Befriending Your Ex After Divorce

If you are divorced, or are contemplating divorce, you’ve probably heard the diatribe: Divorce is messy. Divorce is a tragedy. Divorce will scar your children for life. Befriending Your Ex challenges many of these destructive myths about divorce, and sets out to change the way we think about the process of divorce and its ultimate outcome. While divorce certainly can have negative effects upon children, when they occur, these effects are likely to result from a hostile and combative relationship between ex-spouses. This uplifting book reminds the reader that all divorces need not follow this unhappy script, and that ex-spouses can collaboratively co-parent and be a source of support, not only to their children, but to one another as well. Author Judy Rabinor’s ability to write as both a divorcee and a psychologist gives her a unique perspective on the subject, and in the book she artfully and thoughtfully combines research, clinical practice, and the everyday reality faced by a divorced parent. As a guide for parents, this book is filled with practical exercises, suggestions and strategies for coping with anger, grief, and loss, as well as the myriad of day to day issues involved in co-parenting after divorce. Story after story—including Judy’s own story—reminds the reader that once the emotional tsunami of divorce settles back down, exes can be connected and supportive to one another as they share a major joy: loving and raising children and grandchildren, enjoying the family they have created, and creating a new family unit to evolve in the wake of divorce.

"Why Can't We Be Friends: 100 Ways to Love Your Ex Again" is a manual towards peaceful resolution. Within its pages is a clear and customizable program that provides you with the tools you will need to succeed whether your ex partner is on board or not. Amy shows you that if you decide to take the path of positivity regardless of your partner, you will live a life of joy and integrity. Amy has synthesized her vast professional and life experience into practical tools that can benefit you greatly. What makes artists great? They create a new movement, a new form of art, through vision, unique perspectives and raw talent. They paint because they are compelled to; it is a passion within their soul. I think this best describes Amy's journey towards the creation of "Why Can't We Be Friends." Her vision for peace and harmony in her own divorce and her quest for a personal transformation began to impact others in a positive way. Amy soon realized that the formula could be universally applied to help you if not millions of people and families around the world, which is why she has created this book. Apply her principles to your life. Get ready for inspiration as you embark on this journey.

Can a mother be both loving and selfish? Caring and thoughtless? Deceitful and devoted? These are the questions that fuel psychologist Dr. Judy Rabinor’s quest to understand her ambivalence toward her mother. While leading a seminar exploring the importance of the mother-daughter relationship, Dr. Judy Rabinor, an eating disorder expert, is blindsided by a memory of a childhood trauma. Realizing how this buried trauma has resonated through her life, she sets off to heal herself. The Girl in the Red Boots weaves together tales from Rabinor’s psychotherapy practice and her life, helping readers understand how painful childhood experiences can linger and leave emotional scars. In the process, Rabinor traces her own journey becoming a wounded healer and ultimately making peace with her mother, and herself. Not a traditional self-help book outlining “steps” to reconcile or forgive one’s mother, The Girl in the Red Boots is a poignant memoir filled with hard-won life lessons, including the fact that it’s never too late to let go of hurts and disappointments and develop compassion for yourself—and even for your mother.

Maybe you’re a bride-to-be who is about to gain a mother-in-law. Or perhaps you’re a mother-of-the-groom who is about to gain a daughter-in-law. Or maybe you’ve been in an in-law relationship for decades, one that’s been struggling in painful tension for years. No matter your age or stage, every daughter-in-law and mother-in-law needs help navigating their relationship sometimes. Whether the struggle is one of feeling unseen, unheard, or unvalued, authors and in-laws Barbara and Stacy Reaoch have been there, and as they’ve put the Bible’s wisdom to practice over the years, they’ve found that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law really can thrive in the midst of difficulty. In this biblical, practical, and heartfelt book, Barbara and Stacy Reaoch share from their own 20 years of forming a mother-in-law/daughter-in-law bond. As you walk alongside them in their own journey and lessons learned, prepare to be encouraged and equipped in these areas: Expectations Conflict Suffering Communication Parenting And more With the Bible as your foundation and this book as a helpful companion in the journey, take heart: a healthier relationship with your mother-in-law or daughter-in-law is closer than you think!

Smile! It's not just the end of your marriage, it's the beginning of your second chance! Missy Benson has a two and a half carat diamond engagement ring with color grade H, VS2 clarity and a value of $36,000. It's absolutely gorgeous, practically flawless, and let's be honest, really big! But what the successful Chicago realtor doesn't have anymore is a husband. After 12 years of marriage, her husband, Paul, a handsome, wealthy attorney has devastated her by breaking up their marriage for Priscilla Sommerfeld, a young, personal trainer, who according to Missy's sassy assistant, J.J., looks more like a Las Vegas stripper than a fitness expert. Not sure what to do with her ring, and with no financial issues to worry about, Missy decides to put it up for sale on Craigslist. The price: 99 cents! The catch: She gets to pick the buyer. In essence, she's looking for the perfect guy, but not for herself. Her hope is to regain faith that good men do exist, and that marriages can last forever. Now referring to herself as "the divorced girl," Missy interviews dozens of young men who are vying for the huge ring. It's a contest that includes outrageous characters, hilarious and sentimental stories, and two finalists, both of whom Missy adores and who she must choose between. Then there's Parker Missoni, the sexiest contestant by far, who drives her crazy with his brutal honesty, and at the same time stops her heart with his deep brown eyes. Divorced Girl Smiling is the story of a woman's journey to do whatever it takes to heal herself from divorce. It's about acceptance, reflection, taking accountability for mistakes, and appreciating all of life's wonderful gifts. In other words, if you have the guts to put the past behind, admit your mistakes, embrace your future, and give love another chance, you will surely be a divorced girl smiling.

