Not Quite Healed

How are sexual abuse survivors to overcome the challenges they are sure to face? Finding strength in community with other survivors is one key to recovery. In Not Quite Healed, two survivors join forces to share insight and encouragement on the issues that challenge them most. After a candid discussion about each issue, the authors provide a self-affirming statement that men can study, memorize, and recite on their darkest days.

This helpful guide reveals how those who have been emotionally abused can overcome the past and rebuild their self-image.

"But what about me?" "Is it possible to go one day without dealing with the survivor's issues?" "Will we ever make love again?" "Will the survivor love me in the end?" "How do I know if I should throw in the towel?" Based on in-depth interviews and her workshops for partners across the country, Laura Davis offers practical advice and encouragement to all partners—girlfriends, boyfriends, spouses, and lovers—trying to support the survivors in their lives while tending to their own needs along the way. She shows couples how to deepen compassion, improve communication, and develop an understanding of healing as a shared activity. Addressing partners' most important questions, Allies in Healing covers: The Basics—answers common questions about sexual abuse. Allies in Healing—introduces key concepts of working and growing together. My Needs and Feelings—teaches partners to recognize, value, and express their own needs. Dealing with Crisis—includes strategies for handling suicidal feelings, regression, and hopelessness. Intimacy and Communication—offers practical advice on dealing with distancing, control, trust, and fighting. Sex—provides guidelines for coping with flashbacks, lack of desire, differences in sexual needs, and frustration. Family lssues—suggests a range of ideas for interacting with the survivor's family. Partners' Stories—explores the struggles, triumphs, and courage of eight partners.

Today, men and women are running around empty, trying to fill a void with addictions to work, busyness, alcohol, drugs, high debt, pornography, serial dead-end relationships, and sex without commitment. My book speaks about the futility of this empty search and helps you find peace and meaning beyond yourself. You Cant Heal a Wound by Saying Its Not There is about recognizing the wounds we all have from growing up that cripple us until we face them and overcome them. Written in a case study format and interspersed with poignant illustrations and memoirs from the authors life, this book helps people identify what they need to do to grow up and become all that God intended so that they can use their life to help someone else be better. I have learned much from people who have taught me over the years in private psychotherapy practice. I have also learned much from people I have served in churches and from our church systems that sometimes leave people marginalized. Thus, I have a passion for and am drawn to those who have been alienated for one reason or another from church and institutionalized religion. With that said, I am currently planting a new church with outreach to people who feel disconnected from God. (www.connectionscommunitychurchirvine.net)

Mick shares how to let go of your past and to learn to forgive so that you don't live with regrets or resentments. His story has inspired thousands of people to find the answers they are looking for and to lead positive and healthier lives, free from the past. Learning to live in the present moment allows freedom from depression, anxiety, and fears. Inner peace was Mick's number one focus; once he achieved that inner peace, he made it his life's purpose to help others find peace as well. Loving and accepting yourself is the key to happiness. No matter where you are in the world or who you are, you can be touched by this inspiring story of how he has taken all of the challenges in his life and turned them into something that is positive and inspirational. Mick believes in you, and now it is time for you to believe in yourself!

Scarcely had the publisher have my first healing book in hand when the Lord began to add to the revelation contained in that first book. That divine information has now grown into another book of 263 pages. I do not anticipate a third, but as we assimilate the healing realities of these two books into our inner being, there will be no need for a third. Containing hundreds of Scripture passages, along with some very enlightening church history regarding divine healing, this volume makes it clear that supernatural health belongs to believers now!