Say What You Really Mean

Find your voice, speak your truth, listen deeply—a guide to having more meaningful and mindful conversations through nonviolent communication We spend so much of our lives talking to each other, but how much are we simply running on automatic—relying on old habits and hoping for the best? Are we able to truly hear others and speak our mind in a clear and kind way, without needing to get defensive or go on the attack? In this groundbreaking synthesis of mindfulness, somatics, and Nonviolent Communication, Oren Jay Sofer offers simple yet powerful practices to develop healthy, effective, and satisfying ways of communicating. The techniques in Say What You Mean will help you to: • Feel confident during conversation • Stay focused on what really matters in an interaction • Listen for the authentic concerns behind what others say • Reduce anxiety before and during difficult conversations • Find nourishment in day-to-day interactions “Unconscious patterns of communication create separation not only in our personal lives, they also perpetuate patterns of misunderstanding and violence that pervade our world. With clarity and great insight, Oren Jay Sofer offers teachings and practices that train us to speak and listen with presence, courage, and an open heart.” —Tara Brach, author of Radical Acceptance and True Refuge

Most of us claim to value honesty and openness in communication, but we often settle for insincerity and ambiguity. We valiantly try to say what we mean, all the while using words, attitudes, and expressions that sabotage the real message. Results can be frustrating, or even devastating. A recent workplace report claims that 25% of the business sector experience communication problems on the job. The actual percentage is probably much higher. Most large companies recruiting and hiring employees are looking for effective communication as one of the top three skills, in addition to being a team player and having job expertise. Knowing what to say, as well as how and when to say it, are critical factors in communicating about important issues. Finding the courage to give an honest response can give you a bad case of nerves or insomnia. Yet, keeping quiet or minimizing a message can be potentially problematic. In romantic relationships, avoiding sensitive topics may seem like the right thing to do. But chances are women are lighting the fuse to a cache of fireworks that’s bound to explode sooner or later, ruining any chance of a truly meaningful relationship. Frank and focused discussion can build positive interactions and mutually respectful relationships. Say What You Really Mean! How Women Can Learn to Speak Up offers hope for improving personal and professional communication for those who struggle to find the right words: Why being direct is respectful, not rude How silence plays a key role when used appropriately Knowing when to listen and when to speak up Bridging gender differences Using a message plan to get results Saying “no” without causing friction This book has grown out of years of research, observation, and practice of effective communication in college teaching, and from consulting and training in the business world. The author’s articles and workshops have helped people learn how to become more articulate and enjoy satisfying relationships based on meaningful conversations. The book features: Anecdotes and observations from real-life situations Statistics on communication problems in personal and professional relationships Case histories from actual companies (names changed) Tips from employers, employees, parents, and spouses who rely on clear communication for occupational and relational needs Inspirational quotes Self-quizzes

Shit on Rye is an outrageous dictionary style comedy of all the crazy things that women say. Its in your face and relentless with the dirty truth of how women really feel. Want to give the man in your life a few helpful hints? Or perhaps just a gag gift for your girlfriends? Either way this is one book you won't be able to put down.

In this classic collection of wide-ranging and interdisciplinary essays, Stanley Cavell explores a remarkably broad range of philosophical issues from politics and ethics to the arts and philosophy. The essays explore issues as diverse as the opposing approaches of 'analytic' and 'Continental' philosophy, modernism, Wittgenstein, abstract expressionism and Schoenberg, Shakespeare on human needs, the difficulties of authorship, Kierkegaard and post-Enlightenment religion. Presented in a fresh twenty-first century series livery, and including a specially commissioned preface, written by Stephen Mulhall, illuminating its continuing importance and relevance to philosophical enquiry, this influential work is now available for a new generation of readers.

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Learn to strengthen your communication skills and handle difficult conversations with confidence in this guide from the author of Power Phrases. Research shows ninety percent of us stay silent in situations that call for strong words. But while many of us don’t want to rock the boat, author Meryl Runion explains that some boats need to be rocked—provided that it happens for the right reasons, at the right time, and in the right way. In Speak Srong, Runion helps you know when it’s time to speak up, overcome resistance to unwelcome truths, establish and implement boundaries, create new communication standards, supercharge your message, elevate the quality of your conversations, overcome destructive communication habits, and put your best foot forward sincerely. Runion’s “PowerPhrases!” book series has helped over a quarter million readers find the perfect phrases to communicate clearly. Speak Strong is the perfect “next step” for those who rely on communication skills to build successful careers and relationships.