Dating Bootcamp

“A relationship expert whose work is like that of a scientific Carrie Bradshaw.” —THE OBSERVER A self-affirming, holistic guide for everyone—single or married, divorced or dating—to transforming heartbreak into healing by the founder of the innovative and revolutionary Renew Breakup Bootcamp Amy Chan hit rock bottom when she discovered that her boyfriend cheated on her. Although she was angry and broken-hearted, Chan soon came to realize that the breakup was the shakeup she needed to redirect her life. Instead of descending into darkness, she used the pain of the breakup as a bridge to self-actualization. She devoted herself to learning various healing modalities from the ancient to the scientific, and dived into the psychology of love. It worked. Fast forward years later, Amy completely transformed her life, her relationships and founded a breakup bootcamp helping countless women heal their hearts. In Breakup Bootcamp, Amy Chan directs her experience as a relationship columnist and as the creator of Renew Breakup Bootcamp into a practical, thoughtful guide to turning broken hearts into an opportunity to break out of complacency and destructive habits. Dubbed "the Chief Heart Hacker," Amy Chan grounds her practical advice and tried and tested methods rooted in cutting-edge psychology and research, helping first her bootcamp attendees and now her readers most effectively heal and reclaim their self-love. Breakup Bootcamp comes at the perfect time, when many are feeling the intensity of being in or out of a relationship, lonely or suffocated, and flirting with old toxic relationships they’ve outgrown. Relatable, life-changing, and backed by sound scientific research, Breakup Bootcamp can help anyone turn their greatest heartbreak into a powerful tool for growth.

Conquer the dating obstacle course The dating scene can be a real war zone. For women who are beginning to feel like casualties, here’s a training program and plan of action to help you build self-confidence and navigate through the minefield of men. Complete with guides to relationship stages, sex, and even starting over, this book provides you with direct orders on: • Dating with intent • Learning what men are thinking • Putting new skills to the test • Building confidence and firepower

A “must-read” (The Washington Post) funny and practical guide to help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams. Have you ever looked around and wondered, “Why has everyone found love except me?” You’re not the only one. Great relationships don’t just appear in our lives—they’re the culmination of a series of decisions, including whom to date, how to end it with the wrong person, and when to commit to the right one. But our brains often get in the way. We make poor decisions, which thwart us on our quest to find lasting love. Drawing from years of research, behavioral scientist turned dating coach Logan Ury reveals the hidden forces that cause those mistakes. But awareness on its own doesn’t lead to results. You have to actually change your behavior. Ury shows you how. This “simple-to-use guide” (Lori Gottlieb, New York Times bestselling author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone) focuses on a different decision in each chapter, incorporating insights from behavioral science, original research, and real-life stories. You’ll learn: -What’s holding you back in dating (and how to break the pattern) -What really matters in a long-term partner (and what really doesn’t) -How to overcome the perils of online dating (and make the apps work for you) -How to meet more people in real life (while doing activities you love) -How to make dates fun again (so they stop feeling like job interviews) -Why “the spark” is a myth (but you’ll find love anyway) This “data-driven” (Time), step-by-step guide to relationships, complete with hands-on exercises, is designed to transform your life. How to Not Die Alone will help you find, build, and keep the relationship of your dreams.

To fit a changing society, the conventional ways we date and mate have given way to brand new methods. People nowadays marry later in life, choose not to marry at all, seek partners after divorce, outlive spouses, relocate to new areas and even endure pandemics. This signifies that we are moving toward larger dating pools, something made possible through public personal advertising. This text details personal advertising in print and digital media, as well as online dating services, speed dating, the use of mobile dating apps and other topics. Interviews reveal the appeal and limitations of personal advertising for meeting people. This book offers a window into the development of trust and relationships, as well as the increasing role technology plays in shaping how people meet and mate in the modern world.

