desire for love is wired into the very fibers of our being, but before you can create rewarding bonds with others, first you must stand wholeheartedly in self-acceptance. Becoming the One is an invitation to find your way home to yourself.

Open the pages of this book and learn how to experience exciting intensity in your sexual relationship, deeper levels of closeness on an emotional level, and the most fulfilling intimacy of all—spiritual ONEness. With God's help you can make your marriage all it should be and all you crave it to be—no matter what it's like now. Men want action. Women want feeling. From day one they're set up to misunderstand each other. Sometimes you must tell your mate the things you've done wrong, and sometimes you are much better off not to tell. The secret of a strong and intimate marriage is knowing what to share and what to leave buried. If you're in conflict over sexual desires—one wants to do something other doesn't—there is a logical and spiritual way to satisfy you both. As you grow closer to God, you will grow closer to each other.

Open the pages of this book and learn how to experience exciting intensity in your sexual relationship, deeper levels of closeness on an emotional level, and the most fulfilling intimacy of all -- spiritual ONEness. With God's help you can make your marriage all it should be and all you crave it to be -- no matter what it's like now. (page 24) Men want action. Women want feeling. From day one they're set up to misunderstand each other. (page 12) Sometimes you must tell your mate the things you've done wrong, and sometimes you are much better off not to tell. The secret of a strong and intimate marriage is knowing what to share and what to leave buried. (page 108) If you're in conflict over sexual desires--one wants to do something other doesn't -- there is a logical and spiritual way to satisfy you both. (page 168) As you grow closer to God, you will grow closer to each other. (page 225)

A resource for married couples looks at both the physical and spiritual side of love and sex, and introduces the Lovemaking Cycle, a guide to solving intimacy problems between husband and wife through meaningful communication.

Books about Multiple Personality Disorder have usually been written by mental health professionals as texts or case studies. Now, in Becoming One, author Sarah Olson has allowed us the rare privilege of entering her internal world as she journeys from fragmentation to wholeness.Two little girls, the author and her sister, were routinely terrorized and assaulted over a period of years by a family friend. One grew up closed and withdrawn, the other angry and self-destructive. And, most painful of all, their common suffering resulted in estrangement from each other. Becoming One began as Olson's attempt to provide a written account of her memories for her sister as a possible means of reconciliation and family healing.Olson argues that Multiple Personality Disorder (recently re-christened Dissociative Identity Disorder), rather than being a form of insanity as is popularly believed, is actually a brilliant coping mechanism relied upon in the most desperate of circumstances. It is nearly universally associated with severe trauma suffered by very young children and reveals a highly creative, terrified young mind doing whatever needs to be done to survive in an untenable world. The author's courage and generosity in candidly sharing her remarkable experiences afford an invaluable understanding of the effects of severe childhood abuse, and provides important insights into the world of dissociation.Through selected journal writings, letters, and transcripts of recorded therapy sessions, she highlights the role psychotherapy played in her recovery. Here is at once a highly personal look into an individual life, the dynamics of a troubled family, and the healing power of the therapeuticprocess.

According to Thomas Metzinger, no such things as selves exist in the world: nobody ever had or was a self. All that exists are phenomenal selves, as they appear in conscious experience. The phenomenal self, however, is not a thing but an ongoing process; it is the content of a "transparent self-model." In Being No One, Metzinger, a German philosopher, draws strongly on neuroscientific research to present a representationalist and functional analysis of what a consciously experienced first-person perspective actually is. Building a bridge between the humanities and the empirical sciences of the mind, he develops new conceptual toolkits and metaphors; uses case studies of unusual states of mind such as agnosia, neglect, blindsight, and hallucinations; and offers new sets of multilevel constraints for the concept of consciousness. Metzinger's central question is: How exactly does strong, consciously experienced subjectivity emerge out of objective events in the natural world? His epistemic goal is to determine whether conscious experience, in particular the experience of being someone that results from the emergence of a phenomenal self, can be analyzed on subpersonal levels of description. He also asks if and how our Cartesian intuitions that subjective experiences as such can never be reductively explained are themselves ultimately rooted in the deeper representational structure of our conscious minds.

The most outstanding benefit that you will receive from studying and applying the information in this book is that you will change what you believe you can do. Your belief about yourself will grow and that is huge. Back in 1900, William James (Harvard) said "Believe in your belief will create the fact." This is what enabled Kathleen Cameron to make an immediate shift in her income from average to millions. Study this. Now you can too. Becoming "THE ONE" Will quickly shift your perception of what you are truly capable of accomplishing in any and all areas of your life. Will cause you to look at money in a totally different way and you will begin to understand why all the great leaders have clearly told us there is no limit to what you can earn. Will bring your order to your mind and will enable you to take care of whatever condition or circumstance may arise in a calm, confident manner. Will begin to turn caring and sharing into your habitual behaviour. Will turn every day to a good day by beginning the day with gratitude.

This book is based on my pursuit to become one with God. This pursuit involved how I tried to incorporate the word of God in my life, as well as how I realized how it works and how long it took to come into my life. God has been talking to me since I was a little child, and I had no idea who he was. I am not saying to anyone who reads this book that what happened to me will happen to you. Let it be according to your own belief. To give you an idea, one of my prayers took seven years to answer!