Codependence

In a crisis, it's easy to revert to old patterns. Caring for your well-being during the coronavirus pandemic includes maintaining healthy boundaries and saying no to unhealthy relationships. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. Is someone else's problem your problem? If, like so many others, you've lost sight of your own life in the drama of tending to someone else's, you may be codependent--and you may find yourself in this book--Codependent No More. The healing touchstone of millions, this modern classic by one of America's best-loved and most inspirational authors holds the key to understanding codependency and to unlocking its stultifying hold on your life. With instructive life stories, personal reflections, exercises, and self-tests, Codependent No More is a simple, straightforward, readable map of the perplexing world of codependency--charting the path to freedom and a lifetime of healing, hope, and happiness. Melody Beattie is the author of Beyond Codependency, The Language of Letting Go, Stop Being Mean to Yourself, The Codependent No More Workbook and Playing It by Heart.

Pia Mellody creates a framework for identifying codependent thinking, emotions and behaviour and provides an effective approach to recovery. Mellody sets forth five primary adult symptoms of this crippling condition, then traces their origin to emotional, spiritual, intellectual, physical and sexual abuses that occur in childhood. Central to Mellody's approach is the concept that the codependent adult's injured inner child needs healing. Recovery from codependence, therefore, involves clearing up the toxic emotions left over from these painful childhood experiences.

This book contains clinical cases and personal experiences of patients who learn to recover from their emotional dependence and codependence in their treatment process. Emotional pain is harder to feel and endure than physical pain. Many people are hooked on emotional pain and drama. Emotional dependence is a physical, mental, emotional and spiritual disease which a large portion of our society suffers from. One of its symptoms is codependence, and there is a solution for it. Codependence is a syndrome made up of dysfunctional behavior patterns such as perfectionism, pleasing, manipulating, need for controlling, need for approval, incapacity to take decisions, permissiveness, procrastination and victimhood among others. Codependence entails the belief that we are incomplete. This belief turns us into people with a great need of being needed. We learn to seek love from a place of need and do whatever is necessary to get it. Without self-love we lose our connection to life. There are only gratifications which leave us with anxiety and emptiness. When we become dependent we lose our connection to life and end up having a second-hand life. Originally written in Spanish, this book has been translated to English and Swedish.

“In codependence, the emphasis is on everyone and everything but ourselves....In recovery, we learn how to say no, to set boundaries in relationships, and then perhaps walk away—if necessary—sometimes for a long time, perhaps forever. It's not without effort....Even if a relationship is worth saving, your active codependence can destroy it. It will not help it or you and will certainly not convince the other person in your life to stop drinking or using or gambling or eating compulsively or running around. But your recovery can nurture a relationship with God while it nurtures you at the same time.” —From Recovery from Codependence This book is not just for Jewish people. It's for all people who would gain strength to heal and insight from the Bible and the wisdom of Jewish tradition. With the same groundbreaking insight of his Twelve Jewish Steps to Recovery: A Personal Guide to Turning From Alcoholism and Other Addictions and Renewed Each Day: Daily Twelve Step Recovery Meditations Based on the Bible, Kerry Olitzky has produced an inspiring new volume that brings healing wisdom to those whose lives are most directly affected by the addiction of a loved one. Recovery From Codependence: A Jewish Twelve Steps Guide to Healing Your Soul explains how the Twelve Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous are relevant for Jewish people and all people who would gain strength to heal and insight from Jewish tradition. You may be a codependent person if you are in a relationship with an alcoholic or addicted person, someone who has an eating disorder, engages in compulsive gambling or sex, if you are addicted to a relationship, or if you are part of a dysfunctional family. Though you may be suffering, broken in spirit, this book can help you be healed, be empowered to take hold of your life, and be made to feel spiritually whole once again. Using the familiar Twelve Step model, Dr. Olitzky, known for his spiritual leadership and for reaching out to help people in recovery, takes the codependent person on a Jewish journey through the Twelve Steps. Rabbi Olitzky's inspiring message draws on the experience of Jewish tradition and the personal experiences of recovering codependent people. He provides Twelve Step support for people of all faiths and backgrounds.

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 Those who are codependent are often in an emotional state marked by anxiety and feelings of being irrational, dysfunctional, and/or crazy. They often find themselves overreacting to everyday happenings, experiencing feelings far more excessive than appropriate for a given situation. #2 The emotional factor of codependence can also be triggered by the disappointment of interviewing for a job and not being hired, the sadness of a good friend moving to another town, or the anger of a neighbor’s dog messing up the flower bed. #3 The families of alcoholics and other chemically dependent people often noticed that their emotions were intensified in their relationships with the alcoholic or addict, but they were unable to express them in a healthy way because of a compulsion to please and care for the addicted person. #4 The disease of codependence is difficult to see from the outside, as its sufferers wear a mask of adequacy and success designed to win the all-important approval of others. But these slaves of powerful, seemingly groundless compulsive feelings are doomed to be on an endless treadmill of personal failure and intensified experiences of shame, pain, fear, and repressed anger.

She shows how Alex, Paul, Liz, and many others create a sense of self by combining elements of autobiography, culture, and social structure all within the adopted language of psycho-spirituality."--BOOK JACKET.