Find The Good

As the obituary writer in a spectacularly beautiful but often dangerous spit of land in Alaska, Heather Lende knows something about last words and lives well lived. Now she’s distilled what she’s learned about how to live a more exhilarating and meaningful life into three words: find the good. It’s that simple--and that hard. Quirky and profound, individual and universal, Find the Good offers up short chapters that help us unlearn the habit--and it is a habit--of seeing only the negatives. Lende reminds us that we can choose to see any event--starting a new job or being laid off from an old one, getting married or getting divorced--as an opportunity to find the good. As she says, “We are all writing our own obituary every day by how we live. The best news is that there’s still time for additions and revisions before it goes to press.” Ever since Algonquin published her first book, the New York Times bestseller If You Lived Here, I’d Know Your Name, Heather Lende has been praised for her storytelling talent and her plainspoken wisdom. The Los Angeles Times called her “part Annie Dillard, part Anne Lamott,” and that comparison has never been more apt as she gives us a fresh, positive perspective from which to view our relationships, our obligations, our priorities, our community, and our world. An antidote to the cynicism and self-centeredness that we are bombarded with every day in the news, in our politics, and even at times in ourselves, Find the Good helps us rediscover what’s right with the world. “Heather Lende’s small town is populated with big hearts--she finds them on the beach, walking her granddaughters, in the stories of ordinary peoples’ lives, and knits them into unforgettable tales. Find the Good is a treasure.” —Jo-Ann Mapson, author of Owen’s Daughter “Find the Good is excellent company in unsteady times . . . Heather Lende is the kind of person you want to sit across the kitchen table from on a rainy afternoon with a bottomless cup of tea. When things go wrong, when things go right, her quiet, commonsense wisdom, self-examining frankness, and good-natured humor offer a chance to reset, renew, rebalance.” —Pam Houston, author of Contents May Have Shifted “With gentle humor and empathy [Lende] introduces a number of people who provide examples of how to live well . . . [Find the Good] is simple yet profound.” —Booklist “In this cynical world, Find the Good is a tonic, a literary wellspring, which will continue to run, and nurture, even in times of drought. What a brave and beautiful thing Heather Lende has made with this book.” —John Straley, Shamus Award winner and former writer laureate of Alaska “Heather Lende is a terrific writer and terrific company: intimate, authentic, and as quirky as any of her subjects.” —Marilyn Johnson, author of The Dead Beat

Why this little book? What could a seventy- six year old grandfather know about how to find a good husband? That’s a really good question and I should probably explain why that is so. To start with, women are the worst treated people in the world. Most men would agree that it’s a man’s world. Most women do not get paid the same as men, and I recently noted that the stock of one company went down when a woman was added to the board of directors. Personally that is just appalling as it is quite possible that the new female board of directors may be smarter than the men on the board. I guess the problem is the word female? That’s where things part between me and many of my male friends, as I see great value in women and always have. My most wonderful wife from the start of our marriage made it OK to have women friends. I guess the reason for writing this is that I see so many women being abused by men. Most women are more trusting then men and there lies the problem. There is the trust thing that does not fit with reality. The reality is that men are generally messed up and don’t really understand what it is to be a man or they are just in it for themselves. There is not much that can be done about that. Even worse many women think that they can change a man into this Pollyanna ideal person they dream about. Or even worse, he is horrible and nasty but I love him so I’ll just let him mess up my life! So the real reason for writing this book is that I want to be your grandfather at least in this book. I want to tell you that women are wasting their trust if they are being taken for granted or being abused. And generally, women are really bad judges of men. Women can be so wonderful and trusting, but that is where the trouble can start.

A lady once said that finding a good man is like looking for a needle in a haystack. This is not and should not be the case. True love is all around you if earnestly you desire it. The book suggests functional approaches to true love as an alternative to the hit-and-miss approach that almost always ends in divorce or heartbreak. The book is for the married or single woman. It is for the married woman who, perhaps, already has a good man and necessarily must keep him. It is for the single woman who now is in search of a good man for a lifetime of joyful romance and companionship. The book examines the good man's qualifying attributes, the meaning of romantic love, the concrete manifestations of love and, importantly, how you recognize and sustain true love when it comes your way. Find a Good Man and Keep Him is a practical guide that leads you through and away from the hurtful tumbles and stumbles of a failed relationship onto the path of manifest love with a good man.

