Embracing Life Again After The Death Of A Spouse

When someone we love dies, our whole world is knocked off balance. One of the most common and yet difficult feelings you experience is isolation. It seems no one understands what you are going through. And many of us are so busy, you don’t take the time to fully grieve and, therefore, heal from your losses. It is very true that people who are grieving often feel extremely tired because the process of grieving usually requires physical and emotional energy. The grief you are feeling is not just for the person who died, but also for the unfulfilled wishes and plans for the relationship with the person. Death often reminds most of the people of past losses or separations. Remember, there are a number of conditions that can make it harder for you as a person to successfully make it through the grief process. For example, sudden losses are harder to deal with than ones that have been anticipated. With anticipated losses, the knowledge that a loss will occur allows people to prepare, both by feeling grief before the fact of the loss and also by planning ways to minimize the negative impact of the loss when it does occur. The loss of a spouse, lover, child, parent, or best friend is usually more deeply felt than the loss of more distant relations and friends. This is because such central relationships have long and deeply felt histories and an intensity of attachment that does not occur with more distant relationships. Central relationships are more deeply and significantly knitted into the grieving person’s sense of self, and thus leave a bigger hole in the grieving person’s sense of self when they are lost. I discovered that when things are going badly, whether in the family or work environment, most of us strive mightily to improve our situations. But what if the way to overcome a series of losses and failures is just to sink into them? We all go through trials and tribulations. Everyone has difficult situations in their life. It is the way we look at them, and the way we handle those situations. I believe it is the struggle we must endure to gain the strength needed to break through the barriers. With every victory comes the strength we need to overcome the obstacles and move forward. Most people today give up easily because of what you may call emotional downturn. This book in your hand has been written and carefully thought out with you in mind. It has been written to bring you out of your sociological pit and emotional defeat. I therefore gladly recommend this book to your reading that you may be built in His grace. I believe that God will never give you more than you can handle. You often wonder how some people cope with their situations in life, I often hear people saying, “Idon’tthinkIcoulddealwiththat” but we don’t know what strength lies within us, until the time comes to face the challenge. The harder the struggle, the sweeter the victory—No test, no rewards.

When someone we love dies, our whole world is knocked off balance. One of the most common and yet difficult feelings you experience is isolation. It seems no one understands what you are going through. And many of us are so busy, you dont take the time to fully grieve and, therefore, heal from your losses. It is very true that people who are grieving often feel extremely tired because the process of grieving usually requires physical and emotional energy. The grief you are feeling is not just for the person who died, but also for the unfulfilled wishes and plans for the relationship with the person. Death often reminds most of the people of past losses or separations. Remember, there are a number of conditions that can make it harder for you as a person to successfully make it through the grief process. For example, sudden losses are harder to deal with than ones that have been anticipated. With anticipated losses, the knowledge that a loss will occur allows people to prepare, both by feeling grief before the fact of the loss and also by planning ways to minimize the negative impact of the loss when it does occur. The loss of a spouse, lover, child, parent, or best friend is usually more deeply felt than the loss of more distant relations and friends. This is because such central relationships have long and deeply felt histories and an intensity of attachment that does not occur with more distant relationships. Central relationships are more deeply and significantly knitted into the grieving persons sense of self, and thus leave a bigger hole in the grieving persons sense of self when they are lost. I discovered that when things are going badly, whether in the family or work environment, most of us strive mightily to improve our situations. But what if the way to overcome a series of losses and failures is just to sink into them? We all go through trials and tribulations. Everyone has difficult situations in their life. It is the way we look at them, and the way we handle those situations. I believe it is the struggle we must endure to gain the strength needed to break through the barriers. With every victory comes the strength we need to overcome the obstacles and move forward. Most people today give up easily because of what you may call emotional downturn. This book in your hand has been written and carefully thought out with you in mind. It has been written to bring you out of your sociological pit and emotional defeat. I therefore gladly recommend this book to your reading that you may be built in His grace. I believe that God will never give you more than you can handle. You often wonder how some people cope with their situations in life, I often hear people saying, IdontthinkIcoulddealwiththat but we dont know what strength lies within us, until the time comes to face the challenge. The harder the struggle, the sweeter the victoryNo test, no rewards.

