I Can T Get Over My Partner S Affair

Until now, couples facing the dilemma of deciding whether or not to stay in an unhappy marriage had three options: individual or couples therapy, separation, or divorce. Should I Stay or Go? provides these couples with a fourth option--the Controlled Separation (CS). CS is a compassionate process that is designed to build respect and foster advocacy between spouses. The book explains the CS guidelines, including the 12 fundamental issues that must be resolved for a workable, orderly separation. It also contains sample contracts, along with helpful checklists and self-assessment tools.

You'd think if someone was caught having an affair that they'd make a full confession. You'd think they would know if they wanted to stay or leave. You'd think they would be able to explain why they were unfaithful. You'd think if they promised to 'fight' for their marriage that their actions would match their words. But for lots of people recovery is not so straightforward and takes far longer than they would have imagined on discovery day. Sometimes the person who has been unfaithful vows to do 'anything' to make it better but the next day sabotages everything. Sometimes the discoverer of the infidelity is constantly besieged by horrible images or overcome with anxiety - even though they want to move forward. Sometimes the betrayal has been so great - several affairs, hook-up sites, prostitutes or cheating with a friend - that recovery is much harder. Alternatively, the couple's marriage was so close or they were childhood sweethearts that the pain is doubled and quadrupled. If you can't get over your partner's affair, it is easy to think that the pain is too great and you need to split up. However, Andrew G. Marshall has spent thirty years working with couples in crisis and has a message of hope. 'It's not that there's something fundamentally wrong with your marriage but you have been so profoundly hurt that you need extra help and to learn special skills to find a way round blockages.' In this compassionate book, he shares: 50 case histories so you don't feel so alone in your struggle. How to diagnose why you're feeling stuck. The common myths about infidelity that make recovery harder. How to communicate better with your partner and stop arguments going round in circles. How to turn the pain of infidelity into something positive.

There are few things in life more traumatic than discovering that your partner is having an affair. You are not only coping with the pain and anger but also the sense that your partner is a stranger. How could someone you love, and thought that you knew, treat you like this? How can you ever trust your partner again? Don't panic. Millions of ordinary men and women have trodden the same path and come out the other end with not only their love restored but a significantly stronger and better relationship. Whether you are the discoverer of the affair or whether you were discovered, Marshall offers guidance and support, and explains: The seven stages that couples move through from discovery to recovery. What makes people more vulnerable to affairs. The eight types of infidelity and how understanding your partner's affair is key to deciding whether you should stay or go. How to stop your imagination running wild and your brain from going into meltdown. Why some couples emerge stronger and why others get derailed from the recovery process. With over thirty years' experience as a marital therapist, Marshall draws on hundreds of case studies and provides practical, compassionate and sensible advice to keep your relationship alive. As he says, "It might sound strange, but you can turn this crisis from the worst thing that has happened to your relationship into one of the best.

This fifteenth anniversary edition helps couples identify and overcome the most common habits that destroy the feeling of love.

When a husband tells his wife, or she suspects, that he no longer ioves her she may feel as though her world is ending but in this positive and powerful book, marital therapist Andrew G. Marshall has a message of hope. It is possible to turn a relationship around and emerge with a stronger bond. In Part One, he explains: How to get to the bottom of why he's fallen out of love. What's really going through his mind. Why your husband has turned into a stranger. The signs that show if he's depressed and what to do about it. How to build better communication and start improving your relationship. In Part Two, he discusses how to tell if there's another woman and gauge whether she really is a threat, including: The six types of other woman, from 'a spark' to 'the love of his life'. Tailored strategies for dealing with each type. Five worst and best reactions after uncovering what's really going on. How to keep calm even when provoked. How to combat the poison that she's slipping into your relationship. When to keep fighting and when to make a tactical withdrawal

One of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent infidelity and, if it happens, recover and heal from it. You’re right to be cautious when you hear these words: “I’m telling you, we’re just friends.” Good people in good marriages are having affairs. The workplace and the Internet have become fertile breeding grounds for “friendships” that can slowly and insidiously turn into love affairs. Yet you can protect your relationship from emotional or sexual betrayal by recognizing the red flags that mark the stages of slipping into an improper, dangerous intimacy that can threaten your marriage.