Breaking The Cycle Of The Mother Wound

An insatiable need for sex and love. Periods of overeating or starving. A pattern of unstable and painful relationships. Does this sound painfully familiar? Trauma counselor Kelly McDaniel has seen these traits over and over in clients who feel trapped in cycles of harmful behaviors-and are unable to stop. Many of us find ourselves stuck in unhealthy habits simply because we don't see a better way. With Mother Hunger, McDaniel helps women break the cycle of destructive behavior by taking a fresh look at childhood trauma and its lasting impact. In doing so, she destigmatizes the shame that comes with being under-mothered and misdiagnosed. McDaniel offers a healing path with powerful tools that include therapeutic interventions and lifestyle changes in service to healthy relationships. The constant search for mother love can be a lifelong emotional burden, but healing begins with knowing and naming what we are missing. McDaniel is the first clinician to identify Mother Hunger, which demystifies the search for love and provides the compass that each woman needs to end the struggle with achy, lonely emptiness, and come home to herself.

Sure to become a classic on female empowerment, a groundbreaking exploration of the personal, cultural, and global implications of intergenerational trauma created by patriarchy, how it is passed down from mothers to daughters, and how we can break this destructive cycle. Why do women keep themselves small and quiet? Why do they hold back professionally and personally? What fuels the uncertainty and lack of confidence so many women often feel? In this paradigm-shifting book, leading feminist thinker Bethany Webster identifies the source of women’s trauma. She calls it the Mother Wound—the systemic disenfranchisement of women by the patriarchy—and reveals how this cycle is perpetuated by wounded mothers who unconsciously pass on damaging beliefs and behaviors to their daughters. In her workshops, online courses, and talks, Webster has helped countless women re-examine their lives and their relationships with their mothers, giving them the vocabulary to voice their pain, and encouraging them to share their experiences. In this manifesto and self-help guide, she offers practical tools for identifying the manifestations of the Mother Wound in our daily life and strategies we can use to heal ourselves and prevent our daughters from enduring the same pain. In addition, she offers step-by-step advice on how to reconnect with our inner child, grieve the mother we didn’t have, stop people-pleasing, and, ultimately, transform our heartache and anger into healing and self-love. Revealing how women are affected by the Mother Wound, even if they don’t personally identify as survivors, Discovering the Inner Mother revolutionizes how we view mother-daughter relationships and gives us the inspiration and guidance we need to improve our lives and ultimately create a more equitable society for all.

Do you experience mental distress, toxic relationships, or low self-esteem? Do you think your mother doesn't love you enough or that you can never please her? Do you question whether God is interested in you at all or if He has a plan for your life? If you said "yes" to any of these inquiries, you might be dealing with the mother's wound, a severe and frequently concealed injury brought on by your mother's lack of affection, approval, and connection. Every element of your life, including your relationships, spirituality, and sense of self, can be impacted by your mother's wound. Additionally, it can be passed on from one generation to the next, starting a vicious cycle of pain and misery. However, hope remains. You have the power to mend the maternal wound and overcome its harmful consequences. This book will reveal to you: The causes, signs, and effects of the mother wound and how it affects relationships with God, other people, and yourself in addition to your mother. The process of healing the mother's wound includes learning how to use the power of forgiveness and grace for both yourself and your mother, as well as admitting, feeling, expressing, releasing, and transforming your wounds. The advantages of mending the mother's wound include enhanced relationships, spirituality, emotional stability, and self-worth; also, how to leave a legacy of healing for both the present and future generations. useful advice and resources to give you the ability to conquer any difficulties or roadblocks you may encounter on your path to recovery, as well as how to use God's plan to actualize your full potential and purpose. The author's account of suffering and recovery from her mother's wounds, coupled with the realizations and lessons she gained along the way, serves as the basis for this book. The most recent studies and professional viewpoints on the mother wound also influenced it and how it affects women and society. This book will assist you in experiencing the transformation and liberation that come from healing the mother wound, regardless of whether you are conscious of it or not. Additionally, you will discover how to accept God's love and grace, acknowledge that you are His cherished child, and understand that He longs for you to lead a prosperous, joyful life. Give up letting your mother's wounds limit you. Get started on your healing path right now and find the incredible gifts waiting for you on the other side of your mother's wound.

Break Free From Over-Functioning, Over-Delivering, People-Pleasing, and Ignoring Your Own Needs So You Can Finally Live the Life You Deserve! Most of us were never taught how to effectively express our preferences, desires or deal-breakers. Instead, we hide our feelings behind passive-aggressive behavior, deny our own truths, or push our emotions down until we get depressed or so frustrated that we explode, potentially destroying hard-won trust and relationships. The most successful and satisfied people on the planet have one thing in common: the ability to create and communicate clear, healthy boundaries. This ability is, hands down, the biggest game changer when it comes to creating a healthy, happy, self-determined life. In Boundary Boss, psychotherapist Terri Cole reveals a specific set of skills that can help you stop abandoning yourself for the sake of others (without guilt or drama) and get empowered to consciously take control of every aspect of your emotional, spiritual, physical, personal, and professional life. Since becoming a Boundary Boss is a process, Cole also offers actionable strategies, scripts, and techniques that can be used in the moment, whenever you need them. You will learn: • How to recognize when your boundaries have been violated and what to do next • How your unique “Boundary Blueprint” is unconsciously driving your boundary behaviors, and strategies to redesign it • Powerful boundary scripts so in the moment you will know what to say • How to manage “Boundary Destroyers”—including emotional manipulators, narcissists, and other toxic personalities • Where you fall on the spectrum of codependency and how to create healthy, balanced relationships This book is for women who are exhausted from over-giving, overdoing, and even over-feeling. If you’re getting it all done but at the expense of yourself, give yourself the gift of Boundary Boss.

