Couplehood

In the tradition of the #1 best-seller SeinLanguage, Bantam Books proudly presents the first book by Paul Reiser, television's sharpest, funniest observer of love, marriage and other mysteries of life. A veteran comic performer, Reiser is best-known as the co-creator and star of the highly-rated NBC comedy, "Mad About You", which Time Magazine called "The season's best new sitcom" in its 1992 debut. Every Thursday night more than twenty million viewers watch as Paul Reiser reveals the most intimate and hilarious scenes of a marriage. Now for the first time, Reiser brings his trademark wit to the page in a book that will delight his eagerly-awaiting audience, and anyone else who has ever fallen in love -- or tried not to. In Couplehood, a New York Times bestseller for more than 40 weeks, Reiser reflects on what it means to be half of a couple -- everything from the science of hand holding, to the technique of tag-team storytelling, to the politics of food and why it always seems to come down to chicken or fish.

For the longest time, based on no evidence other than our own insecurity and sense of incompetence, my wife and I were convinced that we were the flat-out, no-question-about-it, least-skilled parents in the country. Furthermore, we were convinced that every other set of parents we knew was perfect. They were more thorough in going over their kids' homework, they set better boundaries than we do, didn't let their kids watch as many hours of TV as we do, raised kids who are unfailingly polite in public and have a far greater sense of community and public service than our underachieving offspring over there on the couch watching SpongeBob. We were certain everybody else's kids willingly and joyfully eat nothing but healthy foods, shunning all candy and candy-based products, they all sensibly and automatically put on weather-appropriate clothing, and voluntarily call their grandparents with clockwork regularity, giving fully detailed accounts of their numerous accomplishments, ending with testimonials to their wonderful and perfect parents. Turns out: not so much. At all. In the number one New York Times bestseller Couplehood, Paul Reiser wrote about the highs and lows of falling in love and getting married-and the heartbreak and hilarity that comes with it. In Babyhood, he turned his sharply observant eye to the experiences of having a brand-new family. And now in Familyhood, Reiser shares his observations on parenting, marriage, and mid-life with the wit, warmth, and humor that he's so well-known for. From the first experience of sending his two boys off to summer camp-the early feelings of gleeful freedom in an empty house, to realizing how empty the house actually was-to maneuvering the minefield of bad words learned at school, this hilarious new book captures the spirit of familyhood, the logical next frontier for Reiser's trademark perspective on the universal truths of life, love, and relationships.

The classic New York Times bestseller from actor/comedian Paul Reiser, a book that the San Francisco Chronicle calls “an out-loud laugh on every page,” is now available in trade paperback for the very first time. For fans of Reiser’s long-running sitcom Mad About You, with Helen Hunt and Hank Azaria, for readers of comic memoirs like Tina Fey’s Bossypants, and “for the couple considering parenthood as well as for parents who are decades past their days of diaper changing…this book hits home and hits the funnybone" (Chicago Tribune).

In a mad-dash world filled with long to-do lists and too many commitments, it's easy for one to lose perspective of what matters most-even with the most important person in one's life. It gets even more complicated with all of the distractions that seem to keep our attention away from sources of help and renewal. That's why Cloud & Townsend have teamed up to pack their very best relationship principles in a powerful 21-day program designed for today's busy couples. Each short chapter has to-the-point wisdom and do-it-today action steps on issues like committing to personal growth, breaking the pattern of trying to change one's spouse, building-and restoring-trust, cultivating healthy intimacy, establishing realistic expectations, learning to handle conflict without damaging the relationship, and much more.

We Were Here First is the declaration from Wanda and Darryl MacPherson to their three small children, as they hide in the closet for one precious second of “alone” time. In the day-to-day world of sippy cups, diapers, tantrums, and spit-up, life can get pretty crazy!