While we don't like to think about it, marriages eventually do come to an end, either with the death of a spouse or tragically through divorce. This "end" of a relationship leaves the other partner alone and facing an uncertain future. Whether widowed or divorced, the feeling and experience of aloneness--moving from being a "we to a me"---is a common one. This latest book from noted grief experts and authors Zonnebelt-Smeenge and De Vries focuses on two of five grief journey tasks--separating oneself and reinvesting fully in one's own life--offering a unique self-help, psychological, and spiritual guide for the process of helping either the widowed or divorced to redefine and reinvest in life.

“An important, authentic, and liberating look at how we can move through loss with compassion, humor, and peace.” ―Mike Robbins, author of Be Yourself, Everyone Else Is Already Taken Losing a loved one is never easy. Allen Klein knows how it feels—just like you, he’s lost many loved ones in his life. Inspired by Klein's experience with the loss of his wife, Embracing Life after Loss can help you to recover from grief. You never forget the people you lose. But you can grow stronger, wiser, and more appreciative of life as you move forward. And, believe it or not, you can even laugh again. Embracing Life after Loss will show you how to smile through the difficult times—how to take a break from the pain of your loss and rediscover joy in life. A winner of the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor, Allen Klein was once described by comedian Jerry Lewis as “a noble and vital force watching over the human condition.” This book is a steadfast compass that offers hope and resilience to anyone trying to navigate through dark times. With the belief that humor is one of God’s gifts for overcoming your trials and tribulations, Allen Klein guides us through the steps of losing, learning, letting go, living, and—once again—laughing.

Written for widows who are in the throes of grief from the death of a spouse. Encourages the reader to actively work through grief, and advocates persistent and active efforts to cultivate a life of fulfillment and purpose.

What happens when your husband dies unexpectedly in the prime of your life and marriage? In Widow’s Might, Kim Knight shares her experience when her husband suddenly and unexpectedly died at fifty-six years old. In one day, Kim went from planning her future with her best friend to planning a funeral, searching for passwords to online accounts, trying to return to normal when things were no longer normal, and finding God in the middle of trauma and grief. Widow’s Might is for young or middle-aged widows and those who love them. The book helps those who’ve experienced a tragic loss to better understand the confusing and unpredictable path of grief as well as the challenges and promise of new growth. Learning to embrace a life different from the one you imagined isn’t something you’re going to master by the end of year one, when your family and friends think you should, or when you hope you might. You can deeply embrace and honor your marriage to your late spouse and still find contentment, happiness, and maybe even love in the days ahead. Widow’s Might will give you the strength and wisdom to discover new life on the other side of death. Look toward what God has in store for you. And—every once in a while—spend the day in your pajamas and eat popcorn for dinner. It’s okay.

Accepting Death, Embracing Life: How Death Teaches Us to Live, is a spiritual and inspirational journey about overcoming the personal grief and hardships of living with the dying and death of loved ones. Patricia Gulino Lansky, gives you practical tools to use as you learn to cope with the loss of loved ones and heal your own grief. Only when you accept the eventuality of death can you truly appreciate and embrace life and all it has to offer. Lansky has over forty years of experience as a licensed clinical social worker and psychotherapist in private practice, and is an ordained minister currently serving a spiritual community in Virginia. Whether you believe in a higher power or not, Accepting Death, Embracing Life: How Death Teaches Us to Live, is for you. It will interest anyone who has or will assist a loved one in their dying process, as well as anyone who wants to release and heal unresolved emotions of fear, confusion, and grief around death and dying.

‘The most life-affirming book ever written about death.’ Sandi Toksvig ‘One of the most powerful and helpful books about grief that you will ever read.’ Anita Anand ‘Grief is more than the price of love. It is love. We must learn not just to live with it, but to make it welcome.’