Grow Up Your Ego

“This book will reveal how a full understanding of the ego’s essence will further your emotional and spiritual evolution and strengthen your intent to make the ego you ally. “With nine chapters, exercises, reviews, appendices, and an index, this well-written, concise, informative book offers valuable information for both lay persons and therapists regarding the strengths and weaknesses of the ego and how to grow into healthier human beings. Chapters include: dismantling the myth of the bad ego, how the ego develops, the ten stages of ego growth, defense mechanisms, and the growth spiral. Other chapters explore emotions, obstacles to growth including the shadow self, spirituality, and the relationship between science and spirituality. Written in an easy-to-follow manner, including stories of individuals with their own processes, the book offers a self-help guide to healing. “The author is a licensed psychologist who has training in Shamanism, adding to the research validity and personal connection of the mind/body/spirit outlook. “This is a practical guide for lay persons wanting an introduction on how to grow beyond the ego of narcissism into the ego of transcendence. Psychotherapists would also find this book beneficial in their work with clients (as well as for exploring their own ego issues). It includes valuable scientific research and excellent, in-depth exercises to help readers explore ways to develop their egos into higher, spiritual states. For in order to let go of the ego into higher levels of compassion and love, one must have a healthy ego as the basis for grounding in reality. All chapters are informative, but the chapter on the ten stages of ego development is especially valuable. The final two chapters on exploring higher states of being, including self-actualization, must be read by those wanting to live exemplary lives. While the book doesn’t replace therapy or a spiritual focus, it will be an excellent adjunct to the processes.” The US Review of Books Reviewed by Carol Anderson, D. Min., ACSW, LMSW

This book delivers scientific backing for the stages of ego growth, what it means to have a mature ego, and the steps to take for getting there. Not only does the path of growing up the ego connect us to the mission of our souls, it also provides a crucible strong enough to support the transcendent experiences we so yearn for. In learning of the essential role of the ego--that of keeping us alive and giving us a sense of self-- readers soon discover that when we're born, the ego has as much growing up to do as the rest of us. When bonding with caretakers is interrupted or fails, we see the results in children and adults who lack self-esteem, cannot be empathic, cannot establish healthy relationships, and who may act out in varying ways. Like no other book in its genre, GROW UP YOUR EGO shows how the ego can "grow up" at any time through the identification and maturing of defense mechanisms; by learning how to appropriately self-soothe; and through wholesome relationships. In language anyone can understand, this self-help book leads readers through chapter content and exercises. Case examples and step-by-step encouragement contribute to this holistic overview of how spirituality is par and parcel of our humanness.

A powerful meditation on the nature and dangers of ego, from the author of the #1 New York Times bestseller Stillness is the Key, and Obstacle is the Way - over 1 million copies sold 'Re-read it each year. It's that important' Derek Sivers, author of Anything You Want 'Ryan Holiday is one of his generation's finest thinkers' Steven Pressfield, author of The War of Art 'This is a book I want every athlete, aspiring leader, entrepreneur, thinker and doer to read' George Raveling, Nike's Director of International Basketball 'Inspiring yet practical' Robert Greene, author of The 48 Laws of Power It's wrecked the careers of promising young geniuses. It's evaporated great fortunes and run companies into the ground. It's made adversity unbearable and turned struggle into shame. Every great philosopher has warned against it, in our most lasting stories and countless works of art, in all culture and all ages. Its name? Ego, and it is the enemy - of ambition, of success and of resilience. In Ego is the Enemy, Ryan Holiday shows us how and why ego is such a powerful internal opponent to be guarded against at all stages of our careers and lives, and that we can only create our best work when we identify, acknowledge and disarm its dangers. Drawing on an array of inspiring characters and narratives from literature, philosophy and history, the book explores the nature and dangers of ego to illustrate how you can be humble in your aspirations, gracious in your success and resilient in your failures. The result is an inspiring and timely reminder that humility and confidence are our greatest friends when confronting the challenges of a culture that tends to fan the flames of ego, a book full of themes and life lessons that will resonate, uplift and inspire.