I know of no better guide for couples who genuinely desire a maturing relationship.M. Scott Peck, author of The Road Less Traveled A remarkable bookthe most incisive and persuasive I have ever read on the knotty problems of marriage relationships. Ann Roberts, former president, Rockefeller Family Fund

Background: Most people with dementia live in their own homes, often together with their partners, who become informal caregivers. Relationship quality and sense of couplehood can be threatened as a result of the transition from a mutually interdependent relationship to a caregiver-care-receiver relationship. This, in turn, may lead to many negative consequences for both partners. Support provided for couples is often divided into different types for the person with dementia and for the partner without dementia and lacks couple-based support that targets the relationship, resources and the couple’s everyday life together. Aim: The overall aim of this thesis is to explore couple-centred interventions in dementia and to develop and test a salutogenic, resource-oriented and couple-based intervention among couples in which one partner has dementia living at home. Methods and findings: This thesis comprises three parts: The first part Exploring involves two linked reviews, one narrative review (study I A) and one scoping review (study I B) that aim to identify and describe what previous couple-centred interventions comprised and why they were conducted. The results of the reviews revealed a knowledge gap in and a need for easily accessible support that targets couple relationships, resources and everyday life. The second part Developing (study II) refers to the development of an easily accessible resource-oriented couple-management intervention. The first step was to identify priority topics for such an intervention through a co-researcher process with couples living with dementia. This included a comprehensive literature review, interviews with couples in which one partner has dementia, and consultation meetings with expert groups of people with dementia and partners in both Sweden and the UK. The co-researcher process and the expert meetings informed four main themes with corresponding sub-themes that couples with dementia considered as important to their wellbeing in their everyday lives: (1) Home and Neighbourhood, (2) Meaningful Activities and Relationships, (3) Approach and Empowerment, and (4) Couplehood. The themes were further developed and integrated into the multimedia application DemPower, which was developed for the delivery of the intervention. The third part Testing and Evaluating describes a feasibility study (study III) in which the DemPower application was tested for feasibility and acceptability among couples in Sweden and the UK. The results of the feasibility study indicated that the DemPower intervention was feasible and acceptable among couples in which one partner has dementia living at home. The testing and evaluating part also comprise a qualitative study (study IV) that explores the experiences of engaging with DemPower together as a couple living with dementia in Sweden. The findings resulted in the three themes: (1) Growth of the relationship, (2) We are not alone, and (3) Positive approach, which the couples appreciated and associated with the resource-oriented and salutogenic approach of DemPower. The overall findings of the thesis are presented in a concluding synthesis at the end of the thesis. The concluding synthesis, focused on “Meaningfulness”, “Empowering health promotion”, “Normalization” and “Transitions and couplehood”, represents the core findings of this thesis. What this thesis adds: This thesis contributes to research, healthcare and the public by highlighting the need for a salutogenic approach toward couples living with dementia. The DemPower application, with its focus on couples’ relationships, resource-orientation and everyday life, has proven feasibility and acceptability and has meaningfully addressed a gap in the literature and in practice. As researchers, healthcare professionals and the public, we need to support couples where one partner has dementia to continue to live as normal life as possible. This can best be achieved by focusing on what couples can do, by inclusion and by valuing them as the experts within dementia research and of their life experiences. Bakgrund: Majoriteten av personer med demens bor i sitt eget hem och ofta tillsammans med sin partner som blir en informell vårdgivare. Relationens kvalitet och känsla av parskap hotas ofta till följd av övergången från en ömsesidig beroenderelation till en vårdgivare-vårdtagar-relation allt eftersom demenssjukdomen