Most dating books tell you what NOT to do. Here's a book dedicated to telling you what you CAN do. In his book, Get the Guy, Matthew Hussey—relationship expert, matchmaker, and star of the reality show Ready for Love—reveals the secrets of the male mind and the fundamentals of dating and mating for a proven, revolutionary approach to help women to find lasting love. Matthew Hussey has coached thousands of high-powered CEOs, showing them how to develop confidence and build relationships that translate into professional success. Many of Matthew’s male clients pressed him for advice on how to apply his winning strategies not to just get the job, but how to get the girl. As his reputation grew, Hussey was approached by more and more women, eager to hear what he had learned about the male perspective on love and romance. From landing a first date to establishing emotional intimacy, playful flirtation to red-hot bedroom tips, Matthew’s insightfulness, irreverence, and warmth makes Get the Guy: Learn Secrets of the Male Mind to Find the Man You Want and the Love You Deserve a one-of-a-kind relationship guide and the handbook for every woman who wants to get the guy she’s been waiting for.

Game-changing guide to divorce. "Taking the high road" means learning to let some things go, fostering forgiveness when possible, and incorporating empathy into actions that affect your former life partner. - Andy Heller, author and divorced dad If you find yourself in the stressful world of divorce - whether you are considering separation, are in the midst of the process or coming out the other side, Take the High Road: Divorce with Compassion for Yourself and Your Family will help replace battleground tactics with a healthy, supportive process that can work for all parties. Unlike primers on divorce written by lawyers, therapists, and other subject-matter experts, this accessible and revolutionary guide comes from a successful businessman and author of popular books on real estate and investments. As Andy Heller struggled through his own divorce, he searched for a practical roadmap to help him, his wife, and his children navigate the emotional, logistical, legal and financial challenges. Finding nothing to help, Heller began interviewing dozens of divorcing couples, marriage counselors, attorneys, judges, and others who could shed light on divorce universal difficulties. The result: a game-changing look at how both parties can choose compassion and cooperation over anger and fear. Acknowledging the high emotional stakes and the high odds of divorce half of today's marriages end in dissolution Heller has written what one marriage and family therapist calls "a manual of best practices for getting through one of life's more difficult transitions." With blunt advice, real-world examples, and 46 practical strategies, this book is a well-organized roadmap to a more positive destination. It provides a less traveled route for navigating a divorce that can heal hearts, prepare for the future, and, most importantly, nurture the children. Step-by-step, Heller's game plan walks readers through four stages: Divorce Structure, Strategy, and Goals Action Steps to Help Your Children Manage Life's Changes Don't Forget about Your Own Needs When Divorcing Healthy Dealings with Your Ex Within those areas, core "strategy" chapters incorporate engaging anecdotes, original insights, and tips from experts. Readers will be empowered with invaluable communication tools designed to lower the temperature of flashpoint discussions and situations. The author even provides "scripts" for dealing with difficulties before debates can arise. Checklists give readers concrete action plans, and clear "Takeaway Points" at the end of each chapter reinforce key messages. Heller writes about incompatibility and other interpersonal problems, but doesn't shy away from tough topics including emotional and physical abuse, infidelity, and restraining orders. Every divorce is different in its own way. Despite differences, however, most divorcing spouses share the same challenges. Readers will find common ground on subjects all too frequently overlooked in other books on divorce: Avoid Unilateral and Wish-List Expenses Therapy Curveballs Visualizing Your Post-Marriage Home Beware of Button-Pushing Events The Two Categories of Advice-Givers When and With Whom to Speak about Your Ex Where is My Deserved Affirmation or Appreciation? Take the High Road will be essential reading not only for men and women contemplating or going through divorce, but also for their friends, loved ones and the financial and legal professionals in their lives. It's a roadmap for a better life journey with more happiness along the way.

Facebook claims that it is building a “global community.” Whether this sounds utopian, dystopian, or simply self-promotional, there is no denying that social-media platforms have altered social interaction, political life, and outlooks on the world, even for people who do not regularly use them. In this book, Roberto Simanowski takes Facebook as a starting point to investigate our social-media society—and its insidious consequences for our concept of the self. Simanowski contends that while they are often denounced as outlets for narcissism and self-branding, social networks and the practices they cultivate in fact remake the self in their image. Sharing is the outsourcing of one’s experiences, encouraging unreflective self-narration rather than conscious self-determination. Instead of experiencing the present, we are stuck ceaselessly documenting and archiving it. We let our lives become episodic autobiographies whose real author is the algorithm lurking behind the interface. As we go about accumulating more material for the platform to arrange for us, our sense of self becomes diminished—and Facebook shapes a subject who no longer minds. Social-media companies’ relentless pursuit of personal data for advertising purposes presents users with increasingly targeted, customized information, attenuating cultural memory and fracturing collective identity. Presenting a creative, philosophically informed perspective that speaks candidly to a shared reality, Facebook Society asks us to come to terms with the networked world for our own sake and for all those with whom we share it.