Janice shows her readers how to stay in the driver’s seat and not just be along for the ride. This no-nonsense book is divided into three easy-to-read sections that her reader can use at the appropriate stages of her dating life. Section I is “Dating Bootcamp.” Here, Janice reveals that the secret of successful dating is to first know yourself. Before you go on a single date, you’ve got to “clean out your closet,” which means eliminating the old, ineffective dating skills and do emotional housekeeping from past failed relationships. This is important because doing the same thing over again and expecting a different result is not only insanity but exhausting and discouraging. Section II is “The Dating Game.” Now you’re ready to take action: pick up the phone, get in the car, and meet the man—or men—who say they find you attractive. This section is divided into two phases: 1. The Marketing Phase. This should last one to six months. Janice cleverly explains that at the beginning of any new relationship, each person markets themselves to the other. Honest marketing of yourself must not be deceptive; it’s just that you’ll show your potential squeeze the best parts of yourself. She cautions against the warning signs that keep you from visiting Heartbreak Hotel in the town that never sleeps. 2. The Comfort Zone. This lasts four to nine months. At this point in the game, you’ve been dating the same guy and you haven’t seen anything that turns your stomach into a knot. The two of you have probably been having sex and you are beginning to think there is a real possibility that this may be your future husband. You have spent enough time with him that your worries and insecurities have subsided, and you are relatively comfortable that he is actually who he has appeared to be. But there could be storm clouds. Men commonly have sexual anxiety, as in, “Am I going to be stuck having sex with just this one woman for the rest of my life?” He may have an uncontrollable urge to run from your relationship, thus becoming a “dance away lover.” Janice digs deep and explores topics including the four types of intimacy—intellectual, physical, sexual, and emotional—as well as how to implement a healthy boundary system to keep from becoming too enmeshed with your new flame. She also unflinchingly discusses abuse in all its forms, and how to spot the warning signs and take action. Section III is “I Think This Is My ‘Boo.’” Now things are getting serious! At this point in your dating journey, you’re probably visualizing how your life could look being married to the guy you’ve been dating for the last year. Janice guides you through this perilous phase, especially if the man seems noncommittal. She encourages the reader to ask herself some honest questions: “What is it about this relationship that makes me feel so happy? How does this fit into my value system? Do I feel confident with this person? Is he honest and trustworthy? Does this relationship encourage a broad or narrow outlook on life, friendships, values, or interest?” and much more. Personal finance becomes an issue, too. Janice advises that before you get married, you each have full disclosure financially—income, savings, investments, debt, even the past five years of income tax returns. Each person needs to be fully aware of where their partner is financially. Conflict resolution becomes important. When two people spend a lot of time together, it is inevitable that there will be an occasional disagreement or argument. Janice tackles this thorny issue and provides down-to-earth tools and techniques for easing through the rough patches.

Kidnapped and sent to live in a disciplinary boot camp where he is physically and psychologically tortured on a daily basis, fifteen-year-old Garrett knows that he has been wrongly imprisoned and so feels there is no choice but to attempt a daring escape in order to save the life he has left in him.

Now several years post-divorce, relationship expert and humorist Mark Miller has experienced more than five hundred first dates. In 500 Dates, composed of fifty-five humor essays, Miller features the highlights and lowlights of those dates. Among the true dating tales and revelations you will find in this book are: • How Miller and his date learned the limitations of a man being too emotionally expressive. (“Most guys consider revealing more about themselves emotionally and communicating on a deeper level nearly as enjoyable as falling face-first onto an ice pick—or spending the rest of eternity listening to Celine Dion music.") • Miller’s realization that sometimes men have to pay a heavy price for their dates’ previous relationship behavior.("At least six different times, God has matched me up with a woman who has had a long history of wild, impulsive, passionate, no-holds-barred sex. She invariably finds something lacking in that lifestyle and decides to make a change. Starting with the very next man she dates. Who is invariably me.") • Miller’s misguided social experiment to separate dating from status by spending less than $20 on the date, purchasing everything at a 99¢ store, and what he learned, as a result, about his date and himself. (“I realize now that on the journey of romance, thrift and creativity will take you only so far - for the rest of the trip, you'll need MasterCard.") • Revealed for the first time the inner workings of a man's brain. ("Cerebellum. Responsible for coordinating movement and maintaining balance. Used primarily when a man has had eight beers and is endeavoring to make his way to the bathroom without tripping over the dog and pulling the fish tank over on top of them.") • How Miller took his date to his ex-wife’s holiday party only to find his date and his ex-wife bonding like high school girlfriends. (“Pam would take Amy aside and present to her a list of all 273 of my failings, most of which, she confides to Amy, won’t become noticeable until month three of Amy’s being with me. Amy is stunned; she’d only been aware of 149 of my failings.”) But 500 Dates is about much more than dating. Its humor essays also cover romance, relationships, breakups, attraction, the nature of love, and how both men and women view the art, science, expectations, and reality of courtship and turning courtship into something deeper and longer lasting in the twenty-first century. Throughout these essays, a portion of which were previously published in various media, Miller provides a sense of hope about one’s romantic prospects. Readers will find that the end of a marriage, even a long-term one, does not mean the end of romance—or one's sense of humor.

Leave him. . .wondering what happened! Listen up, Ladies! Breaking up doesn't have to be so hard to do, especially when you know how to turn your suddenly single sorrow into Southern-style sass. If you're nearing the end of relationship road, Miss Becky's Break Up Boot Camp will show you Southern belle tricks for dumping him with diplomacy. Whether you've got a dead-end boyfriend, a deadbeat husband, or just plain want the man in your life dead, Miss Becky dishes up the breakup tips you need to get you back on your feet: • If I Knew Then What I Know Now: Stop repeating your mistakes. • Excuses, Excuses: Interpreting male break-up speak. • Annie Get Your Gun!: Tips for avoiding stalkers and other bad news exes. • Ex-Etiquette: How to behave. . .and misbehave without getting caught. • Food for the Broken Heart: Southern Belle Break-up Foods. • Getting Back on that Horse: How, when and why to start dating again. So grab a mint julep, slide into your little black dress, and get ready to move on! Miss Becky Rutledge hails from a long line of real live sassy and strong Southern belles. When she's not doling out dating advice, she works as a clinical psychologist in Memphis, Tennesee, specializing in family and relationship therapy.