A resource for daughters of mothers with narcissistic personality disorder explains how to manage feelings of inadequacy and abandonment in the face of inappropriate maternal expectations and conditional love, in a step-by-step guide that shares recommendations for creating a personalized program for self-protection and recovery. 50,000 first printing.

I Am Her Daughter - The Healing Path to A Woman's Power by Licia Berry addresses the unhealed Mother Wound in women, in culture, and in the world. The author shares her personal healing and offers strategies for women to reclaim their birthright of love and acceptance, with an eye on healing the global Mother Wound. Are you a woman who: has difficulty trusting yourself, is often called "overly sensitive," has difficulty setting firm boundaries, doubts that you are loved and lovable, rejects the wonder of your woman's body, feels you must earn your right to voice your opinion, knows there is something wrong but can't seem to name it, avoids intimacy with other women, having few close friends, is struggling to find your place and permission to be in the world, doubts your unique brilliance and suffers from a lack of confidence, has disturbing memories of your mother but is afraid to talk about it, mistrusts and has difficulty with other women, even though you seek their approval, has or had a challenging relationship with your mother (or even no relationship at all?) "For many of us, especially women, the first wound - the Mother Wound -is the one that shapes our lives. It is a wound to every part of our being - physical, mental, emotional and spiritual - and it must be healed at all of these levels. It is a wound so profound that its healing can only be accomplished with the Divine Healer, the Divine Mother. "Many among us have earthly flesh-and-blood mothers who do a remarkable job of embodying the Divine Mother's unconditional acceptance, deep compassion, and profound understanding. Though they may not do it perfectly, these true mothers bestow enough of that Divine Mother's essence to equip their daughters with a sense that they are worthy of being loved, that they are fundamentally good, and that their lives hold value and meaning. Armed with this conviction, those who bear no Mother Wound step into life better equipped to live into their own power. "But there are others-too many others-for whom the reflection of divine mothering is clouded, broken, or downright absent. Such an absence creates a primal wound, one that we can spend our lives trying to heal. They may struggle mightily to attain the love and acceptance that is their birthright, knocking again and again at the door of a heart that will not or cannot be opened to them. "In order to heal, the unmothered daughter must recognize that no earthly relationship has the power to fill the hole that is her first and deepest wound. Only the act of reclaiming relationship with the Divine Feminine has that power. To heal our primal wound, we must turn to the Prime Source. "This book is about that healing process. It is a testimony to possibility. I Am Her Daughter is a tale of one woman's experience and every woman's journey on that healing path. It contains profound and powerful wisdom, deep reassurance, and vibrant hope. "This book is for all of us. It is part prayer, part testimony, part spiritual teaching. But most importantly, this book shows the healing path to that joyful reunion, that precious reconnection with our original Mother, the one whose perfect love for us allows us to finally and completely love ourselves. And, being loved, to live fully in our own power." -from the Foreword"

A groundbreaking approach to transforming traumatic legacies passed down in families over generations, by an acclaimed expert in the field Depression. Anxiety. Chronic Pain. Phobias. Obsessive thoughts. The evidence is compelling: the roots of these difficulties may not reside in our immediate life experience or in chemical imbalances in our brains—but in the lives of our parents, grandparents, and even great-grandparents. The latest scientific research, now making headlines, supports what many have long intuited—that traumatic experience can be passed down through generations. It Didn’t Start with You builds on the work of leading experts in post-traumatic stress, including Mount Sinai School of Medicine neuroscientist Rachel Yehuda and psychiatrist Bessel van der Kolk, author of The Body Keeps the Score. Even if the person who suffered the original trauma has died, or the story has been forgotten or silenced, memory and feelings can live on. These emotional legacies are often hidden, encoded in everything from gene expression to everyday language, and they play a far greater role in our emotional and physical health than has ever before been understood. As a pioneer in the field of inherited family trauma, Mark Wolynn has worked with individuals and groups on a therapeutic level for over twenty years. It Didn’t Start with You offers a pragmatic and prescriptive guide to his method, the Core Language Approach. Diagnostic self-inventories provide a way to uncover the fears and anxieties conveyed through everyday words, behaviors, and physical symptoms. Techniques for developing a genogram or extended family tree create a map of experiences going back through the generations. And visualization, active imagination, and direct dialogue create pathways to reconnection, integration, and reclaiming life and health. It Didn’t Start With You is a transformative approach to resolving longstanding difficulties that in many cases, traditional therapy, drugs, or other interventions have not had the capacity to touch.

Originally published in 1993, this classic piece of literature on adoption has revolutionised the way people think about adopted children. Nancy Verrier examines the life-long consequences of the 'primal wound' - the wound that is caused when a child is separated from its mother - for adopted people. Her argument is supported by thorough research in pre- and perinatal psychology, attachment, bonding and the effects of loss.