Narcissistic Confrontations

Be Prepared For Your Next Encounter With The Bully In Your Family Or Church...In this long-awaited sequel to Narcissistic Predicaments, award-winning author Sister Renee Pittelli not only teaches more lessons on handling abusive birth-families, but expands the discussion to include abusive church families as well, with invaluable insights and information about phony “Christians” and toxic churches, the biblically in-error “Christian” abuser and the ignorant, rude and presumptuous Spiritual Bully. Narcissistic Confrontations is chock full of eye-opening revelations and helpful strategies, including: *The Narcissist’s 35 Rules of Engagement *12 Examples of juvenile behavior and mentality in narcissistic confrontations *All Narcissists Are Liars, and the things they lie about *Every interaction with a narcissist is a competition, and only the narcissist is allowed to win *The 3 Basic Principles of Selective Amnesia *3 Things that prove “I Can’t Help It” is a lie *What happens when you go to counseling with a narcissist *8 Ways to make a narcissist prove he’s really changed *The Business Deal with the hidden clauses *Making abuse sound like a good thing *How to spot and handle a child of Satan who is pretending to be a child of God *When they sense they’re losing their grip on you, 5 Surprising Tactics they use to keep you attached *37 Typical Steps in the decline and fall of our abusive relationships *How to handle the Silent Treatment, ultimatums, being “second fiddle,” getting disowned, and other narcissistic “punishments” *The Narcissistic Nuclear Meltdown *4 Secret Ways to “change” a narcissist *How to set a trap for the “spy” in your midst, and what to do with her once you figure out who she is *14 Promises to make to ourselves that will help us recognize toxic people and choose healthy relationships from now on *Luke 17:3 Ministries’ Abuser/Narcissist/Psychopath FAQ. In Narcissistic Confrontations you will learn about “normal” conversations with narcissists versus confrontations, why narcissists manipulate, how they use favors you do for them to ruin your reputation, narcissistic projection, narcissistic group dynamics, recognizing toxic people and groups, some clarification on what “lacking empathy” really means, how to tell if listening to someone else’s advice is a healthy or unhealthy pattern for you, what happens when narcissists team up with each other or with psychopaths, how to tell if it’s really “old age” or a “mental illness” that makes someone abuse you, the difference between “judging” and “rebuking,” Nonsense Statements and other abusive battle tactics, what happens in our relationships when we start changing, and much, much more. Narcissistic Confrontations prepares you for battle with family and church narcissists, so that you will no longer be caught off-guard, blindsided and manipulated by the wiles of the evil among us. Written with humor, compassion and wisdom, and filled with empowering scriptural references, this book provides loads of effective strategies and useful step-by-step directions, as well as support, validation, peace and freedom for those who find themselves targeted by ungodly birth-families and church families.

***Winner Reader Views 2nd Place Reviewers Choice Award, Religion Category BE PREPARED FOR YOUR NEXT ENCOUNTER WITH THE BULLY IN YOUR FAMILY OR CHURCH In this Revised Edition of her award-winning book Narcissistic Confrontations, Sister Renee Pittelli will teach you about abusive battle tactics, recognizing poisonous people, toxic group dynamics and helpful strategies for handling toxic birth-families as well as abusive church families, with invaluable insights and information about phony "Christians" and toxic churches, the biblically in-error "Christian" abuser and the ignorant, rude and presumptuous Spiritual Bully, including: *The Narcissist's 35 Rules of Engagement *The 3 Basic Principles of Selective Amnesia *3 Things that prove "I Can't Help It" is a lie *What happens when you go to counseling with a narcissist *How to spot and handle a child of Satan who is pretending to be a child of God *When they sense they're losing their grip on you, 5 Surprising Tactics they use to keep you attached *How to deal with the Silent Treatment, ultimatums, being "second fiddle," getting disowned, and other narcissistic "punishments" *How to set a trap for the "spy" in your midst, and what to do with her once you figure out who she is *The Narcissistic Nuclear Meltdown *4 Secret Ways to "change" a narcissist *14 Promises to make to ourselves that will help us recognize toxic people and choose healthy relationships from now on You will learn why narcissists manipulate, what happens when narcissists team up with each other or with psychopaths, how to tell if it's really "old age" or a "mental illness" that makes someone abusive, the difference between "judging" and "rebuking," Nonsense Statements, what happens in our toxic relationships when we start changing, and much, much more. Narcissistic Confrontations prepares you for battle with family and church narcissists, so that you will no longer be caught off-guard, blindsided and manipulated by the wiles of the evil among us. Written with humor, compassion and wisdom, and filled with empowering scriptural references, this book provides loads of effective strategies and useful step-by-step directions, as well as support, validation, peace and freedom for those who find themselves targeted by ungodly birth-families and church families.

First Published in 1981. Routledge is an imprint of Taylor & Francis, an informa company.

This volume presents a fully integrated developmental approach that not only differentiates between varying etiologies of the narcissistic and borderline disorders but also provides a detailed guide to effective treatment.

