Getting Divorced Without Ruining Your Life

The compassionate guide to every aspect of the divorce process is now updated with vital information on changes in the law and norms for divorce cases, as well as important new insights into step-family issues and post-divorce conflicts.

Seventy now-adult children of divorce give their candid and often heart-wrenching answers to eight questions (arranged in eight chapters, by question), including: What were the main effects of your parents' divorce on your life? What do you say to those who claim that "children are resilient" and "children are happy when their parents are happy"? What would you like to tell your parents then and now? What do you want adults in our culture to know about divorce? What role has your faith played in your healing? Their simple and poignant responses are difficult to read and yet not without hope. Most of the contributors--women and men, young and old, single and married--have never spoken of the pain and consequences of their parents' divorce until now. They have often never been asked, and they believe that no one really wants to know. Despite vastly different circumstances and details, the similarities in their testimonies are striking; as the reader will discover, the death of a child's family impacts the human heart in universal ways.

Smile! It's not just the end of your marriage, it's the beginning of your second chance! Missy Benson has a two and a half carat diamond engagement ring with color grade H, VS2 clarity and a value of $36,000. It's absolutely gorgeous, practically flawless, and let's be honest, really big! But what the successful Chicago realtor doesn't have anymore is a husband. After 12 years of marriage, her husband, Paul, a handsome, wealthy attorney has devastated her by breaking up their marriage for Priscilla Sommerfeld, a young, personal trainer, who according to Missy's sassy assistant, J.J., looks more like a Las Vegas stripper than a fitness expert. Not sure what to do with her ring, and with no financial issues to worry about, Missy decides to put it up for sale on Craigslist. The price: 99 cents! The catch: She gets to pick the buyer. In essence, she's looking for the perfect guy, but not for herself. Her hope is to regain faith that good men do exist, and that marriages can last forever. Now referring to herself as "the divorced girl," Missy interviews dozens of young men who are vying for the huge ring. It's a contest that includes outrageous characters, hilarious and sentimental stories, and two finalists, both of whom Missy adores and who she must choose between. Then there's Parker Missoni, the sexiest contestant by far, who drives her crazy with his brutal honesty, and at the same time stops her heart with his deep brown eyes. Divorced Girl Smiling is the story of a woman's journey to do whatever it takes to heal herself from divorce. It's about acceptance, reflection, taking accountability for mistakes, and appreciating all of life's wonderful gifts. In other words, if you have the guts to put the past behind, admit your mistakes, embrace your future, and give love another chance, you will surely be a divorced girl smiling.

When an adult child's marriage ends, lots of folks are hurt. The divorcing couple, of course, and their children. Until now, however, little attention has been paid to the parents of the divorcees. Temlock's examination of this sensitive topic offers parents a friendly guidebook packed with helpful information and suggestions from parents who've "been there." Her five-stage model of the divorce process for parents (Accepting the News, Rescuing Your Child, Responding to Changes, Stabilizing the Family, Refocusing and Rebuilding) will help readers stay grounded through the emotional upheavals they'll share with their children and grandchildren. This practical manual puts an arm around the shoulder of parents of divorcing adults and supports them through the difficult days of the divorce process and its aftermath.

Play Hardball by Holding Tight to Your Cool, Clear Sanity! The most powerful opponent in your divorce isn't your ex or the legal team on the other side. It's your strong emotions that cause bad thinking and bad actions. Your emotions will run hot in your divorce, and when you let them take over, they're likely to keep you from getting what you need to build a satisfying new life for yourself and your children. The great news is that you can regain control and calmly reach a better outcome than you thought was possible-without burning through money, time, and sanity in scorched-earth maneuvers that don't come close to achieving your most important goals. Corey Shapiro, based in NYC, is a divorce attorney who offers coaching through his ebook, podcast and other media. In this book, learn to: - Get your bearings when your spouse is more interested in conflict than resolution. - Figure out what you need and what's important to you. - Pace yourself for a long war and stay hopeful under fire. - Control the way you spend your divorce budget-your time, energy, money, and emotions. - Understand attorneys' tactics and how to respond to them. Divorce is one of the most high-pressure situations you'll face in your life, especially if the level of conflict is high. Triggered, you'll say things you don't mean and make impulsive decisions you'll later regret. Getting A Divorce Without Losing Your Mind provides both emotional perspective and the divorce tactics you need to empower you through the process.

The timeless New York Times bestselling guide to parenting that shows the power of inspiring values through example. A unique handbook to raising children with a compassionate, steady hand—and to giving them the support and confidence they need to thrive. Expanding on her universally loved poem “Children Learn What They Live,” Dorothy Law Nolte, with psychotherapist Rachel Harris, reveals how parenting by example—by showing, not just telling—instills positive, true values in children that they will carry with them throughout their lives. Addressing issues of security, self-worth, tolerance, honesty, fear, respect, fairness, patience, and more, this book of rare common sense will help a new generation of parents find their own parenting wisdom—and draw out their child’s immense inner resources. If children live with criticism they learn to condemn. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. And more wisdom.

The ultimate guide on how to divorce for women and men in a positive, peaceful way. While divorce can be filled with anger, frustration, and bitterness, most divorcing couples want to end their marriage in a manner that preserves their dignity and emotional health, especially if there are children in the picture. They want to prevent irreparable damage to themselves and their children from a long, drawn-out, ugly battle. The Healthy Divorce provides them with the tools to more peacefully negotiate the difficult process of divorce. Filled with checklists, exercises, and rituals—as well as case histories of couples who have successfully used this positive approach—The Healthy Divorce is your essential guide to getting through your divorce without ruining your life or permanently harming your children. The Healthy Divorce empowers couples to negotiate, handle sensitive issues, and resolve conflicts in a way that allows them to emerge from divorce with their emotional well-being intact. The Healthy Divorce includes: The seven keys to a healthy divorce How to separate yourself from the marriage emotionally How to best defuse a dispute before it escalates The best way to handle an uncooperative ex Praise for The Healthy Divorce: "Required reading for anyone contemplating divorce." —Publishers Weekly "This is an achievable model of what divorcing parents can do that's positive for themselves, their spouse, and their children." —Jay Folberg, Professor Emeritus and Former Dean of the University of San Francisco Law School "A wonderful book, immensely readable, very human, quite moving...Will help couples divorce in a more civilized way." —Joan B. Kelly, PhD, co-author of Surviving the Break-Up "Fascinating and informative... This book should prove valuable to those who are contemplating divorce or going through divorce, as well as to mental health professionals from all specialties who treat divorcing adults and children of divorce." —Florence Kaslow, PhD, Past President, International Family Therapy Association

With over half of marriages ending in divorce, there are nearly one million American men every year who are being introduced back into the dating world. This text is a survival guide aimed at the women who love the men who are in the process of divorce.