Self Assertion For Women A New Edition

"Self-Assertion for Women gives practical advice with realistic simple dialogues, step-by-step exercises, and illustrations from Dr. Butler's own practice. It shows how women can achieve a feminism openly and effectively without fearing ridicule or guilt; lays the groundwork for full self-realization; and offers proven solutions to common pitfalls that hinder women, such as making excuses, manipulating, overexplaining, and overapologizing. This edition contains a new chapter that shows women how to avoid being a victim by communicating about money, dealing with sexual harassment, and functioning alone in professional and social situations; it also provides additional case histories and an index to make the book easier to use in individual or group work. The principles outlined in Self-Assertion for Women apply to all women -- professionals, students, office workers, homemakers -- and to almost any situation requiring direct, effective, positive action. This is the single best guide to success without guilt in both career and personal relationships."--Back cover.

Dr. Pamela Butler is a Clinical Psychologist who has been in practice since 1972 in Mill Valley, California. She was born in Tuscaloosa Alabama and graduated Phi Beta Kappa from the University of Alabama in 1967. She received her Ph.D. degree in 1971. Dr. Butler came to California to complete a Postdoctoral Fellowship at the University of California at Berkeley. She began working for the Behavior Therapy Institute in Sausalito, California where she conducted assertiveness training groups. This led to her first book, Self Assertion for Women, which has sold over 100,000 copies. Realizing that individuals in her assertive training groups spoke to themselves in ways they would never speak to another person led to her second book Talking to Yourself. Along with the bestseller, Feeling Good, it was among the first books to be published for the general audience on the newly emerging field of cognitive therapy. This book sold well and was also published in French, Japanese and Chinese.

Shan Rees and Roderick Graham show how assertion techniques can be used to enhance your daily life and to improve effectiveness both personally and professionally. A wealth of examples and exercises helps you to assess and improve your own assertion skills - how to get in touch with what you want, how to value your own opinions, how to deal with rejection and criticism, and how to build self-esteem and confidence.

Isn’t it time you took a stand? Many women struggle with assertiveness, but if you’re prone to anxiety and avoidance, it is especially difficult. Grounded in attachment theory, this essential guide will help you identify your thoughts and feelings, balance your emotions, communicate your needs, and set healthy boundaries to improve your life. When you’re assertive, you’re able to communicate your needs and wishes clearly while respecting yourself and anyone else involved in the interaction. But when you aren’t assertive, you may stop yourself from saying anything when your needs aren’t being met, or end up lashing out in hostile or hurtful ways. People with different attachment styles struggle with being assertive for different reasons, and even women with a secure attachment style may have difficulty expressing emotion when faced with challenging circumstances. Using strategies based in mindfulness, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), and dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), The Assertiveness Guide for Women can help you understand the attachment styles that keep you from asserting yourself. You’ll learn about the three communication stances—from the passive Doormat to the aggressive (or passive-aggressive) Sword to the assertive Lantern—and find practical examples that show you how to apply your new communication and emotional awareness skills in your own life. Rather than being caught in a cycle of rumination and regret when you’re unable to express yourself or even acknowledge your own needs, you’ll be ready to assert yourself and get what you want. Whether you’re anxious and overwhelmed by the intensity of your emotions, avoidant and struggle to identify your emotions, or otherwise have difficulty expressing yourself, this book will help you become more aware of your own thoughts and feelings, and empower you to ask for what you need, set boundaries, and speak your truth for a more fulfilling life.

Book Description: Especially, these studies focused on self-assertion as a factor produced the difference in human interactions. As a consequence, following results were obtained. People who asserted themselves clearly were satisfied with their human interactions. In addition, people, who were satisfied with their human interactions, were also satisfied with their groups. Moreover, they tried to achieve their tasks diligently. Therefore, I have suggested the importance of self-assertion with respect to the adjustment to groups. College, Japan. His primary research interests include peer interaction, interpersonal behavior and leadership. His studies have focused on adolescence or early childhood. Recently, in addition, he published a book on childcare. He has also been concerned with adjustment to groups for returnee students or foreigners living in Japan.