PLEASING GOD WHILE PROTECTING YOURSELF Adult Children of narcissistic families often find themselves in predicaments that people with normal families never have to face. They spend a lifetime being stuck in no-win situations, forced to make uncomfortable choices, and then being made to live through the consequences with no support and no appreciation. Offering encouragement, comfort and wisdom, and filled with helpful suggestions, step-by-step guides, and just-right scripture verses, Narcissistic Predicaments is exactly what you need to help you set boundaries and free yourself in accordance with biblical principles. Including The 21 Rules of No Contact and 102 Questions to Ask Yourself When Deciding Whether to End an Abusive Relationship, here are the answers you’ve been looking for. When you try to set boundaries, have you been accused of not being a “good Christian,” because: *You are not honoring your father and mother? *You have to “forgive and forget,” even though your relatives refuse to stop their abuse? *You must forgive unrepentant evildoers because Jesus said “Father forgive them, for they know not what they do?” *You are taking revenge by enforcing consequences? *You have to “love your enemies?” In Narcissistic Predicaments, the author will help you let go of the guilt, learn effective strategies for protecting yourself, and find out what the Bible really says about dilemmas such as: *Should you let your estranged relatives have contact with your children? *Dealing with the family meddler who tries to intervene between you and your abuser *Working in the family business *What to expect when you upset the apple cart by getting married *What to do about holidays, weddings, and family celebrations *Does your abuser’s apology automatically cover those who took her side against you? *What to expect from estranged relatives who want to drag you back in *Reconciling on your terms, not theirs *If you leave, who will take care of your abusive parents in their old age? *Visiting a dying abuser *When your abuser or estranged relative dies- funerals, condolences, obituaries Just as a single narcissistic abuser refuses to allow others their autonomy apart from him, the narcissistic family does not see and accept its members as separate individuals. The uniqueness of each person and their differences are not celebrated. Instead, individuality and free-thinking are perceived as threatening and not allowed. Anyone who breaks from the group mentality will be shut up or shunned. There is one way of thinking, one opinion for all. If you offend one of them, you offend them all. If you set a boundary and say something to one, it’s as if you said it to the whole clan. If one is mad at you, they’re all mad at you. If one isn’t speaking to you, they’re all not speaking to you. And if one suddenly decides that they are speaking to you again, then everybody is speaking to you again. The only wild card they never consider is whether you will want to speak to them again. They simply assume that you will passively go along with whatever the group decides, just like all of them do. In the Bible, God instructs his children on how he wants them to relate to and live in peace with each other. He is not instructing the children of God on how to be loving and forgiving toward, live in peace with, and maintain relationships with the children of Satan. As Christians, we are to take up the full armor of God and fight the dark forces of evil, not peacefully co-exist with them. A breath of fresh air for Adult Children of abusive families, this compelling book will help you find the peace our heavenly Father promised you, His beloved child.

This book addresses the problem of toxic leadership in Christian contexts. Toxic leadership behaviors of narcissistic and obsessive-compulsive leaders will be emphasized. To counteract toxic Christian leadership, this book proposes a leadership development model, called formational leadership, which is based mostly on Wesleyan spirituality, but also includes monastic and Pentecostal spiritualities. Formational leadership is an eclectic leadership development model that includes components of transformational, authentic, and primal leadership approaches. Formational leadership emphasizes the spiritual, emotional, and ethical development processes in the leader and includes an analysis of orthokardia, orthodynamis, and orthopraxis. These components have a circular relationship with one another. Orthokardia includes the concepts of spiritual and emotional maturity that a Christian leader needs to develop in order to become an ethical and effective leader. Orthodynamis includes right power and influence motives based on Christian affections that should inform formational leadership. Orthopraxis refers to "right" and "just" leadership behaviors informed by Wesley's social holiness and justice values that need to be adopted as organizational core values. The implications of these components for leadership development are outlined in chapters 4-6 that include practical steps for helping toxic leaders change their dysfunctional and harmful intentions and behaviors.

In today's age, narcissistic people seem everywhere. They may be our family, friends, coworkers, or even partners. But how to spot and deal with them? And how to heal from their abuse? In this book, you will learn about narcissistic individuals, their traits, and their behaviors. You will also learn how to spot and deal with them. And how to heal from their abuse. Get this book now! Newly updated book.

Patients that have significant narcissistic personality pathology are challenging to most therapists. Student therapists often find that treating such patients is particularly difficult. Not only do such patients challenge the therapist's conceptualization and empathic skills, but they also evoke strong feelings toward the patient, a phenomenon known as countertransference, which can be personally unnerving. However, countertransference can be used as a tool in better understanding one's patient and how to best intervene with him or her. This book sets out to accomplish three major objectives. First, it describes narcissistic pathology from a psychoanalytic and psychodynamic perspective, which allows therapists to have a meaningful framework from which to think about their patients' problems and work with them. Second, it discusses how countertransference can be understood as a useful therapeutic tool. Third, it presents four case studies from doctoral students in various stages of their clinical training and how they came to understand and work with their patients in therapeutically effective ways by managing and understanding their countertransference reactions. In the end, it is hoped that the reader will see that, while they may be challenging at times, narcissistic patients can be effectively treated if therapists have a meaningful theoretical framework from which to think about their patients and can become comfortable with their own inner lives as they relate to their patients.