Making Intimate Connections

This is the first book to apply Dr. Ellis's famous Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy principles to intimate relationships. The seven guidelines for better couple communication offered in this user-friendly guide emphasize non-blaming acceptance, integrity, mutual support, appreciation, replacing irrational ideas and expectations with realistic attitudes. An effective resource for couples seeking greater closeness, intimate partners who are willing to make "unilateral" changes, marriage and family therapists -- a breakthrough relationship guide from the father of rational therapy."

Creating a happy, lifelong marriage is about much more than physical compatibility. It's about a lifestyle of 24-7 intimacy that bonds couples in a mutually satisfying relationship. In The Intimate Connection, bestselling marriage expert Dr. Kevin Leman explores key secrets to the love life couples crave. He helps readers - understand each other's needs, backgrounds, and personalities (and how those factors influence every marital interaction) - talk so their spouse really listens - turn negative game-playing into positive behaviors that help couples grow closer - create deep, long-lasting intimacy that's divorce-proof Whether couples are new to marriage or have been married a long time, Dr. Leman's time-tested strategies will create the kind of exciting intimacy, mutual respect, and fulfilling communication that will keep husbands and wives in each other's arms for a lifetime.

In 2014, 33-year- old Mandy Len Catron went on a date with an acquaintance. They decided to try an experiment: inspired by a study designed to create romantic feelings, Mandy and Mark spent the evening asking each other 36 increasingly intimate questions, wondering if it would lead to them falling in love. In How to Fall in Love with Anyone, this experiment is Catron’s starting point for investigating what it means to love someone and to be loved, and how we present our love to the world. What makes love last? Can love ever work the way it seems to in films, books and social media? Is there a “right” way to fall in love? In these candid, charming and wise essays, Catron blends memoir with cultural and social commentary on the psychology, biology, history and literature of love. How to Fall in Love with Anyone is a deeply personal, yet universal investigation into the one thing we all want—or think we want—more than anything. Includes “To Fall in Love with Anyone, Do This”, one of the most popular essays to appear in the New York Times’ “Modern Love” column “In our age of total romantic confusion, Mandy Len Catron is a voice of good sense, warm humor, and consoling wisdom. Through the lens of her own relationships, she teaches us—with a deft, convincing intelligence—some of the vital moves in the art of love.” —Alain de Botton, internationally bestselling author of How Proust Can Change Your Life and The Course of Love MANDY LEN CATRON lives in Vancouver, British Columbia. Her writing has appeared in the New York Times and the Washington Post. She writes about love and love stories at The Love Story Project, and teaches English and creative writing at the University of British Columbia.

Based on twenty-five years of clinical experience and groundbreaking research on more than 1,000 individuals, Feeling Good Together presents an entirely new theory of why we have so much trouble getting along with each other, and provides simple, powerful techniques to make relationships work. We all have someone we can’t get along with—whether it’s a friend or colleague who complains constantly; a relentlessly critical boss; an obnoxious neighbor; a teenager who pouts and slams doors, all the while insisting she’s not upset; or a loving, but irritating spouse. In Feeling Good Together, Dr. David Burns presents Cognitive Interpersonal Therapy, a radical new approach that will help you transform troubled, conflicted relationships into successful, happy ones. Dr. Burns’ method for improving these relationships is easy and surprisingly effective. In Feeling Good Together, you’ll learn how to: - Stop pointing fingers at everyone else and start looking at yourself. - Pinpoint the exact cause of the problem with any person you’re not getting along with. - And solve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly. Filled with helpful examples and brilliant, user-friendly tools such as the Relationship Satisfaction Test, the Relationship Journal, the Five Secrets of Effective Communication, the Intimacy Exercise, and more, Feeling Good Together will help you enjoy far more loving and satisfying relationships with the people you care about. You deserve rewarding, intimate relationships. Feeling Good Together will show you how.

Intimate Connections Strengthening the Bond of Love and Understanding Between Couples Discover the secrets to creating a secure and loving environment for your partner with this book. Learn effective techniques to listen attentively and make them feel cherished, relaxed, and understood. Additionally, this book has 41 hands on opportunities to deepen your intimate connection with love and understanding. Have you ever found yourself using or hearing the words "You don't understand me" It has the potential to transform to "Thank you for understanding me" Have you ever found yourself expressing or being exposed to the statement "You just don't get it" It has the ability to evolve to "I'm glad you got it" Have you ever found yourself in a situation where you've spoken or been privy to the words "I don't feel connected" It has the capability to grow to "I love our connection" Have you ever uttered or listened to the phrase "I don't know how I feel" It has the opportunity to be reshaped to "Thanks for helping me to understand how I feel" Have you ever expressed or been told "I want quality time" It has the potential to be transformed into "I appreciate this quality time" Have you ever vocalized or been a recipient of the remark "You don't hear what I am saying" It has the chance to become "It's nice to be heard" For those seeking a path to wellness in their relationship, this book is intended for you. If you've ever found yourself in the frustrating situation of feeling like your words are falling on deaf ears or stepping on emotional landmines, then this book is exactly what you need. Just like how certain foods can provide comfort and relief when you're dehydrated and ill, this book will serve as a refreshing journey that will quench the thirst in your relationship, providing it with the nourishment it needs to thrive and making it feel revitalized and rejuvenated. This book is for individuals who are not in need of a solution but can still reap the benefits. You don't need to be going through the frustrating experience of feeling unheard or the explosive experience of stepping on a metaphorical landmine in order to make progress in the book. Just like how certain foods can provide hydration and nourishment when you're dehydrated and ill, these ingredients can also benefit your body to thrive. Even if you already have a healthy relationship, it's still beneficial to consume these elements to maintain good nourishment, hydration, and overall well-being in your relationship. Instead of waiting until something goes wrong, take the opportunity to nourish your relationship through this journey. By doing so, you not only prevent potential issues from arising but also enhance your relationship to make it even more fulfilling and rewarding. The step-by-step process that will demonstrate how to effectively implement this strategy for both these relationships. This book has pages that will guide you on how to establish an emotional connection and build a deep level of intimacy with your partner in 4 simple steps. The remaining pages of the book will provide you with numerous opportunities to practice and cultivate a beautifully intimate relationship with your partner in the months ahead. It's like a continuous process of growth and improvement, allowing you to strengthen your bond and create a lasting connection. With this book, you'll gain the tools to emotionally connect with your partner and create a truly intimate bond. Don't settle for a surface-level relationship - take the first step towards a deeper connection today. Let this book guide you towards a fulfilling and loving partnership.

“Over a decade after its publication, one book on dating has people firmly in its grip.” —The New York Times We already rely on science to tell us what to eat, when to exercise, and how long to sleep. Why not use science to help us improve our relationships? In this revolutionary book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller scientifically explain why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle. Discover how an understanding of adult attachment—the most advanced relationship science in existence today—can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways: • Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back. • Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. • Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving. Attached guides readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.