How to Find a Good, Christian Man is a self-help book for women. Today many women are making poor choices when it comes to finding a man. Poor choices often lead to heartache and pain. The choice of a marriage mate is one of the most important choices that a woman can make. What steps can a woman take to choose a good man? Most women want a man who is faithful, loving, and kind. Where can women find such men? What can a woman do to attract a man? What techniques can a woman use to discern if a man is right for her? How can a woman tell a Christian man from a worldly man? What should a woman do to prepare herself for a relationship? How should a woman behave once she is in a relationship? What should a woman expect from a man? How should Christians behave while they are dating? Are you tired of dating the wrong men? Have you been hurt by men in the past? Are you willing to try something new in order to find a good man? Can you assert yourself in order to find a mature man? Would you like help in finding the right man for you? All these questions will be answered in How to Find a Good, Christian Man. You will find many helpful suggestions in the book. Harold D. Edmunds gives women a step-by-step guide to finding a good, Christian man. Christian men are different than other men because they live by the high standards set down in Gods word the Bible. Edmunds has written a simple, straightforward guide to finding an excellent companion. The suggestions given are easy to follow and will lead to success. Do you want a good, Christian man?

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Know yourself, respect yourself, and if he wants your magic, you make him work. Bruce Ramsey shares that message and others in this eye-opening guide for women who think all good men are taken. Drawing on his past relationships and daily observations, he shares insights on how women can: attract men by being confident and independent; avoid being used by unscrupulous men; and enhance your self-respect and self-esteem. He also shares ways to spot the type of men to avoid, including weirdos, potential serial killers, or one of those stalkers that youll never be able to escape. Women must recognize the power they hold over menand then exercise that power to find a man that will treat them right. Find out how to do it with the lessons and insights in The Real Reason Women Cant Find a Good Man.

Many women say, "A good man is hard to find." There is a growing number of single women, independent women, and women in unsatisfying relationships. This book offers you truth, reality and wisdom on relationships and life. You may be looking for him, but you are about to go on a journey to find you. "Dr. Carletta N. Perry's A Good Man Is Hard To Find...or Is He?" is a great book that will help you have a healthier relationships, find a good man, and live a life filled with peace, joy and love. She focuses on past relationships, needs and expectations, attraction, recognizing a good man, and even teaches you how to maintain a good relationship. This book is filled with thought-provoking questions, a 2-week journal, a personality assessment, and prayer. Take the journey with Dr. Perry! Dr. Carletta N. Perry is a Doctor of Psychology, a Life and Relationship Coach, Radio Show Host, and Founder of The Center for Peace LLC. She inspires, empowers and enriches lives!

With wise advice and helpful exercises from psychologist Dr. Jaime Zuckerman, this beautifully designed, interactive workbook will help you find a path toward a calmer, happier daily life. Changing your habits, or creating new ones, is both incredibly rewarding and incredibly challenging. This straightforward, insightful workbook will guide you through four key steps to making a permanent change to your habits: Identify the change you want to make Set yourself up to succeed Get through the first four weeks Maintain a habit for the long haul With a total of 50 exercises, you'll find all the tools you need to successfully change your habits, including visualizations to help with goal setting, steps to set up accountability systems, and simple trackers to help you visualize your progress. The workbook's engaging, colorful art and motivational messages make it a fun, accessible tool for self-improvement. The Wellness Workbooks series from Wellfleet Press offers guidance on a wide range of self-help and mental health topics. Each book presents a thoughtful, evidence-based collection of straightforward exercises in an accessible, enjoyable format that will keep you engaged and inspired. With a distinctive design and full-color illustrations throughout, these workbooks deliver a practical path to personal growth in a beautiful package.