How To Change Your Personality

From cognitive neuroscientist Dr. Christian Jarrett, a fascinating book exploring the science of personality and how we can change ourselves for the better. What if you could exploit the plasticity of personality to change yourself in specific ways? Would you choose to become less neurotic? More self-disciplined? Less shy? Until now, we’ve been told that we’re stuck with the personality we were born with: The introvert will never break out of their shell, the narcissist will be forever trapped gazing into the mirror. In Be Who You Want, Dr. Christian Jarrett takes us on a thrilling journey, as he not only explores the ways that life changes us, but shows how we can deliberately shape our personalities to influence the course of our lives. Dr. Jarrett draws on the latest research to provide evidence-based ways to change each of the main five personality traits, including how to become more emotionally stable, extraverted, and open-minded. Dr. Jarrett features compelling stories of people who have achieved profound personality change such as a gang-leader turned youth role model, a drug addict turned ultra-runner, and a cripplingly shy teenager turned Hollywood mega-star. He also delves into the upsides of the so-called Dark Triad of personality traits—narcissism, Machiavellianism, and psychopathy—and how we might exploit their advantages without ourselves going over to the dark side. Filled with quizzes and interactive exercises to help us better understand the various aspects of our personalities, life stories, and passions, Be Who You Want will appeal to anyone who has ever felt constrained by how they've been characterized and wants to pursue lasting change.

That moment when you realize that the person you are is not a person you like - it's a tough pill to swallow, to say the least. Believe it or not, this is actually a good thing, and it's important to decide to take action. Clearly you're serious about making a change, and change is commendable. Change is also natural. Remember, we're actually born to grow and adapt, and it's inevitable that we are going to change over time - our personalities, our bodies, our opinions, etc. So why not do what we can to change ourselves in a good way? This book was written to help individuals, such as you, who are looking to improve their own personalities wherever possible. To help you find confidence and self-esteem even in the aspects of your personality less amenable to change, I'm going to provide you with a step-by-step approach to identifying the elements of your personality that may need some improvement, and how to gradually change them. Also, I'll help you to identify what aspects you may simply be stuck with, and how to make the most of them. Depending on how much you're truly willing to work on yourself, the end-result will fall somewhere between a personality makeover and a personality revolution. Let's get started!

Most of us feel “stuck with ourselves” at one time or another – and that negative aspects of our personality are deeply ingrained from childhood or genetics so therefore cannot be altered. But new studies have shown that changing aspects of your personality IS possible, giving new hope to anyone who wants to improve results in personal, family, business, and civic relationships. Based on the latest information from the fields of neuroscience and psychology, Dr. Gary Small presents a proven program anyone can use to assess their strengths and weaknesses, and then work on changing their negatives to positives. Small provides step-by-step advice that can show results in as little as 30 days. SNAP covers the difference between genetic personality traits and how your family experiences and the community you grow up in influences your personality – the key aspects of social programming. He then explains how it is possible to “reboot” your personality in order to become a more positive person., or to improve other aspects of personality such as being an introvert versus an extravert. Included is a self-assessment that readers can also use with friends and family. Also covered will be choosing and working the right psychotherapists, the upside and drawbacks of medications and alternative holistic therapies.

Can your job change your personality? While traditionally personality has been considered fixed and stable, recent thinking indicates that this is not the case. Personality can be changed by various work and vocational experiences, such as employment conditions, career roles, job characteristics and training or interventions. Drawing on a wide array of research in the field, Wang and Wu provide a conceptual overview on how personality can be changed at work by societal, organisational and job-related factors, while considering how individuals can take an active approach in changing their personality at work.

Psychologist and bestselling author Benjamin Hardy, PhD, debunks the pervasive myths about personality that prevent us from learning—and provides bold strategies for personal transformation In Personality Isn’t Permanent, Dr. Benjamin Hardy draws on psychological research to demolish the popular misconception that personality—a person’s consistent attitudes and behaviors—is innate and unchanging. Hardy liberates us from the limiting belief that our “true selves” are to be discovered, and shows how we can intentionally create our desired selves and achieve amazing goals instead. He offers practical, science-based advice to for personal-reinvention, including: • Why personality tests such as Myers-Briggs and Enneagram are not only psychologically destructive but are no more scientific than horoscopes • Why you should never be the “former” anything--because defining yourself by your past successes is just as damaging to growth as being haunted by past failures • How to design your current identity based on your desired future self and make decisions here-and-now through your new identity • How to reframe traumatic and painful experiences into a fresh narrative supporting your future success • How to become confident enough to define your own life’s purpose • How to create a network of “empathetic witnesses” who actively encourage you through the highs and lows of extreme growth • How to enhance your subconscious to overcome addictions and limiting patterns • How redesign your environment to pull you toward your future, rather than keep you stuck in the past • How to tap into what psychologists call “pull motivation” by narrowing your focus on a single, definable, and compelling outcome The book includes true stories of intentional self-transformation—such as Vanessa O’Brien, who quit her corporate job and set the Guinness World Record for a woman climbing the highest peak on every continent in the fastest time; Andre Norman, who became a Harvard fellow after serving a fourteen-year prison sentence; Ken Arlen, who instantly quit smoking by changing his identity narrative; and Hardy himself, who transcended his childhood in a broken home, surrounded by issues of addiction and mental illness, to earn his PhD and build a happy family. Filled with strategies for reframing your past and designing your future, Personality Isn’t Permanent is a guide to breaking free from the past and becoming the person you want to be.

"Kick bad mental habits and toughen yourself up."—Inc. Master your mental strength—revolutionary new strategies that work for everyone from homemakers to soldiers and teachers to CEOs. Everyone knows that regular exercise and weight training lead to physical strength. But how do we strengthen ourselves mentally for the truly tough times? And what should we do when we face these challenges? Or as psychotherapist Amy Morin asks, what should we avoid when we encounter adversity? Through her years counseling others and her own experiences navigating personal loss, Morin realized it is often the habits we cannot break that are holding us back from true success and happiness. Indulging in self-pity, agonizing over things beyond our control, obsessing over past events, resenting the achievements of others, or expecting immediate positive results holds us back. This list of things mentally strong people don't do resonated so much with readers that when it was picked up by Forbes.com it received ten million views. Now, for the first time, Morin expands upon the thirteen things from her viral post and shares her tried-and-true practices for increasing mental strength. Morin writes with searing honesty, incorporating anecdotes from her work as a college psychology instructor and psychotherapist as well as personal stories about how she bolstered her own mental strength when tragedy threatened to consume her. Increasing your mental strength can change your entire attitude. It takes practice and hard work, but with Morin's specific tips, exercises, and troubleshooting advice, it is possible to not only fortify your mental muscle but also drastically improve the quality of your life.

The bestselling author of Traffic and You May Also Like now offers a thought-provoking, playful investigation into the transformative joys that come with starting something new, no matter one's age.

"Traditionally, scientists have emphasized what they call the first and second natures of personality--genes and culture, respectively. But today the field of personality science has moved well beyond the nature vs. nurture debate. In Who Are You, Really? Dr. Brian Little presents a distinctive view of how personality shapes our lives--and why this matters. Little makes the case for a third nature to the human condition--the pursuit of personal projects, idealistic dreams, and creative ventures that shape both people's lives and their personalities. Little uncovers what personality science has been discovering about the role of personal projects, revealing how this new concept can help people better understand themselves and shape their lives"--Provided by publisher.