fortskrider. Detta kan innebära många negativa konsekvenser. Stöd för par där ena partnern har demens delas ofta upp i olika former för personen med demens och för partnern utan demens, vilket innebär att det saknas parbaserat resursorienterat stöd med inriktning på att främja parrelationen och parets vardagliga liv. Syfte: Syftet med denna avhandling är att utforska parcentrerade interventioner inom demens och att utveckla och testa ett parbaserat, salutogent och resursorienterat stöd för par där ena partnern har en demenssjukdom och som bor tillsammans i det egna hemmet. Metoder och fynd: Denna avhandling består av tre delar. Den första delen att utforska inkluderar två länkade litteraturöversikter, en narrativ översikt och en kartläggande översikt (studie I) som beskriver tidigare interventioner för par som lever med demens och varför de genomförts. Resultaten av översikterna visade ett kunskapsgap i, och ett behov av lättillgängligt stöd som riktar sig till parförhållanden, parens resurser och att främja det vardagliga livet. Den andra delen, att skapa (studie II) involverar utvecklingen av ett lättillgängligt resursorienterat och parbaserat stöd. Det första steget var att identifiera prioriterade ämnen för en sådan intervention tillsammans med par som lever med demens, genom en så kallad medforskarprocess. Detta inkluderade en omfattande litteraturgenomgång, intervjuer med par där ena partnern har demens, och konsultationsmöten med expertgrupper bestående av personer med demens och partners i Sverige och i Storbritannien. Medforskarprocessen och expertmötena resulterade i fyra huvudteman med motsvarande underteman vilka par med demens ansåg vara viktiga för deras relation och för välbefinnande i vardagen: (1) Hem och grannskap, (2) Meningsfulla aktiviteter och relationer, (3) Förhållningssätt och empowerment och (4) Parskap. Dessa teman vidareutvecklades och integrerades i multimedia-applikationen DemPower, som utvecklades i syfte att erbjuda interventionen till par som lever med demens. Den tredje delen att testa och att utvärdera beskriver genomförbarhetsstudien (studie III) där applikationen DemPower testades med avseende på genomförbarhet och acceptabilitet hos par där en partner har demens i Sverige och i Storbritannien. Resultaten av studien visade att DemPower-interventionen var genomförbar och acceptabel bland par där ena partnern har demens. Denna delen av avhandlingen inkluderar även en kvalitativ studie (studie IV) som undersökte parens erfarenheter av att testa DemPower tillsammans som ett par. De samlade upplevelserna resulterade i tre teman: (1) Utveckling av parrelationen, (2) Vi är inte ensamma och (3) Positivt förhållningssätt. De övergripande resultaten från avhandlingen presenteras även i en konkluderande syntes i slutet av avhandlingen. Den konkluderande syntesen med fokus på Meningsfullhet, Empowerment, Normalisering och Parskap representerar kärnan i denna avhandling. Avhandlingens slutsatser och kunskapsbidrag: DemPower-applikationen med fokus på parförhållanden, hälsofrämjande resurser och vardagen har bidragit med ett stöd som vilar på en genuin parbaserad grund tillämpad i det vardagliga livet för par som lever med demens. Denna avhandling bidrar även med kunskap till forskning, vård och allmänheten genom att lyfta fram ett salutogent förhållningssätt till par som lever med demens. Som forskare, vårdpersonal och allmänhet bör vi stödja par där ena partnern har demens för att de ska kunna fortsätta leva ett så normalt liv som möjligt. Detta kan bäst uppnås genom att fokusera på parens resurser, genom inkludering och genom att värdera dem som experter inom demensforskning och i deras livserfarenheter.

This sociolinguistic study of the linguistic practices of bilingual couples describes the conditions, processes and results of private language contact. It is based on a unique corpus of more than 20 hours of private conversations between partners in bilingual marriages. Adding to its breadth of coverage, these private conversations are supplemented with larger public discourses about international couplehood. The volume thus offers a corpus-driven investigation of the ways in which ideologies of gender, nationality and immigration mediate linguistic performances in private cross-cultural communication. The author embraces social-constructionist, feminist and postmodern approaches to second language learning, multilingualism and cross-cultural communication. In contrast to other titles in the field which have focused almost exclusively on the socialization of bilingual children, this book explores what it means to one's sense of self to become socialized into a second language and culture as a late bilingual.