"Why are you allowing the negative thoughts inside your head to live there rent-free?" You want the new house with a kitchen big enough to host a full-on concert. The dream career that makes you spring out of bed in the morning. A partner that makes your heart sing. Oh and a few extra thousand in the bank would be nice too, but then boom. Without so much as a warning, a voice comes from the depths of your mind yelling in your ear tales of all the reasons and excuses it's simply not possible for you to have that big, beautiful life you want. That my friend, is your ego talking. Your ego will throw a tantrum while plastering the walls of your mind with stories. The kind of stories that keep you up at night tossing and turning, staying in a job that makes you sprint to your car at the end of the night, and stuck in unfulfilling relationships long after their expiration date. Stop it. Your Ego is Showing takes a deep yet practical and actionable look into your ego mind and airs out the stories that have kept you stuck for so long. Emily uses her knowledge as a Life Coach and her own personal experience and challenges growing up with a chatty ego to help you unleash and uncover the best possible version of yourself making way for your best life. By the end of this book, you will have a full understanding of when your ego is holding you back, how your ego's stories play out in your life, practices to combat these stories, journal prompts to bring awareness to your daily thoughts and tools to help you show up bigger and bolder than you ever have before.

Ego Trip's Book of Rap Lists is more popular than racism! Hip hop is huge, and it's time someone wrote it all down. And got it all right. With over 25 aggregate years of interviews, and virtually every hip hop single, remix and album ever recorded at their disposal, the highly respected Ego Trip staff are the ones to do it. The Book of Rap Lists runs the gamut of hip hop information. This is an exhaustive, indispensable and completely irreverent bible of true hip hip knowledge.

In The Healthy Mind, Dr. Henry M. Vyner presents the findings of twenty-seven years of research spent interviewing Tibetan lamas about their experiences of the mind. The interviews have generated a science of stream of consciousness that demonstrates that the healthy human mind is the egoless mind, given the paradox that the egoless mind has an ego. Vyner presents this science and also shows his readers how to cultivate a healthy mind. The Healthy Mind features extensive interview excerpts, theoretical maps of the egoless and egocentric mind, discussions of the history of science, and thought experiments that unpack the implications of his findings. This is a useful book for all those interested in the dialogue between Buddhism and psychology and in understanding the nature of the healthy mind.

Being raised by hostile negative adults creates enormous conflicts within our mind and soul. The resulting person is left with many unanswered questions that continue to haunt them during their lifetime. A life filled with turmoil will continue until they decide to become responsible for discovering who they really are. This book is dedicated to the brave souls who see that this decision is their true pathway to living a life once only dreamed of. As they begin the search for answers to the many nagging questions that occupy their thoughts, "Why me, dear God?" is the one that constantly returns to haunt the mind of an abused child for a lifetime. Seeking answers to these "why" questions has energized and motivated my search for truth my entire life. However, this is only the tip of the iceberg and just the beginning of your building a life you will be proud to look back upon and share with others. The fact you are searching for answers indicates you have finally reached a point in life where you are now ready for the wisdom and truth necessary to understand the many questions remaining. While all negative experiences in life have a good and bad side, not all books on this subject present the truth about how to make the changes in your life. This book will explain how to use the pain, terror, and humiliation you survived as the foundation upon which you can construct a new life filled with happiness and achievements. I know from personal experience those answers you seek are within you. The truth of who you are is buried beneath the garbage of the past and within your grasp. Many of us have survived the pain of child abuse by application of the time tested wisdoms contained here, so trust me when I say your search will uncover all the goodness and joy you seek by uncovering your true self. Remember, God didn't bring you this far to drop you on your head and forget you. All you need to keep in mind is to never give up. Work on developing your faith, never lose sight of the bright future ahead, and you will accomplish the job of destroying the past and making room for the real you. I know this will work because it's a firsthand account of a boy who survived severe child abuse and became a man who now lives a wonderful life.

The New York Times bestselling author of Reality-Based Leadership rejects the current fad of "engaging" employees and the emotional drama of "meeting their needs"--returning leadership to leaders and productivity to businesses. For years now, leaders in almost every industry have accepted two completely false assumptions--that change is hard, and that engagement drives results. Those beliefs have inspired expensive attempts to shield employees from change, involve them in high-level decision-making, and keep them happy with endless “satisfaction surveys” and workplace perks. But what these engagement programs actually do, Cy Wakeman says, is inflate expectations and sow unhappiness, leaving employees unprepared to adapt to even minor changes necessary to the organization’s survival. Rather than driving performance and creating efficiencies, these programs fuel entitlement and drama, costing millions in time and profit. It is high time to reinvent leadership thinking. Stop worrying about your employees’ happiness, and start worrying about their accountability. Cy Wakeman teaches you how to hire “emotionally inexpensive” people, solicit only the opinions you need, and promote self-awareness in your whole team. No Ego disposes with unproven HR maxims, and instead offers a complete plan to turn your office from a den of discontent to a happy, productive place.